Dummy's/Paci's - confused

[DaddyStevie]

Hi everyone,

I'm starting to see something more and more often now so wondering if you Littles can explain for me.

I read quite a few Littles profiles either here or on Tumblr and so many claim their Little age is 3-5, a very common age it seems, but what I don't get is they say they love "paci's" or are pictured with one in their mouth. IRL 3-5 year olds don't have them. Was reading a profile earlier, she claimed to be 6 but loved paci's.

Personally, as a DD looking for a Little, I think 3 and upwards is cute, playful, they can watch animated films and you can tickle fight etc with them, but you can't with a baby, so a paci would be a big turn off for me, I don't mean sexually, just in general, I really don't like seeing an adult with one in their mouth. Yes, it's ok for you to like them etc, and I'm sure lots of DD's dont mind them either. But for me it doesn't quite work/sit right in my mind, can anyone shed light on what seems to be a confused Little state?

[Guest littlelisafrank]

My little age is 4-7. I like pacies. It's a personal preference, much like your preference for no-paci littles. They are really good for me, especially since I grit my teeth a lot. Plus, they're cute. We Littles aren't confused. We just like what we like. Just like Daddies/Mommies/Caregivers/etc.

[Guest Prat]

"But for me it doesn't quite work/sit right in my mind, can anyone shed light on what seems to be a confused Little state?"

 

 

So just because something doing sit right with you means everyone else is confused?..

 

I can try shed some light on what seems to be your confused state. Littles aren't actual children and what is a need for a baby (sucking on a paci) is a desire of a little. As such it's tied to a personality and not the age a little chooses to regress to.

Edited October 28, 2017 by Prat(Praetorian)

[littleghostie]

Honestly, I sucked my thumb until I was ten IRL. I would've loved to have used a paci if I knew what it was back then and how to get one because sucking on my thumb led to some minor issues on my teeth. 

 

And also all of what the two others above said.

[Guest SUeB]

Yep, that's your choice. Nothing wrong with with that. And i think you are taking the semantics a little too literally and seriously. Just because it's unusual for an actual four year old to suck a dummy, this isn't a biology thing. That type of lg simply identifies themselves at a particular age range. Doesn't mean they have to do things as an actual child would of that age. It's all subjective and personal, and nothing to do with following a parenting guideline book. You're looking at this all wrong.

i am a different type of little, so apologies to others here if i have explained it wrongly. That's just my perception.

[Guest pacibrat]

I'm 3 and I love pacis.  Like others have said, most littles don't stick to their little age in terms of doing exactly what a child their age would do. Why is this?  Well, it's because we're not actual children.  Our little age is how old we feel inside.  Now with age-play, a little will usually act little but their personal interpretation might not exactly fall within their age range.

 

We all have our likes and dislikes.  If you absolutely don't like pacis, find a little who also has no interest in them.

[neko]

I think you're taking the Little ages a Little (HAH) too literal.

 

I see Littles of all ages using pacis. Just because they dont identify as 3 or under doesn't mean they can't use pacis.

 

ﹰIf pacis arent your thing, dont date a Little that uses them.

[DaddyStevie]

"But for me it doesn't quite work/sit right in my mind, can anyone shed light on what seems to be a confused Little state?"

So just because something doing sit right with you means everyone else is confused?..

I can try shed some light on what seems to be your confused state. Littles aren't actual children and what is a need for a baby (sucking on a paci) is a desire of a little. As such it's tied to a personality and not the age a little chooses to regress to.

Easy, steady on, I'm merely enquiring. Further more, "what seems to be a confused state" means how it appears to me, doesn't mean I'm saying Littles are confused, they're two different things. And when you're not sure, you ask, so I did and now I know. Simple question, no need to get touchy and defensive. Edited October 28, 2017 by DaddyStevie

[Guest SUeB]

You said a confused little state. Suggesting the littles are confused. That's certainly how it came across anyway. Just a heads up that if you meant it's you that's confused, you may want to rephrase. People get offended when they believe they are being shed in a negative light. Sadly as a community, we lgs get a lot of that. We get used to feeling we need to defend ourselves against ignorance and prejudice. Huge amounts of kink shaming go around in this world. Not saying that's what you were trying to do, just putting it in general terms.

[Guest starsInTheNight]

DDLG aside, there is a lot of kids still using paci or sucking their thumb after 4.

 

I've worked in summer camp with kids aged 3 to 12 and while it's not every one of them, it's not uncommon to see kids under 7 with "baby items". (it becomes more rare as age increases)

that's what is called comfort or transitional objects.

 

It most likely is a stuffed animal or a blanket but it can be a pacifier, a toy, a doll, a garment (usually from one of the parent), etc.

 

It's perfectly normal.

[DaddyStevie]

You said a confused little state. Suggesting the littles are confused. That's certainly how it came across anyway. Just a heads up that if you meant it's you that's confused, you may want to rephrase. People get offended when they believe they are being shed in a negative light. Sadly as a community, we lgs get a lot of that. We get used to feeling we need to defend ourselves against ignorance and prejudice. Huge amounts of kink shaming go around in this world. Not saying that's what you were trying to do, just putting it in general terms.

Sorry but re-read what I said above, how I said it and how you read it are not the same, nor did I mean I'm confused.

Fair enough there may be some kink shaming going on or people being shed in a negative light but I wouldn't be much of a DDCG if I was guilty of that and if I did cast Littles in a negative light, I wouldn't have joined this forum.

Anyway, I asked the question, I got my answer.

[Guest littleloveslars]

I was literally thinking the same thing as OP today. I don't like pacis. And i get its less about living a role of a certain age. But i have a newborn who uses pacis, and i was thinking yeah 4 year olds don't use them. Just a passing curiosity, not a serious issue. People like what they like!

[LittleGirlEmilia]

When I actually was 3 -5, I did still use a dummy. So... Now I feel even more like a freak.

[Guest littleloveslars]

When I actually was 3 -5, I did still use a dummy. So... Now I feel even more like a freak.

Aw don't take it like that. Totally not how i meant it <3

[Guest SUeB]

"Can anyone please shed light on what seems to be a confused little state"

This is what you said, so that suggests confusion. We can only go on what is actually said, not what might otherwise be meant. Anyway, never mind. If that's not what you meant, no big deal.

[DaddyStevie]

When I actually was 3 -5, I did still use a dummy. So... Now I feel even more like a freak.

No, no, no, please don't feel that way. In general actual children don't, I'm a father myself so speaking from experience, but some hang on to them. Depends on how much the child doesn't want to give them up and how much parents try to get them to give them up. It's mostly around it affecting the growth of their teeth hence the general cut off point. And as I said in my original post, it's ok for you to like them each to their own. I'm not here to judge, I was just trying to understand something.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I don’t use a paci any more, but I did. I’m also an older little (around 8-12). I don’t ever feel much younger than 8, or much older than 12 (though there are bratty teenager moments). I too am an actual parent to a 3 year old and almost 8 year old. My son hasn’t used a pacifier since he was two and my daughter never took one.

 

Why did I use a paci identifying as such an older little, then? Well, I wanted one. I still suck my thumb occasionally and chew my nails, and occasionally chew on th collar of my shirt or strings of my hoodie. These are all a stress/anxiety relief thing for me.

 

I do get where your confusion stems from, but your wording came across... harsh. I don’t think you intend that, but just be cautious of verbiage.

[Daddymanchetseruk]

Personally I think this whole setting an age is a bit of a trend and is fairly irrelevant I feel.

 

I'm searching for a babygirl but age doesn't come into in my mind. I think there is too much focus to identify as a certain thing or be labelled which really shouldn't be the case for any of this.

[Guest SUeB]

Personally I think this whole setting an age is a bit of a trend and is fairly irrelevant I feel.

 

I'm searching for a babygirl but age doesn't come into in my mind. I think there is too much focus to identify as a certain thing or be labelled which really shouldn't be the case for any of this.

i agree with this.

[Littlest_Bee]

For me, discovering that I was a little made sense because I was always clinging to certain things throughout my childhood and there was a lot of pressure, a lot of "You're too big for this or that by now."

And people constantly changed when a certain type of behaviour would have been acceptable. "Don't run around like that you aren't in kindergarten/ 1st class/ 2nd class/ ... anymore."

Oh really? You're telling me now that it would still have been okay a year ago, well, then I simply don't accept that it isn’t okay now because next year you'd tell me that it would have been alright at this point. Unless there's a good reason, a better reason than my age, thank you very much.

 

I didn't really use a dummy / paci after a certain point but I still kept one in my desk until I moved out of my parents house. I knew I wasn't supposed to use it or even want to use it but I kept it and I even bought new ones a few times because they had expiration dates. What I really did was suck my thumb or eat a Lollipop when I got the feeling that it would calm me down.

I could sort of see myself use a dummy / paci if my caregiver liked that but I'm not really into it myself. I get why the people who like it get defensive over the matter though.