What is the difference between a Caregiver and a Daddy Dom

[wanttobebabygirl]

Ok so this may seem like a silly question but when you are new you need to learn these things. So please help what is the difference? Thanks yous in advance for all replies.

[Guest Ginger]

Really it's just what the person wants to go by Plus, Caregiver is pretty gender neutral. 

[Guest Alainnb]

Edit: Thought I should already state it in the beginning: This is NOT a general definition, it's what I personally think just to make it easier for me to seperate! There's always a "between" and you can also see with me as the 2nd comment that everyone thinks about it differently.... it's whatever you think is right for you ^-^ Still, as you asked, I'm going to describe my very own definition:
 

Basically, for me, a caregiver can be a daddy dom as well.... some DO actually differenciate between those two terms, some don't.
However, if you do want to.... the words kinda already imply it. A caregiver would/could be someone just taking care of his/her little and help her, play with her, let her feel little, protected and safe. Same goes for the daddy dom.

The one aspect that comes with "daddy dom" is the dominance.... y'know, daddy DOM They already make rules, enforce them and punish their little if needed. It comes from the term "dom" from BDSM, the top and dominant in a relationship but daddy doms are/can be softer and more caring, also because a little (mostly) needs more aftercare than a normal sub ( here as well: there are littles that can take it easier than others). So....both are daddy's/mommy's but the dom one is more dominant.

In the end though, it's always about how you define it for yourself. I made up this definition by myself so that I can seperate better between the really dominant daddy's/mommy's and the ones just wanting to take care of a little without punishing her/him.

 

Edited October 13, 2017 by Alainnb

[TwilightSparklez]

Edit: Thought I should already state it in the beginning: This is NOT a general definition, it's what I personally think just to make it easier for me to seperate! There's always a "between" and you can also see with me as the 2nd comment that everyone thinks about it differently.... it's whatever you think is right for you ^-^ Still, as you asked, I'm going to describe my very own definition:

 

Basically, for me, a caregiver can be a daddy dom as well.... some DO actually differenciate between those two terms, some don't.

However, if you do want to.... the words kinda already imply it. A caregiver would/could be someone just taking care of his/her little and help her, play with her, let her feel little, protected and safe. Same goes for the daddy dom.

The one aspect that comes with "daddy dom" is the dominance.... y'know, daddy DOM They already make rules, enforce them and punish their little if needed. It comes from the term "dom" from BDSM, the top and dominant in a relationship but daddy doms are/can be softer and more caring, also because a little (mostly) needs more aftercare than a normal sub ( here as well: there are littles that can take it easier than others). So....both are daddy's/mommy's but the dom one is more dominant.

In the end though, it's always about how you define it for yourself. I made up this definition by myself so that I can seperate better between the really dominant daddy's/mommy's and the ones just wanting to take care of a little without punishing her/him.

 

I agree it's definitely about viewpoint and different things are meant to different people. For my personal definition, I come from a BDSM background so the word Dom holds special meaning of someone who's earned that honorific. For me a Daddy is a caregiver that cares nurtures, protects his little, loves their little, and helps their little to grow while taking care of them, playing with them, and being a caregiver. A Daddy Dom, again keeping my background in mind, is someone with lots of years in this lifestyle meaning they've had years to grow as a person, settle themselves in life, know what they're goals are in a relationship and have those traditional Dom tendencies, just a bit softer, while still giving and providing the aforementioned care, love and nurturing.

[Guest dadBADDY]

I was a cg to a girl I worked with and the relationship was strictly platonic (and strictly at work). Thats how I identified with the title. As a daddy though I will be much more than just a caregiver. Daddy Dom is my identity and in a committed relationship I want to embody all of what it means to me.

[sullenDaddybones]

All definitions are "Subjective,"

 

Me being your Daddy may mean I spank you once a week and make you take time out and watch no Cartoons for the rest of the day. 

 

To Another person it may mean I hug you and protect you when you feel sad. That's how simple it is!

 

I have heard CG a few times when involving cash/or financial support though. That's again subjective...

Ok so this may seem like a silly question but when you are new you need to learn these things. So please help what is the difference? Thanks yous in advance for all replies.

[Guest chilldude]

Although they could be interpreted as two different things I don't believe they are. For one cg/l is gender neutral. I also think that being a DD still involves plenty of love, care and trust which comes first and foremost hence the name

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

For me, they are exactly the same, it's just a gender difference. Daddy Dom, for me it covers only one man. Changing a caregiver is a neutral term to refer to men, women, trans, neutral gender, fluid gender, and more etc.

Edited October 14, 2017 by ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾

[meritape]

The DD/LG community often emphasizes that DD/LG is a role play between adults who agree to play their roles as "mommy/daddy" and "baby." It's not incest, not its fetishization - and certainly not pedophilia. DD/LG is, after all, a game of people who have crossed the age of consent but who also nurture their infantilism. I have an elderly acquaintance who used to do it, but now he has dementia! He turned to https://www.thekey.com/learning-center/alzheimers-and-dementia-caregiving/how-to-have-more-good-days-with-dementia. They are helping him now! I recently found out about this fetish and that my acquaintance loves it!

Edited June 6, 2022 by meritape

[Cebakes]

The DD/LG community often emphasizes that DD/LG is a role play between adults who agree to play their roles as "mommy/daddy" and "baby."

Personally I would have to disagree with that, but I strongly believe everyone is free to believe in and identify as whatever they want. I do view myself as a daddydom and S as a middle. While she can have little tendencies, she never relates or acts like a baby. Maybe a brat sometimes…

[daddymind]

"Daddy dom" is a type of caregiver. So I see caregiver as the overarching role and within that there are different types of caregiver (e.g. submissive/dominant, soft/hard discipline when dominant etc.).

 

There's one commonality between all responsible caregivers, however. They all serve the needs of the person they're caring for, whether that need comes from a submissive or dominant place.

 

Also keep in mind that dominance on the daddy's part can be interpreted as dominance in terms of discipline and control and/or dominance in terms of taking ownership of things that the little either can't or does not wish to take ownership of. So dominance itself is a diverse concept. For example, a daddy might take control of the finances and be "dominant" in that way. But he might not administer discipline physically or be sexually dominant.

[Winter Lillee]

It’s different for everyone how they might see things.

For me, I only just learnt that there was a label as caregiver. I realised I needed this as part of the type of DaddyDom I wanted. So I suppose for me, it may be a different thing.

[Thenna]

Hi I'm new and I'm glad reading the post/info. 

 

I realize that my friend is a caregiver when 1) he reveals it 2)he provides what I want and 3) he's also enjoy giving what I want. My relationship with him is...platonic but there are some days or in between conversations that I want certain requests from him. 

 

Thenna

[LittleNyx]

I've just read through this thread.

What would you call a Dom who loves and takes care of littles, understands their needs and language, knows how to guide them...but doesn't identify as a Daddy Dom and not as soft as most Daddies. For a while, I thought that's a caregiver Dom but no. That's completely different.

[lilpincess]

For me, my daddy started out as my caregiver, and he helped with boundaries and rules and whatnot. It was platonic, although I did call him daddy then too. Now it’s more than that, and I get his flirty dom side too, as he describes it. I think it can be defined differently for everyone