Poll... Could you ever have a vanilla relationship again?

[Guest dadBADDY]

Hi everyone! Interested to see what you all answer in this one. I was recently thinking about love and how it just sneaks up on us, and it had me wondering if I'd ever fall back into a vanilla relationship if I found myself falling for someone. I encourage discussion as well, so please share any stories or thoughts you have!

Edited October 17, 2017 by dadBADDY

[Raerwyn Vanya]

Seeing how I now own and  wear girl clothing  sometimes, and  have a Paci on the way...No. Even if my partner  was only 'vanilla' with me. I'll be little. I'll need someone to watch over me when little. Even  now I cant fully  be little because I'm alone, and I. Hate. It.

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

Yes and no (?) Lol. I think in some way or another I would end up introducing my partner in the BDSM or DDLG world. It's just that it's already part of me, and I do not want to have to repress that part of me. Because I did it once when having an asexual partner, and it was so painful for me, for us, that it is not something I want to repeat. I am open with my friends about what I like, the BDSM and the DDLG, so if someone falls in love with me, goes knowing all that and if it bothers you, it is not the right person.

[Guest chilldude]

Possible but unlikely. Voted I don't know

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

No, to me vanilla is an ice cream flavor. My relationships from now on better be kinky, freaky, and funny. The key to happiness in life requires a sense of humor and a dirty mind.

[DaddysMonkey]

I’m going to keep this short and simple ,

 

 

Absolutely fucking not.

 

This is my lifestyle.

[Guest dadBADDY]

I’m going to keep this short and simple ,

 

 

Absolutely fucking not.

 

This is my lifestyle.

lol.. message received!

[Guest dadBADDY]

I suppose I should answer my own question.. I chose I DON"T KNOW.. because I just don't. Sure, maybe I'll meet someone who has what it takes to move me and they're as vanilla as pudding. I don't really want to, though... I want to be a Daddy. But anything is possible..

[Guest Ginger]

I chose no because this is who I am and it's who my husband is. This isn't just a passing fancy, is part of our lives. I'll always have that half of me that's Little and he'll always have that part of him that's my Master.

[Guest Zephy]

No, this is a part of me. I wouldn't even think of trying to change someone vanilla into this lifestyle which is in my opinion impossible nor would I enter a relationship with someone who's vanilla.

[Guest Prat]

I couldn't pull off vanilla relationships even before ddlg haha..

[Guest SUeB]

It's not all about ddlg to us, we have more than that on the the "lifestyle" side. i am submissive first, which is where all the other parts of me in relation to relationships come from. He is my Daddy, my Sir, my Owner, my Master etc. All of that makes us what we are, which is a couple that have an incredibly strong connection, trust, mutual respect and effort etc.

Seeing as i will do everything in my power to stay with Him forever (as He Himself also wants), then it's a no.

But even if the worst was to happen, i could never go back to vanilla. Tried too many times. i will never again try to pretend to be something i am not, to fit into average relationship society.

The vanilla stuff is still important though. This is a genuine, real and full time relationship, not just kink. For instance the other night we sat in His camper van drinking tea and playing a board game after a twelve mile walk. Just like your average pair of vanillas, hehe.

Edited October 17, 2017 by SUeB

[Guest pacibrat]

Yes. I'm a little who doesn't need, or want, all the really strict rules and total control over me (I like to have some though).  My ex wasn't a Daddy and I respected that. I never even brought it up. He wasn't even a dom. Will I always be little? Yes.  When I was single, I learned to indulge little me on my own. I currently live in a household where I cannot be outwardly little (and that's not going to change anytime soon) so I've learned to be inwardly little and then paci and stuffs when I'm alone.

[Untwisted]

I don't think there is one true way on either side of the great divide.  There will be those who identify as being on the kink side who aren't especially kinky at all and others on the vanilla side who enjoy all sorts of strange relationships but wouldn't identify at all with anything on the bdsm/ddlg spectrum.  At what point does doing something a bit unusual cross the line?

 

What label hangs on it is not really important to me.  If the question was "would you change yourself or what you want in order to have a relationship", then the answer would be no.  I don't fear the muggles, I answered "don't know".

[Guest littlelisafrank]

I'm not sure if I could. I highly doubt it. I have to make a connection on every level with a person, including a kink level, so I don't know if I'd ever actually fall in love with someone who wasn't in the scene too. My Littleness is a part of me that isn't going away, and I don't feel like I could take not having the needs that come with that met.

[PrincessPear]

As a polyamorous person, I could totally see myself taking on a vanilla partner if we had the right chemistry. With that said, most of my partners have been kinky people and I prefer to meet potential partners off of Fetlife. That's how I've met all of my Daddy Doms!

[hisangel]

I say no cause this is definitely who I am and this is who my Daddy is and we are married and in this for life. DDLG is exactly what we needed for us.

[Guest Auroraa]

I voted that I didn't know... ddlg relationships as well as a lot of BDSM dynamics are a lot about passion and very intricate connections. I can't say that I've ever had a fully vanilla relationship, just varying degrees of kinky ones. It's the passion I strive for, and since I haven't found that out of a vanilla relationship I couldn't be sure. I suppose it's possible to find that intertwining, heart melting, passion so deep that it sinks into your bones kind of a thing in a vanilla relationship....but it depends what that means to each person. Everyone has a specific kind of love that they need, and we can't really help where we find it. I think it's important to know what you like while also being open to the surprises that your heart may respond to.

 

 

...That being said, I am a little and it would be hard to be in a relationship that didn't meet that need.

Edited October 17, 2017 by Auroraa

[Guest Arc]

I never had a vanilla relationship to start with. I have always been with a dominant. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not, or suppress a major side of myself for anyone. 

[Guest littlelisafrank]

I could never go back to living the vanilla life. It would leave me feeling empty inside, because I would feel pressured to hide the little side of myself, and I just can't go back to that.