New and needing guidance

[Sebastian Michaelis]

As you might be able to guess from the title I am new to the DDlg scene. I have had a bit of experience with being a dominant but other than that I have never delved into this culture. 

 

The girl I am in love with has expressed a desire to be a little and that she feels it is something she needs in her life. Originally I was a bit close minded and thought it was more about sex and honestly I was uncomfortable with the term 'daddy'. I have since been actually looking into DDlg and I have realised their is not only so much more but also that I am actually interested and even feel I could enjoy this lifestyle. 

From what I have read it already reminds me of the relationship me and the girl I love have. I already try to look after her and guide her a lot and this is something I love doing. I love the concept of loving each other totally, helping to guide and support the one you love and it even sounds quite fun. 

 

So what I am asking for is advice from more experienced individuals. What can I read to understand this better? How should me and the girl I love begin this lifestyle? Can someone explain some of the abbreviations or any slang that can be used? Most importantly can someone who is a daddy give me advice on their experience how to be the best daddy for my little?

 

One other thing is that currently we are long distance so if any others have a long distance DDlg relationship can you give me advice on how you make that work? What kind of rewards/punishments you have made? How you create a loving intimate DDlg relationship without physical touch?

I hope I have put this in the right place and I really appreciate any advice given

[Untwisted]

Welcome

I'm glad you've overcome the creepy impression that this can give and discovered what it's really about.

If there is one single piece of advice I would give it is that there is not "one true way". Everyone has their own needs and desires and you should work out what works for you.

I would start out just reading through the forums to get an idea of what matters to people.  There will be things that feel right for you and probably others that don't.   There will be differences of opinion everywhere you look so take your time to form your own.

People here are friendly and keen to help so do ask questions as you go.

Best wishes

[GothicDaddy]

What works for me and my little is lots and lots of communication and honesty. I would reccomend sitting down and asking her what exactly she is looking for out of the dynamic. As far as rewards and punishments go there is no one answer as every relationship is different, (my little loves to work on art projects so when she breaks a minor rule her punishment is 30 minutes of drawing whatever Daddy wants her to draw as opposed to the project she wanted to work on for example).

 

Also when I was first learning about being a Daddy I found fetlife to be an amazing resource to help me define and understand not only the dynamic but what I wanted from it. If you ever need to chat feel free to hit me up.

 

(personaly wanting to be the best Daddy to my little is what drives me to strive for the best, not only for my little but myself)