Subtle ways to get him into "daddyspace"?

[binky-bun]

How can I communicate that I want my significant other to take on a more caretaker role?

 

I respond well to the small things he does, and I've said a few times I wanted to be little around him more, but I don't think he knows exactly what that entails and to be honest I'm really shy when it comes to little stuff. I don't know how to vocalize what I want because when I want it, I'm kind of cloudy-brained and little so I can't communicate great.

 

But when I tell him (while I'm big), he listens but doesn't seem to know how to notice when I'm shifting to little headspace.

 

It's a little frustrating because communication is hard and I don't want to be blunt. 

[Nymph]

I think you need to stop being so shy or move on to a more experienced or natural daddy... because it's unreasonable for you to expect him to read your mind!

 

One way to tell him straight without going into much detail is show him "signals" example, using your paci means that you are feeling little... kinda hard to miss! or limit your use for the daddy title exclusively for when you are feeling little.

 

PS. I said paci because of your avatar, but if you don't use them, a sippy cup, a teddy bear, your crayolas etc. something obvious.

[Guest DaddysLilBabygirl]

I recommend that you do things which let him know he is your Daddy right now.  Some suggestions:

 

Spontaneously sit in his lap and cuddle up to him

 

Ask him for something in  your "little" voice.

 

Ask him to help you with something a "little" might need help with...tying your shoes, reaching up for your plushie on a high shelf, getting a drink in your sippy cup...anything that signals you need to be helped and nurtured as a little right now.

 

Sit in his lap and ask his permission to do "x" and if he tells you "no" then reluctantly say, "OK...you know what's best for me."  Even if he says, "yes" you're setting the stage for him to take charge of you as a Daddy.

 

Tell him you're scared and need to hold his hand when you're out at night together.

 

The list could go on and on...but in each case...neither of you have to discuss it...he only needs to respond to you (as your little self) to be in Daddy mode.  Over time...he may initiate speaking as a Daddy to you, helping you tie your shoes,  and grabbing your hand in his every time you go out.  He will feel empowered to be in charge...and you will only need to respond from your little self.

 

Hope that is helpful...

[Guest McLeodLot65]

Speaking as a cg-type, I would *love* to have these done to me.

[meows kohai]

Does he know about DDLG or no?

[LittleKitten13]

I usually just tell papa that I'm in little space.  Sometimes I get where I'm shifting in and out of little space, and I'll tell him just so he can know to be gentle with me (he's always gentle, but like...more gentle).