I need advice

[littleangelgirl]

Hi so I need advice I really don't know what to do so im a closeted little and no-one knows about I cant go into little space often since im scared someone will see me.I tried to tell one of my friends when we went on a school trip but it didnt end up going as planned the conversation went like this:

 

Me- hey I need to tell you something but you cant tell anyone ok?

 

Friend- okay whats up

 

Me- I'm a little a closeted one to be presice and your actually the 1st person i told

 

Friend- whats a little?

 

Me- Here *hands her my phone with an explanation of what being a little mean* I am still me but I just thought I should tell you since I keep almost slipping into little space here and I didn't want you to think I was weird

 

Friend- *starts laughing* so you act like a little kid grow up if you do that with me I will leave you on your own

 

Me- I thought you were my friend you know what forget it *grabs phone and bag then runs away*

 

Friend- *still laughing in the background*

 

so yeah thats what happened I keep almost slipping into little space at school and I cant do it at home since I haven't moved out yet and I'm scared of getting caught and laughed at again I also cant go out and get things for when I'm little.The thing I need advice on is how I can cope with all this? because I can slip into little space anywhere I slightly slipped earlier today when I was injured but I covered it up.I really dont know what to do please give me your advice.

-Littlelonely-

Edited October 29, 2017 by littlelonely

[meows kohai]

You need better friends.

[Littlest_Bee]

Hi -Littlelonely-,

 

First: Welcome to the community.

 

You seem pretty young and you're still in school. Odds are most of your fellow students are struggling with their identity and fighting to be seen as mature. In that situation it can be hard to deal with a completely new concept (your friend didn't know what a little was) in a respectful way.

Of course you feel hurt by her reaction and need some time to recover. It's easier to find like-minded people online. We are all over the world and I would recommend trying to explore this in a safe manner.

 

Reading stories (about littles and caretakers or just children's stories) seems like a thing that's easy to do. If you load them digitally on your phone or computer nobody could see what it's about.

 

Audio books or plays are great. And a bunch of people love them. You can listen over headphones to feel like someone is reading a story to you and nobody else would know what you are listening to so you're free to choose something appropriate for your little age.

 

Mandalas or colouring books wouldn't necessarily seem weird and they are calming. There are adult ones that are used in therapy for example and if you have e.g. a Disney one at some point that could be easily explained by nostalgia or just grabbing one for kids when there weren't a lot of options.

 

Have a look around the forum for drinking bottles and stuff that doesn't seem too out of place.

A stuffy that you got as a present or that acts as a lucky charm for you wouldn't be out of place to carry around. Just act like it is no big deal (because it isn't).

 

 

When I was a teenager I started babysitting my little brother and playing with him was a socially acceptable outlet. If I acted childish and someone reacted annoyed I could say: "Sorry, I'm still stuck in my babysitting setting." And it wasn't a big deal.

 

Maybe you can get a job as a babysitter? You'd have to be sure, absolutely sure, that you have enough control over yourself to be able to snap back into taking care of the kid whenever that's necessary for this to be an option. But that way you could even make some money while engaging with "kiddie stuff".

 

I don't really have any other ideas at this point but I wish you the best of luck.

[Guest Aces]

Can you schedule time for yourself every day to have little time? Say you go to bed at 10 so around 8:30/9 before bed every night give yourself a routine, take a bath (that’s personal time no one will see) I have a rubber duck that’s a nail brush and played with it a long time in the bath before I even realized what I was doing, listen to fun music on your phone while in the bath and no one will hear you playing with the duck, take time to pick out cute jammies and brush your hair before bed, maybe have a glass of milk and read a story or watch one on YouTube to have some quiet time before sleep, you can color, play a game on your phone, maybe even have video play date with other Little’s (I’m considering doing this) there are games you could chat and do multi player online with other Little’s so you aren’t always alone in little space. But if you are going to play probably best to do it before your bedtime routine or you’ll never go to sleep