How would you as a cg comfort/explain a death in the family to your little?

[Guest SpNfan89]

I've had a pretty rough year with the loss of a family member and pets I've taken care of since I was a kid and I'm just wondering how you all would handle that with your littles. 

[Guest Prat]

I am not sure what you're asking but cuddles is always the answer.

[Guest McLeodLot65]

First, I'm very sorry for your loss. Are you worried about explaining how you feel to your little specifically, or is it more about explaining loss as a concept?

[Guest Auroraa]

I'm also not quite sure what you're asking... I'm not sure if you're wondering how to explain to a little that you're going through a hard time or how to help to comfort the person going through the loss... and even though I'm not a caregiver I have a few thoughts on both ways the question could be taken if they're welcomed.

Nevertheless, I'm sorry for your losses, sending love to you.

If you're the one going through the loss (the caregiver) then explaining to the little that there's a lot going on in your heart right now, that things may feel overwhelming or sad. Whatever it is that's true for you, explain that to them. Tell them that you'll be there for them, and that you care for them and love them (so long as you do) but that you may need a little extra comfort and cuddles too. That how you're feeling, and what you're going through doesn't change your feelings for them. In the kindest way possible, to tell them to not take any changes you're going through personally. That it doesn't have anything to do with them.

If the little is the one that is going through the loss, then being as supportive and attentive as you can be. Presence is the best thing that you can give someone at any point in time, especially in need of comfort. Being aware of their needs, and if they can't communicate them to you, trying different things until something works. Just being with them, or respecting that they may need space, and that's okay...that needing space won't mean you'll go away.

No matter if it's a caregiver or a little, loss is hard. And this is where the foundation of partnership comes into play, regardless of the dynamic of the relationship. Simply just be there for each other, and hold compassion as whoever is experiencing this, travels through their grief and finds their way into a more settled place.

 

I hope that made sense, and again, I'm sorry for your loss.

[Guest SUeB]

We are still adults. We are capable of dealing with things the same way most adults do. Don't treat her like a child when it comes to serious stuff.

[Persephone_Persephone]

Death is a serious topic, shes an adult she can comprehend it. I'm not really sure who has passed away but its something you face together.

Little doesnt mean we are unable to understand things especially serious matters.

[Guest SpNfan89]

I should have put a bit more effort into wording it clearly, it was kind of early in the morning for me I apologize. 
I'm not currently with a little but, if I were and she was going through a death in her family what would be some specific activities to keep her mind off of things without seeming patronizing or insensitive?

[Guest SUeB]

People need to grieve. To go through the process. There is nothing anyone can or should do to try take someone's mind off that. You just stick with them and see it through. Everyone handles grief differently. There is no answer to that question.

[Mikaitaku]

They are adults you know that don't you? You tell it as it is