Little one ignored me

[Guest zxcv]

So, I am a new daddy. English is not my first language so please do forgive me for the grammar mistake.s

 

We have been together for a month plus now. Yes, it's a long distance relationship. She is five years younger than me. I am in my 20s.

 

My little one tend to ignore me when she is in a bad mood. The other day, she punished me by ignoring me because someone else said something not nice to her. I did not punish her for that although I have the desire for hurting me but I care for her well being and emotions. She did apologised and I told her to never ignore me and always let me know whatever the problems are.

 

After that, she sort of 'addicted' in ignoring me. So I confronted her and told her that I dislike being ignored and she said "I am sorry daddy but that's just the way it is". I told her no. That's not that way it is. I have rules. She said that she just needs some space sometimes and I am glad she let me know after I confronted her with that issue.

 

It happened again when she got annoyed with me. I told her that I did not expect to receive much surprises and presents from my classmates on my birthday and that probably snapped her. She said that I got tons of confessions and yet I am oblivious. I told her that I don't care of those things and see it as nothing. I am not sure but that could be jealousy of hers. She was so annoyed at me. She did apologised and told me that she is going to be less talkative because she can't control her emotions. She ignored me for a day.

 

Now my question is:

has anyone have this issue?

Is she just being a brat?

What should I do when this happens and things to avoid this from happening?

 

Thank you for your time!

[A Cuddly Dom]

Ignoring a partner is never healthy, especially when it's done as a "punishment" or as a passive aggressive attack. That's what this sounds like to me. You've already let her know that this kind of behavior is unacceptable and she has decided to ignore that. This, in my opinion is very toxic.

 

It may be due to her age and lack of experience dealing with relationships. But, a relationship is a two way road, and if she is indeed this immature, you need to ask yourself if you are willing to be treated this way.

 

If the answer is no, then it's best to move on now and find a partner who is better suited for you and your needs. Part of being a romantically and sexually healthy person is stating what you will and will not accept from a partner, and then enforcing it even if that means ending the relationship.

 

Best wishes and good luck to you.

ACD

[lil.rosa]

Hey there,

 

I absolutely agree with what the person before me said and I advice you to do the same thing!

 

Because of circumstances I'm suffering from PTSD and have (daily) panic attacks. My Daddy and I are very open and talk about everything in a straight forward manner. No secrets. Whenever I get anxious and am going to have a panic attack, he knows. And the reason why; I tend to ignore him. I ignore him for no longer than an hour. Maybe half an hour at best. After that I have my panic attack, for however long that is, and when everything's alright and I'm all calmed down we talk. Wether this is the next day or a couple of hours after. He absolutely understands that I get quiet. His rule for me is; always stay on the phone with me/stay in the room with me.

 

I told you this because this is my reason for ignoring my Daddy for no longer than an hour. In your story you tell us that she literally has no reason for 'snapping'. Ignoring your partner to punish them is horrible, and should not be accepted or taken lightly. I hope this kind of helped and wish you succes and all the best! 

 

Have a nice day 

[Guest Urthurs]

In a D/S relationship just can't have this. Lack of comunication can have devastating result, for both of you. Even if it seems like no big deal. Explain it to her then give her an ultimatum. If she still don't get it, she is not ready or suited for this.

[Leo_Ascendent]

In a D/S relationship just can't have this. Lack of comunication can have devastating result, for both of you. Even if it seems like no big deal. Explain it to her then give her an ultimatum. If she still don't get it, she is not ready or suited for this.

 

Especially in a LDR, it leads to many other issues. You need to talk it out, and determine if this is something that is viable (capable of working) in the long run, or if it's just something to pass the time/a game. If the latter, I would urge the both of you to move on and find more compatible partners. 

[meows kohai]

You guys don't really sound compatible. 
If your little is "punishing" you and ignoring you, it might be time to find a new little o: 

[Guest zxcv]

In a D/S relationship just can't have this. Lack of comunication can have devastating result, for both of you. Even if it seems like no big deal. Explain it to her then give her an ultimatum. If she still don't get it, she is not ready or suited for this.

 

 

I did explained it to her that I dislike being ignored by her. I told her that I am her daddy, she should never hide things but she seems to be so self-centred and I really am not sure what else to do. I do understand that she have depression and have issue with people. After the incident where she ignored me due to someone had said such not nice things to her, she said she is building these walls around her and don't want to be near with everyone but she still choose to be around with me. That's one lovely thing I could say, I guess. It seems I have the toughest girl to deal with.

[Guest zxcv]

You guys don't really sound compatible. 

If your little is "punishing" you and ignoring you, it might be time to find a new little o: 

 

Yeah. She did said that I am everything she wanted but that's just too one way. I wanted the best out of her as well.

[Guest zxcv]

Hey there,

 

I absolutely agree with what the person before me said and I advice you to do the same thing!

 

Because of circumstances I'm suffering from PTSD and have (daily) panic attacks. My Daddy and I are very open and talk about everything in a straight forward manner. No secrets. Whenever I get anxious and am going to have a panic attack, he knows. And the reason why; I tend to ignore him. I ignore him for no longer than an hour. Maybe half an hour at best. After that I have my panic attack, for however long that is, and when everything's alright and I'm all calmed down we talk. Wether this is the next day or a couple of hours after. He absolutely understands that I get quiet. His rule for me is; always stay on the phone with me/stay in the room with me.

 

I told you this because this is my reason for ignoring my Daddy for no longer than an hour. In your story you tell us that she literally has no reason for 'snapping'. Ignoring your partner to punish them is horrible, and should not be accepted or taken lightly. I hope this kind of helped and wish you succes and all the best! 

 

Have a nice day 

That's nice of you to your daddy! What a lucky lad. One hour is so acceptable. But one day is torturing me :< she does have emotional breakdown sometimes and thus the reason why she ignored me but she is just on another level.. I am patient enough to wait.

[lil.rosa]

That's nice of you to your daddy! What a lucky lad. One hour is so acceptable. But one day is torturing me :< she does have emotional breakdown sometimes and thus the reason why she ignored me but she is just on another level.. I am patient enough to wait.

 

Ghihi thank you!

One whole day is absolutely torture I understand that. You seem very patient and she is absolutely lucky with you as well. I understand you care for her and you (as far as I know) absolutely love her. But please do not forget yourself. You are worth so much more than these 'punishments'. Not everyone is perfect, mental health is a scary thing and yes everyone can have a breakdown here and there. But if she isn't willing to try to talk with you, then I personally see no point in it.