Attached Too Fast..

[JJBee]

Hiya.. I’m a little/middle and umm.. how do I stop getting attached? When the person goes away.. I hurt inside and it’s all my fault because I get attached too fast. I always end up.. alone. Any advice?

[Buffalo]

Love yourself first, be happy with who you are. Don't need someone to be happy, want someone and be happier!

[LittleBabyBunny<3]

I know how you feel, I get attached to people too  I tend to think with my heart and not my head! 

 

I am assuming you're taking about caregivers and not people in general?

 

For me, I try to be careful not to get attached, I'll enjoy the person's company but it's important not to become emotionally dependent on them. Take things slow with them if you find yourself getting too attached. It's healthy to take some time away from them every now and again, this can even be just spending some time to yourself as a mental break, you need to find a hobby to focus your energy on so that you're not becoming too dependent on them. You need to be okay on your own, they should just add to your happiness but not be the sole purpose to it. This is important because if they do leave you will become lost without them As littles we have a sensitive heart and need to be able to protect it and be cautious at first... someday the right daddy/mommy will come along and make you feel safe enough to depend on them. Just always be a little careful. 

 

It's kind of hard to explain and can be hard to do.. it's a work in progress...but you'll get there... best of luck girl

Edited October 11, 2017 by danidee

[JJBee]

So.. why do they contact me.. and ignore me the next day? Makes me sad

[LittleBabyBunny<3]

I wish I knew! I don't know why...but I usually go by this "if a guy really wants to take to a girl... he will make the effort to". I know it hurts to hear but sometimes it could be that they are not interested. Of course there is the odd exceptions, but a majority of the time you can tell if someone is interested in talking to you or not. I'm sorry, this is why you need to try not to get too attach and be careful

 

I'm here if you need a friend  

Edited October 11, 2017 by danidee

[Guest jimmy3737]

There are some out there who will try to see how quickly they can get what they want.  They will play very nice and sincere, but in reality, they are not.  It can be very taxing on you and make you feel very unwanted.  I always tell new littles that I meet who are going thru similar situations that they have to put themselves first and learn to be as independent as they can until they meet the right person.  I can assure you that there is nothing wrong with you.  Be patient.  Hang in there.  You will meet him when you least expect it.  Until then, surround yourself with friends who can help you when you need it.  Stay strong.  Stay safe.

[Guest McLeodLot65]

Q: the last times this happened, were you just talking to one caregiver? It's easy to get wrapped up in a person if they're the only one you spend any time with, or talk to. Like jimmy37 said above, have friends. Plural. Talk to lots of people - besides increaing your chances of finding the One, it also keeps you from putting all your eggs in one basket.

[Guest chilldude]

Try to expect nothing, and you will only be pleasantly surprised

[JJBee]

No matter who it is I always get too close. But you’re all right.. I need to not rely ALL of my happiness on someone else. But I’m not sure how to be happy on my own.

[Guest dadBADDY]

I don't think you get too close JJBee. They just don't get close enough! If your heart wants to be close, just let it. Don't grow up and grow out of it... then you'll just be like everyone else, with barricades up and no one can get in. Sending you positive energy and virtual  hugs.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

The struggle.  It's real.

 

Getting Attached Too Quickly: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/8937-getting-attached-too-quickly/

[Sophipop]

Love yourself when you are alone, and you have the curse of being honest and loving. I hope you can view it as a strength. When somebody stays, that's when you know that that's a real relationship and you can start sharing more and getting closer. 
Some people leave, all that can be said is that it's not meant to be. 

[Guest DaddyScempio]

I'll add you if you don't just read my message and actually respond^^ Seems to be the thing with me..everyone wants attention, just not from me so I get ignored quite a bit. Do things that make you happy..art, photography, running or taking a walk, movies, video games..what ever your escape from reality is and enjoy it with the company of yourself. Living alone like myself can make that challenging so I play video games to distract myself from feeling down. Some days are easier, some are a lot more difficult.

[Untwisted]

How fast is too fast?  Are you talking about the initial stages of getting to know someone, or further into a relationship?