Being a Little and having kids

[✿Space☆Captainʕᵔᴥᵔʔ Lala ✿]

Hello, I'm Lala I was looking around all the different forums and I hadn't seen one like this so I decided to make it a topic because I am sure I'm not the only little that has children. Being a little and a mom can be kind of hard mostly when you have to keep yourself out of little space when there are little space triggers all around you. How are some ways other deal with being a little and a parent. I'm very interested to hear how others deal with this. And maybe make some Little Moms and dads as friends. I think it would be nice to have friends who are littles but have kids too.

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[maxben10]

hmm, can you define little space triggers all around you ?

[Persephone_Persephone]

Hello Im a parent and a little and it can be amazing and hard!

I think ive learnt to let my little space run free around kids but always know when to be responsible.

[Persephone_Persephone]

hmm, can you define little space triggers all around you ?

Well as you can imagine having a child means, toys, sippy cups, bottles,kids tv, kids clothes, toys....your surrounded 24/7 with little type things and you have to learn when it is or isnt appropriate.

[maxben10]

Well as you can imagine having a child means, toys, sippy cups, bottles,kids tv, kids clothes, toys....your surrounded 24/7 with little type things and you have to learn when it is or isnt appropriate.

ohhh, i see.

 

(just for clarity, in the next paragraph, when i say mom/dad, i mean a standard relationship, and when i say daddy/little, it's a ddlg relationship)

 

i want to point out something thou, donno if this where i know this exactly (maybe Sigmund Freud), but but in a standard natural family, each family member has a job, where the mom has to give emotional support , cook and take care of the children, while the dad has a more authoritative role, where he has to set the boundaries and rules, so the rule setting is majorly done by the dad, and influences the mom, if i know anything here for sure, then it is that the littles here mad in love with their daddys, so if the daddy askes them to do something, they don't hesitate to do it, which makes me think that since the littles are submissive and daddys dominants in the ddlg relationship, and since in a standard relationship, the dad is the one who's supposed to set the rules and boundarys, then i believe how well the family works will depend on the dad, who'll set guides for everyone.

[Persephone_Persephone]

ohhh, i see.

 

(just for clarity, in the next paragraph, when i say mom/dad, i mean a standard relationship, and when i say daddy/little, it's a ddlg relationship)

 

i want to point out something thou, donno if this where i know this exactly (maybe Sigmund Freud), but but in a standard natural family, each family member has a job, where the mom has to give emotional support , cook and take care of the children, while the dad has a more authoritative role, where he has to set the boundaries and rules, so the rule setting is majorly done by the dad, and influences the mom, if i know anything here for sure, then it is that the littles here mad in love with their daddys, so if the daddy askes them to do something, they don't hesitate to do it, which makes me think that since the littles are submissive and daddys dominants in the ddlg relationship, and since in a standard relationship, the dad is the one who's supposed to set the rules and boundarys, then i believe how well the family works will depend on the dad, who'll set guides for everyone.

I think your right thats how the tradional family is meant to work. But real modern life is differnt and I'm not sure I understand how that applies to her question?

 

And for my own situation it doesnt really work. My ex partner was an abusive person and I have raised our child on my own with no help from any one. So I do it all, the finace, rules and discipline and caring comes down to me in my tiny family.

 

Maybe Ive misunderstood you but my family works just fine, if not better with out the father involved. I chose the path of safety for me and my son. All familes are different really.

[maxben10]

true, true, you got the guts thou, being a single mom is a real test of strength, so props to you !

as for how that applies to her question,  i ment that since she's a little who has a daddy, then she isn't on her own, since her daddy could help  her, weather physically or mentally

[Guest PrincessLovebug]

Hi Lala!

Well I have 2 small children and iv always had pretty good control of my little space but when I tend to slip into it I have so much fun with my children, but when  I'm feeling overwhelmed I just go into a room alone for a few minutes to myself or if I'm in the store (which is where they throw the most fits) I try to breath and understand them as we also have our bratty tantrums. sometimes being in little space or little thinking can help us understand them better. But yes being a single parent can be hard but as Poppins said, I am very happy with just me and my babies. We are our own little family

Its so much fun tho to watch movies and play games and buy stuffies and toys together <3

[Princess-P]

I'm a mom, my daughter is almost 7. Parenting has never been an issue and my Daddy and I are in our dynamic 24/7 and have been like this since before she was born. Nothing ever really had to change dynamic wise.

 

I don't have a "little space" I'm always a little. And always the same. I have no issues being a mom because my dynamic has nothing to do with my child and I just parent her the way that feels best to me. I'm always a parent just like I'm always a little. I play with her, comfort her, teach her, and discipline her. Parenting comes just as naturally as being little.

[Guest littleloveslars]

Im a mom with a newborn and a 6 year old! Hubby and I have a 24/7 relationship because I am a stay at home mom, so I have a daily schedule from him, and also have rules. The first thing our rules say is:

 

Your safety, the children, and educational endeavors override all rules and schedule.

 

So basically being a parent comes first. I don't use pacis and I don't wear onesies, so while I guess those could be triggering for some littles, they aren't for me. My mom time with my babies sometimes includes little time like playing toys or watching tv, but usually mom mode is a totally separate headspace. Hubby and I integrate a lot of different aspects of bdsm into our relationship, which I think helps us keep a balance, but parenting always supersedes our kinks and preferences, and always will!

[MrWrongUk]

I have a little girl who is two..i never think of her in this was so it never gets in the way..

But i can see how it could be confusing for some guys.

One hand you need to protect and the other hand your mental side kicks in about dd lg.

 

For me i never see my kid in that way so it never comes up.

Before i had a child it did make me think hmm how will i feel now i have one i know.

All good lol.

[SweetDdy]

I was not into ddlg before having kids. After the divorce being a single dad to 2 amazing kids and starting to date, I realized that there are women who want a partner that would do to her the things I already do for my kids in the parental and loving ways. I think it's not so hard for fathers to add another little or middle to care for and look after. When I get down to my kids level having fun it's great when a woman can be in littlespace or middlespace.

 

When the time presents itself, get into littlespace with your kids but bounce back when it's time to teach and discipline. I love kids' imaginations and creativity so I say run with the triggers when it's safe.

 

Another poster mentioned bdsm and I completely agree that that helps separate the issues from the sexual side of things. In no way do I ever confuse things because they are my kids. Ddlg has many parts and the sexual part is in my belief a sub culture of bdsm. The relationship of ddlg is different from the kinks and sexual aspect, at least to me.

Edited October 28, 2017 by SweetDdy

[✿Space☆Captainʕᵔᴥᵔʔ Lala ✿]

true, true, you got the guts thou, being a single mom is a real test of strength, so props to you !

as for how that applies to her question,  i ment that since she's a little who has a daddy, then she isn't on her own, since her daddy could help  her, weather physically or mentally

 

​Oh lol no I don't have a daddy I use to but it was long distance and I ended up losing him.

[✿Space☆Captainʕᵔᴥᵔʔ Lala ✿]

It is very nice seeing all the comments from different Mothers and Fathers and their thoughts on the subject. I for one am a single mother of two little girls whom are both toddlers and I enjoy pretending with them. And I agree it is important to know when to snap out of little space when you need to be a parent but I also don't think there is anything to wrong with going in to little space when playing with your children. I feel like if anything going in to little space actually brings me and my daughters closer together they  enjoy when I color and play dolls and other games with them.  

[TinyMoonPrincess]

I am a little with a kid as well. I easily go into little space and we play toys together etc but I flip the switch immediately if I need to.