Hiding Little You

[Guest pacibrat]

I know that many littles (and maybe some Daddies) can sympathize with this.............having to hide little you from EVERYONE unless you have a caregiver/Daddy/Mommy (and even then, they're the only one who knows).  I was told by a family member (when I brought up littles) that ddlg is disgusting and deplorable and that they hoped I wasn't one of them. I tried to explain what a little is and why we are how we are, but they weren't having it.  I said that not all littles are sexual (the sexual aspect is the worst to them, but they still think non-sexual littles are twisted too).

 

When I bought pacis to decorate, I told said family member that it was because I wanted to decorate and sell them (plenty of people do, but I decided not to).  So, I was left with 5 blank binks and was told, "I hope you don't want one of those because I couldn't handle knowing that!". I put them away and secretly decorated my paci.  I have four more to go, lol. 

 

I have to be quietly, secretly little.  If I lived alone, I would be little almost all the time running around in a onesie with my bink!

 

I guess I just wanted to say that I wish more people understood us and didn't just judge us. 

[boomslang]

While I believe that most of those types of judgements are based on ignorance (genuinely not knowing), I have to concede that everyone is entitled to their own opinions. But this person sort of seems to be on the attack about it... As unfair as it seems to hide it, I'd definitely keep this person out of the loop.

 

But there are a lot of people that don't mind it! There are also a lot of people actually into it without even knowing it has a name or community. Just keep doin what makes you happy and know there are others out there that certainly understand you! <3

[Guest McLeodLot65]

It's why we're so grateful for communities like this. A place where we can be our truest selves, even if the hugs are all virtual. I can't imagine how isolated this life was, before the Internet.

[minahbird]

Online, I'm fairly open about being little, with strangers at least. I have a total of two close friends who know, and noone irl knows. It's really difficult because I can only get anything little-related if I can rationalise it in grownup life. Like, I have a paci, but only because I told my mom (I live with my parents) that I can't breathe properly with the nightguard I was given for jaw issues. I have a sippy cup, because I told her it was a way to control how much liquid I drink (I drink juice etc really fast without it). Those, and a MLP blanket I have that I got because it was on sale are the only little-related things I have, because there's nothing else I can justify getting. It's not fun...

[LittleKitten13]

But there are a lot of people that don't mind it! There are also a lot of people actually into it without even knowing it has a name or community. Just keep doin what makes you happy and know there are others out there that certainly understand you! <3

I was actually like that for a long time.  I always felt like I would sometimes act younger than I actually was, and it bothered me to no end.  I even felt that way with my boyfriend sometimes.  I just never had a name for it.  There's nothing sexual about it for me though.

[shark]

I've been little since I was 13 and I never told anyone until I found my amazing mommy. I had to act like i was big almost all the time, which made me more stressed, which made me more little. My average age when I'm little is 4, so you can imagine how hard that was at school.

[Guest Gotixbabbygurl]

I have to hide as well from family and work. But at home I’m me well as me as I can be with 2 children running around. It is hard

[Guest ParanoidAsylum]

Up until I met my first mommy, I kept that secret with me exclusively. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones because when my actual mother found out she was completely accepting, even if she doesn't quite get it all. I still keep most of my little stuff in a trunk I got, with a lock on it in case someone decided to break in. It really can be rather difficult, but it can also get better in my opinion.

[Guest littleloveslars]

I think its really interesting and sad that there is a list of over 50 different gender identifications, and that the world is supposed to accept those as they are, but other people who identify in other ways, sexual or not, are not accepted. My older sibling is transgender and my family accepts it without question, but have openly stated that bdsm is terrible and must mean you have daddy issues, etc. There is such a double standard. Its easier for me, being married and independent, because I don't have to hide at home, but even having my husbands name in my phone as daddy for texts or calls would be seen as horrible.