Just Found Out I'm A Little

[Glittergirl]

I'm having trouble with this new realization. I'm a strong woman, I don't understand how this can really be what I boil down to.

My boyfriend/bestfriend is leaving me because I'm too much. We've been talking a lot and this subject of Ddlg came up. He's a switch, which I never even heard about before knowing him.

He's leaving because I'm too much, as he sees it. Now I know why. I was trying to make him my Daddy, but it's too much "work" for him. I never felt safe enough with anyone before him to let her out, but with him I did. She destroyed our relationship with her bratty temper tantrums. My bestfriend is abandoning me and I'm reliving all of those abandonment issues.

He was telling me what Ddlg means (because we saw it written on a dating site, that I subscribed to when he told me he planned to leave) and I looked up an article written by a Little. I read it looked at him with excitement and said, "This is me". Then I realized what that meant and cried. He never wanted to be a Daddy and I really was too much for him.

Now he says I wish we would've known before. Maybe it would've made a difference. Maybe we could've explored that together and created an outlet so she wouldn't get frustrated and cause problems between us.

Analyzing myself from a psychological perspective trying to figure out how to overcome this. Should I be trying to overcome this?

[Rebel]

I know this is in little space, and while I am not a little, I might have a perspective on this.

 

Personally, I don't believe you should overcome it, as it is a part of you. I will say it like one of my issues. I bottle anger (have basically since I was born, and got that trait from my pa), and everyone knows thats horrible. If I could do it all over again, I wouldn't bottle it, but I can't change it (even though I have tried). To overcome being a little is basically bottling it as well, and like my anger (which very rarely do I even get mad honestly), it will come to a point where it is too much. So I implore you, do not try to overcome it, however try to find a harmony with it (if you understand what I mean by that).

 

Just my 2 cents. 

[MrWrongUk]

Just be you..if he is not the one then so be it. The one is the on3 thats right for you. You will only find the on thats right for you..if you get past guys who are not for you.

[MrWrongUk]

My bad if this it little space i did not mean to jump in.

[Glittergirl]

Thank you for the replies.

[Guest Stinkin'ol'Fred]

No, move forward in knowing that the right man will eventually come along and be able to give u every ounce of reassurance and love that you need. Don't be sad over losing him. Look forward to being able to find another chance at pure love. Some one who is patient and understanding will one day show you there is some one out there that wants to listen to you. Wants to give you exactly what you're needing. Just because that one guy doesn't realize what a gem you really are, doesn't mean you aren't one. The love of a little is a terrible thing to waste or pass by. Diamons aren't polished and pretty in nature, so why should a man who couldn't do a lil work to reveal something so beautiful, why should he even be worthy of your emotions? Time heals dear.

[Guest pacibrat]

I'm not sure if you're asking if you should "overcome this" referring to your ex or referring to your little self.  I think that if you and your ex decide to explore DDlg together, go for it.  Maybe he could be a Daddy and he just doesn't understand the dynamic yet.  

 

If your relationship is beyond saving, I would take time to explore little me by being single for awhile.  Learn about the lifestyle.  Learn what little you likes.  How old is she? What doesn't she like? Does she like to color? Stuffies? Disney movies? Pacis? Blankies? Candy? There are also older littles called middles who like different stuff (I'm not sure what because I'm not a middle). Regardless, embrace little you.  I absolutely LOVE little me.  I think that we are lucky because we aren't stuck in just adult world like so many other people.