Guest Sally May Posted October 20, 2017 Report Posted October 20, 2017 So, back when I was a wee lass (14/15), I fell in love with a 25 year old. We started dating, but never did anything sexual. We rarely even cuddled. No kisses, no groping, no sex. Just innocent little dates at the mall and hanging out at the church. But, as innocent as our relationship was, my step dad made a big deal about it (mind you, my mom was fine with the whole thing). He claimed that my boyfriend was only hanging out with me to gain my trust so he could get me to have sex with him. Not surprisingly, everyone involved thought he was crazy, and ignored him. Well, long story short, he got so angry about it that he threatened to kill my boyfriend. He kept saying that he was going to call the cops and accuse him of molesting/raping me. It got so bad that my boyfriend broke up with me (probably for good) and moved to a different state. I was devastated, and my life quickly fell apart. I've been slowly picking up the pieces, but I was wondering if anyone had ever dealt with anything similar, and if we could talk about it.
Guest pacibrat Posted October 20, 2017 Report Posted October 20, 2017 (edited) Your "boyfriend " should have been sent to jail. He was obviously grooming a child (you) for sexual contact. A normal 25 year old MAN shouldn't even want to be with a minor, especially one as young as you were. Edited October 20, 2017 by pacibrat 1
A Cuddly Dom Posted October 20, 2017 Report Posted October 20, 2017 ^^Exactly^^ Just as pacibrat said above. The next chance you get, thank your father for ensuring your safety. This was textbook grooming by a sexual predator. I know you might have developed feelings for him, but you have to understand that this guy was going to get around to using you sexually, and possibly hurting you in other ways. There's a reason we have age of consent laws in most modern countries today. At that age you aren't prepared emotionally, physically, or mentally to engage in sexual activity. Now that you're an adult, you can date freely and over time, this guy will fade into the past. Be mindful that men and women who behave this way are called predators for a reason. They seek out victims who are either very young, emotionally troubled, or dealing with a traumatic home life because those people can easily be manipulated. This is why predators often insert themselves into youth outreach programs or other avenues that will grant them access to vulnerable targets. These people are sub human at best. I'm just glad your father got him away from you before any abuse could take place. Take good care of yourself, and keep this in mind as you enter the dating world. I'm not saying be suspicious of everyone, but to just be careful and really get to know your prospective partner before dashing in headlong. Best wishes. ACD 2
Guest Ginger Posted October 20, 2017 Report Posted October 20, 2017 I agree completely with Pacibrat and A Cuddly Dom. Your dad did the right thing by getting that man away from you. No mature, sane man would seek a relationship with someone as young as you were. 1
Untwisted Posted October 20, 2017 Report Posted October 20, 2017 "Not surprisingly, everyone involved thought he was crazy"? How about "surprisingly, everyone thought it was fine"? It really isn't. 2
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