How long was your search?

[Guest Volkmane1985]

Evening all,

 

Just curious to see how long my fellow DD/CG took in their search for their own Little?

 

Not sure why but I thought it wouldn't be like looking for a vanilla gf, derp.

[TinyTwaddle]

Hihi!

I'm not a CG, but I know it takes a while to find the right person for you. It's all about how well you connect with someone. The issue most people have with this lifestyle/kink is that they jump into it without really knowing the other person. Dun do that, unless you just wanna be a bitter person. 

 

I wish you luck!

[kittenofthemall]

Hi! I'm a little, and I know I've been pretty lucky because I found my ex-Daddy in like less than a month of searching, but we broke up and I've been searching for at least 7 months now... So yeah, it takes time and a lucky charm

[LittleGirlEmilia]

Hmm... I've never actively searched for a DD and they never actively searched for a little. I just went about doing my own thing, going out, making friends, and naturally the DD types came to me. It's very much like normal dating. You just need to find the right person.

[MrWrongUk]

Still searching...over 8 years..one thing I learned is there is no rush. If u rush no one will be happy. Patients is key imo.

[Guest SUeB]

Coming from the other side of the coin, i didn't find my real Daddy til only a few months ago. At the age of 46. He is 69, and says that i am finally the one He was meant to find. So it can take a long time to find the right person. Been hoping for my perfect Man (only as in perfect for me, as there is no such thing as actual perfection) for all this time. But now it's finally happened.....oh wow, it was worth the wait.

[Nymph]

It took me 5 years of searching online in vanilla sites internationally!

 

It might had been faster had I looked in sites focused on this and if the lifestyle was as popular as it is now back then. However I still think vanilla was the right way to go for me, even now when DDlg has branched out from BDSM I find it that because of my interests and needs it's just easier to start from a blank slate if that makes sense.

 

I just found someone with similar interests and goals in life, with a compatible (nurturing and patient) personality.

[Princess Bunni]

Hiya! It took me just over a month, and we've been together for nearly 6 months Edited November 24, 2017 by Princess Bunni

[DreamDaddy63]

When I met my little one it started out pretty vanilla. We both got into this community and lifestyle together; despite having broken up and having a lot of problems, we've worked through them and after a year of being in each other's lives, we are finally engaged. She's the only little I've had and I've been her only daddy. In our year of knowing one another, we've discovered that we belong together.

[PapaMax]

Well over a decade

[Guest Plebian]

I think you're right; it's not much different from looking for a vanilla relationship. I've found it's a lot easier to go out IRL and just meet new people until you find ones that seem to fit the bill. There are plenty of people out there who would love the CG/L dynamic if they actually knew it was a thing. As long as you don't force it upon anyone, of course. That would be silly!

 

Edit: To answer your question, I usually take 6 months to a year to find someone I truly like. I like to start vanilla and then introduce CG/L after a month or two. No point in talking about CG/L if you can't have a vanilla relationship at the core of it anyway!

Edited December 17, 2017 by Plebian

[Guest Kaiser]

I've never sought it out. Doesn't really work that way, for me at least. If/when she comes, she comes. If not, I just keep moving forward.

[pixelpixzie]

It's hard for me because while I'm a little/middle, I'm NOT a submissive, and I'm a very gentle/caring/loving dom mommy. So I switch between little/middle and mommy. I'd like to find a little since I'm not attracted to daddy doms at all. I want someone who's more on the submissive side. When it comes to sex I'm pretty vanilla too. The weirdest I like is anal (his or mine) and squirting/peeing (I can't help it). 

 

So finding a guy who is both a little and into middle/mom switch is so hard. I also am not comfortable being called 'Mommy' even though I understand the dynamic. I'd prefer to be called 'Little' while also calling him that. Almost everyone who messages me on sites like this or kink sites are daddy doms, and I'm not attracted to daddy doms.

 

I feel like if I was it would be a lot easier to find someone since I get so many messages & friend requests from those types. I almost wish I was more into that type, but I can't force myself to like something that I actually don't like. 

I'm only ever turned on by shy, gentle, meek, nervous, sweet, kind, little boys. Extra points if he's chubby/fat because I think that's cute. And it's cute if he's nerdy, into video games & anime. 

[pixelpixzie]

So basically it's taking a really long time to find him. 

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

It has really taken time, I have not yet found anyone. Basically because they usually contact me daddy doms, and I'm not attracted to them. I am looking for a mom or the case a non-binary caregiver. But, sadly of the few searches that there are in the forum, they look for little boys. So that makes me pretty sad sometimes and I think maybe I'm in the wrong place, or I was not born to have a relationship. But I guess the only option left for me is to remain optimistic.

[Guest Plebian]

 

It has really taken time, I have not yet found anyone. Basically because they usually contact me daddy doms, and I'm not attracted to them. I am looking for a mom or the case a non-binary caregiver. But, sadly of the few searches that there are in the forum, they look for little boys. So that makes me pretty sad sometimes and I think maybe I'm in the wrong place, or I was not born to have a relationship. But I guess the only option left for me is to remain optimistic.

 

 

Don't give up! Turn that frown upside down

 

This is probably a crude translation, but in my language they say "for every jar there's a lid". Just gotta find the right lid, yo. It'll happen.

[Guest jbb273g]

It's hard for me because while I'm a little/middle, I'm NOT a submissive, and I'm a very gentle/caring/loving dom mommy. So I switch between little/middle and mommy. I'd like to find a little since I'm not attracted to daddy doms at all. I want someone who's more on the submissive side. When it comes to sex I'm pretty vanilla too. The weirdest I like is anal (his or mine) and squirting/peeing (I can't help it). 

 

So finding a guy who is both a little and into middle/mom switch is so hard. I also am not comfortable being called 'Mommy' even though I understand the dynamic. I'd prefer to be called 'Little' while also calling him that. Almost everyone who messages me on sites like this or kink sites are daddy doms, and I'm not attracted to daddy doms.

 

I feel like if I was it would be a lot easier to find someone since I get so many messages & friend requests from those types. I almost wish I was more into that type, but I can't force myself to like something that I actually don't like. 

 

I'm only ever turned on by shy, gentle, meek, nervous, sweet, kind, little boys. Extra points if he's chubby/fat because I think that's cute. And it's cute if he's nerdy, into video games & anime. 

 

This sounds like me 100%.  except I'm not fat, maybe on the well built/thick side.  but I'm looking for a caregiver who loves taking care of babies, maybe in like a babysitting like role.  and I'm trying to be less shy so i can meet somebody but i guess i am nervous/shy meek.  let me know if you'd wanna chat sometime.

[neko]

It was easy to find online daddies to date because they were just as desperate as I was to find a partner.

 

However, finding an in person Daddy that I actually cared about? waaay harder to do. When I met my current Daddy I had been into ddlg for about 3 years. I wasn't really looking for anything when I found him which maybe made it easier?

[LittleGirlEmilia]

You could totally still do "vanilla dating", ya know? I found that caregiver types just kind of find me, if that makes sense? Personalities seem to be drawn to each other, which is why I find it easier to find DD's/caregivers near me outside of the DDLG community. Weirdly enough?