Trouble fully getting into littlespace

[Guest Kitty456]

Hi.. I'll make this brief.

 

I've been having trouble getting fully into little space around my daddy,I kinda fear he'll judge me,even if I know he won't at all. (He loves this kinda stuff) We've been dating for two years (as of this Halloween) He also seems to not want to do activities with me.

 

Like coloring,he's never done that with me. He doesn't like reading,so that's out...I kinda feel like if I let my little side out more,he wouldn't participate. It could be because he's tired and does a lot during the week,but I'm not sure. Anyone got any advice?

[boomslang]

Him not enjoying certain activities himself doesn't mean he doesn't want YOU doing them.  My Daddy doesn't color.  EVER.  He does zero "little stuff."  I'm the little, not him.  Not all bigs are the same.  Asking some bigs to do little activities is like asking a little to do big stuff.  It just doesn't always feel right to them.  But that doesn't mean he's not happy to see you do it! He can also "participate" by finding cool coloring books for you, keeping you stocked in crayons/colored pencils, hanging out watching a boring, big person movie while you color beside him, etc.  

 

Have you asked him if there are any fun things he'd like to do?   Go to a museum, aquarium, etc?  Those things can be fun for bigs too.  Or just have you tag along while he does his big stuff.  (I love going with Daddy to do work stuff!  It makes me feel smol but important lol)

 

Just keep discussing things.  You shouldn't be scared to be who you are in front of him.  Even be blunt with it... "Does it bother you when I ______?" "What do you think about me doing ______?"  

[Guest Kitty456]

Him not enjoying certain activities himself doesn't mean he doesn't want YOU doing them.  My Daddy doesn't color.  EVER.  He does zero "little stuff."  I'm the little, not him.  Not all bigs are the same.  Asking some bigs to do little activities is like asking a little to do big stuff.  It just doesn't always feel right to them.  But that doesn't mean he's not happy to see you do it! He can also "participate" by finding cool coloring books for you, keeping you stocked in crayons/colored pencils, hanging out watching a boring, big person movie while you color beside him, etc.  

 

Have you asked him if there are any fun things he'd like to do?   Go to a museum, aquarium, etc?  Those things can be fun for bigs too.  Or just have you tag along while he does his big stuff.  (I love going with Daddy to do work stuff!  It makes me feel smol but important lol)

 

Just keep discussing things.  You shouldn't be scared to be who you are in front of him.  Even be blunt with it... "Does it bother you when I ______?" "What do you think about me doing ______?"

 

 

Thank you.. I never thought about that. He does seem to like my coloring and such, and we do things together. He also let's me help with "big" things like cooking and such. Maybe I just need a little friend to do little things with?