So frustated of myself

[fatyknowsnothing]

Hello... thanks for reading this..

 

I’m feeling frustated of myself because i suck at socializing.

I think i always annoying everyone i tried to know, i can’t hold onto good conversation, my brain not function much to make a topic to talk to, always waiting for someone to approach me first.

 

How can i find the courage to reach other people first? I don’t know how to start a conversation. It always end with a super long awkward moment. Even in online, i find myself always ghostlying on the next day cz i don’t know how to start the conversation again. Anxiety attack always come when trying to talk to someone.

 

How can i find a friend if i always like this. I felt like i’m such a loser...

[Guest ~Luna Rawrs~]

I really not sure what to say, but all I know is I somewhat grt the same way you do when I talk to people. Only when I feel truly comfortable do I start to hold a conversation as myself fully.

 

When things get awkward, I sometimes say a random word to make things less awkward. For example, when I was added to a new groupchat on kik with a bunch of strangers cause we all decided vingle wasnt gonna hold all of us in the chat. When everyone stopped talking and it was just awkwards, I felt axious and did what I do best, randomness. So I typed 'PIZZA' in all caps and everyone started talking and laughing, asking me why I said pizza... I dont like awkwardness or silence, unless it is comfortable silence.

 

My point is, just be yourself. If things get awkward, try transitioning from one subject to another, or ask them how their day has been today. And if they say only one worded answers, ask them to elaborate (I absoluting hate it when someone says only one worded answers just saying 'good' isnt good enough) ask them what they like about the day, what they dreaded, if anything bothered them throughout the day.

 

Also I seriously doubt that you are a loser. Having that mindset won't help you make friends. Try talking in the chat, I am mostly on there some days. I will your friend ^°^ if you ever feel awkward or get anxious, just message me and I will be there cause that is what friends are supposed to do

[VinylZac]

if you ever need to talk message me or send me a friend request things never get awkward with me and I will do my best to help you

[Guest McLeodLot65]

People also like to talk about themselves, so whenever there is a lull, ask them something. Where they work, what's their favorite food, whatever. It's not intrusive at all, in fact people will love it. When I am not comfortable, I start asking questions and listening to them, and I make a game to see how long they will talk about themselves before they notice. My record is one hour fifteen minutes.

[Guest Dulci]

Honestly hun; you've taken an amazing step by posting here! That takes a lot of courage. 

 

Just be yourself, and the advice given here is really good. I love the idea of throwing a random word out into the chat (I might try that one next time one of my group chats have awkward silences). 

 

Don't over think it! Starting a conversation can be easy, things like "hey how's your day" or, one I ALWAYS start with "What's the weather like?"; just silly things that gets the flow going. 

 

As others have said, I'm always happy to make new friends and have a chat <3 

[Guest infinitecases]

People also like to talk about themselves, so whenever there is a lull, ask them something. Where they work, what's their favorite food, whatever. It's not intrusive at all, in fact people will love it. When I am not comfortable, I start asking questions and listening to them, and I make a game to see how long they will talk about themselves before they notice. My record is one hour fifteen minutes.

This is so very true - you don't need to talk about yourself or find anything particularly interesting to say, just keep asking them questions and they'll keep answering and go on and on. People always enjoy indulging me with their life experiences :') Once you find something interesting that they say, maybe latch onto it and say you like it too?