Too shy to be a little? :(

[eilonwy]

[AliciaCrunk]

Are you confident in yourself?

[AliciaCrunk]

Because sometimes I'm too shy to fully relax and be myself. Could be anyone honestly. I'm just not confident in myself and it makes it hard to be myself

[Guest littlelisafrank]

Perhaps if you communicate with your Daddy that you're having trouble with getting into Little space, he'll be able to help you. I know that there are lots of things you can do to trigger Little space. Maybe, you should try and get into Little space before he's around, and then gradually work your way up to being able to be a little around him. That's my suggestion.

[blueberrymuffincorrie]

As in any other case too, you sometimes need the confirmation. Your daddy may find it okay, but does he help you to get into your Little Space. Does he tell you that he finds it beautiful, that it makes him happy when you act "little". Daddies have a lot of possibilities to make it easy for you to slip into Little Space, yes, to make it even possible. I'd suggest communicating with him about that. I'm sure he'd understand how important it is for you to let your inner little girl come out. Maybe the two of you only need a little practice, like i needed it, to both be comfortable with this side of you. To accept it just like any other side of you. I'm sure there won't be any negative thoughts then anymore.

Even now, after being a little for quite some time now, it is sometimes hard for me to go into Little Space. I don't know how, but my Daddy knows when i need to "turn off" the adult me for a while. Then, saying "come little muffin, i think i know what time it is", he always takes me by the hand, sits me on the sofa and turns on some cartoon movie (most of the time "Frozen", my fav one) and pulls me close. This always helps me when i cannot go into Little Space on my own.

i hope this was at least a little help for you.

 

big hugggs, Corinna

[Guest infinitecases]

Maybe just try thinking about it as being yourself instead of thinking about it as 'little space'. It puts pressure on you to be a certain way and to think about the stigma surrounding it. I was too nervous to call my boyfriend Daddy for the longest time but the more you try it, the easier it gets You could get your daddy to say nice things to you to coax out your little space like calling you his little girl, or doing little activities with you, so that it comes out without you needing to make an effort to be little! 

[MrWrongUk]

Yes you are kink shaming yourself.and thats silly...we dont ask to be what we are..he seems ok with it.

So give yourself a break. Deep breaths..be what you want as a little i think he would Love that more than you know.

[meows kohai]

[eilonwy]

Because sometimes I'm too shy to fully relax and be myself. Could be anyone honestly. I'm just not confident in myself and it makes it hard to be myself

 I think that's part of it! My daddy said the same thing. I just need to be confident in who I am, and the rest will follow.

 

Perhaps if you communicate with your Daddy that you're having trouble with getting into Little space, he'll be able to help you. I know that there are lots of things you can do to trigger Little space. Maybe, you should try and get into Little space before he's around, and then gradually work your way up to being able to be a little around him. That's my suggestion.

That's a good suggestion I will try it!! <3

 

 

As in any other case too, you sometimes need the confirmation. Your daddy may find it okay, but does he help you to get into your Little Space. Does he tell you that he finds it beautiful, that it makes him happy when you act "little". Daddies have a lot of possibilities to make it easy for you to slip into Little Space, yes, to make it even possible. I'd suggest communicating with him about that. I'm sure he'd understand how important it is for you to let your inner little girl come out. Maybe the two of you only need a little practice, like i needed it, to both be comfortable with this side of you. To accept it just like any other side of you. I'm sure there won't be any negative thoughts then anymore.

Even now, after being a little for quite some time now, it is sometimes hard for me to go into Little Space. I don't know how, but my Daddy knows when i need to "turn off" the adult me for a while. Then, saying "come little muffin, i think i know what time it is", he always takes me by the hand, sits me on the sofa and turns on some cartoon movie (most of the time "Frozen", my fav one) and pulls me close. This always helps me when i cannot go into Little Space on my own.

i hope this was at least a little help for you.

 

big hugggs, Corinna

 

Aw, I'm glad you and your daddy have such a great connection! Thank you for the advice. I think part of it is that it's hard for him to know what to say/when to say it, because he and I are both new to the ddlg community, so it's either hard for him to pick up on cues, or know the right words to say, so I'll have to find some ones that help me

 

Yes you are kink shaming yourself.and thats silly...we dont ask to be what we are..he seems ok with it.

So give yourself a break. Deep breaths..be what you want as a little i think he would Love that more than you know

Yeah, it's a really bad habit. My daddy always sort of knew I was into it because I was one of the people who would try to hide it by being like, "Oh that's so weird, etc" and he was wondering why I'm trying so hard to prove I'm not into it thank you for the kind words <3

 

 

Maybe just try thinking about it as being yourself instead of thinking about it as 'little space'. It puts pressure on you to be a certain way and to think about the stigma surrounding it. I was too nervous to call my boyfriend Daddy for the longest time but the more you try it, the easier it gets You could get your daddy to say nice things to you to coax out your little space like calling you his little girl, or doing little activities with you, so that it comes out without you needing to make an effort to be little! 

That's a good way to look at it! As just another part of me, I like that. I'm glad you can call him daddy now!! Thanks for the advice!

 

 

Girlll I am the same way!! I get so self conscious and stressed sometimes! I usually have to drink a bit to feel comfortable ^^' I don't advocate for drinking/partaking in substances but drinking or smoking weed helps me feel waaayyy more comfortable.

 

Since I eased myself into it with those things, it's been a lot easier to get into little space and be little with my Daddy without leaning on them for it. I'm pretty lucky though to have such a patient Daddy

 

I'm happy for you! <3 I'm glad you were able to find something to help you with this (as long as you were safe about it!! LOL ) I used to smoke, and that probably would have helped back then too   But not anymore, neither does my daddy. Thanks for replying!!

 

 

Thank you guys all for replying, and for your advice and kind words!!!