Moving in with daddy

[Guest sunnybaby]

I've been with my daddy for a little over a month now and we're in an LDR relationship. I understand how hard it is to be away from the person you love. I really do. It sucks massively. However, we both agreed I'd stay here and finish my AA and since I was already planning on moving to his state for my BA, we decided we'll move in together then. (next summerish). I think as long as you communicate your concerns with him and at least go visit first to see if you're really ready, then you guys should do it. If it doesn't work out you don't have to stay, but there is always the chance everything will work out fine. I'm only a message away if you need to talk! ^-^

[Guest Arc]

Dating online and skyping? Have you even met him in real life?? Spend some time with him in person. People can easily act differently online to in person.... 

[KittyKat3]

I'm sorry but that sounds crazy! If you haven't met them or have known them for a while then you should NOT move in with them just because things are bad at home. Please be careful and don't be naive...you have to think long term. It's very scary to move to a foreign place with someone you barely know or have spent enough time with to even know that you are ready for that. 

[Mr. Danes]

Wow, the fear level here is thick. None of you know the man, nor do you know her home life and definitely not the conversations they had. Hypocrite society judges us without knowing, I did not expect to find it here.

 

lilLibra, if you are not mentally handicapped, then go move in with him and get safe and happier, however do take serious precautions. Such as going to the police and telling them where your moving to or a family member you trust or a friend  or someone. A call a week for the first 6 months or every day. There are many ways to protect yourself, so that you get to do what you want and be safe.

 

Fellow members, you have given her your reasons why not, please be fair and help her to do what she desires in a safe way. Give her things she can do to better protect herself. In my experience, shutting down what a person really wants/needs to do, does not help them.

News and movies instill fear, truth is lost.

[bbybrit]

Wow, the fear level here is thick. None of you know the man, nor do you know her home life and definitely not the conversations they had. Hypocrite society judges us without knowing, I did not expect to find it here.

 

lilLibra, if you are not mentally handicapped, then go move in with him and get safe and happier, however do take serious precautions. Such as going to the police and telling them where your moving to or a family member you trust or a friend  or someone. A call a week for the first 6 months or every day. There are many ways to protect yourself, so that you get to do what you want and be safe.

 

Fellow members, you have given her your reasons why not, please be fair and help her to do what she desires in a safe way. Give her things she can do to better protect herself. In my experience, shutting down what a person really wants/needs to do, does not help them.

News and movies instill fear, truth is lost

Her moving in with a guy that she has never met in person is not away  to get safe or happier. You NEVER move far away to live with a person you've only been talking to online. You can skype and text with a person all day every day and still not know the real person. None of what we are saying is fear instilled by news or movies but common sense that this isnt safe.

[Princess Jessie]

Hi 

 

Yes, I have a similar experience.    In February this year I met online this guy who lived in another state. We were absolutely drawn together!! We were so attached that we were messaging and calling each other whenever we got the chance. 3 months later we met up and it was AMAZING! We realised that we truly loved and adored each other. Around 1 to 2 times every month we would visit each other. I would get on a plane to stay with him at his house and he would get on a plane to stay with me in my house. One time he proposed to me so we are now engaged! The last time that he had to leave to go home, I couldn't stop crying when I had to say goodbye to him at the airport. It would break me so much having to see him leave. So that day I changed my mind and realised that we NEED to live together and as soon as possible! An absolute roller coaster of emotions along with heartbreaking decisions were being made over the next month. But after a lot of contemplation and discussions with my family, his family, and my boss, I decided to move in with my favourite boy in the world. I gave up EVERYTHING! I quit my job, I packed up as much as I could from my bedroom and packed it all into my car, I said goodbye to family, and said goodbye to my dog (that was the hardest thing!). My fiance caught a plane ride to my state and stayed overnight in our house. Everything was already packed and in the car. And the next morning we drove together to his house in another state. It was an 8 hour drive and we did it over 2 days. We had so much fun! We stayed overnight in a motel, and got back to the road the next morning. I had to move EVERYTHING out of my car and into the house. It took ages to unpack all of my clothes and my books and my games. I have been living here with my fiance/daddy exactly one month now and I love him more and more everyday! He is such a beautiful person who looks after me so well!  It hasn't been easy... As I already mentioned, I gave up everything to move here. I gave up my job and my family and my dog and everything I knew about my home state. I am living with my daddy and his family in their house. I am unemployed so I am home all day which is hard. I am still looking for a job and have two interviews tomorrow so hopefully I get at least one of them! It's hard having no income and a relief that I had some savings previously and my mum has helped me out a bit financially. Also, it's hard being in a place where you don't know anyone and don't know the area. One time me and daddy had a little fight (it wasn't anything too big) but I needed some space for a bit. I had nowhere to go. I didn't know where to go. So I sat at the nearby park in the freezing cold at 8pm in the darkness. It felt really unsafe so I went back to him. It's also hard as I miss my family at home. But I keep in contact with them every day. On the bright side, I am absolutely loving being with my daddy. Once I have a job and save up a bit, me and him are going to move to our own home together which is very exciting! It's so amazing being able to kiss and cuddle daddy whenever I want. It's much better than hearing a kiss over the phone!! It was definitely the right decision for me to move here to be with him!

 

So yeah, it's a very big decision moving to a different area to move in with your daddy! It's very important to know that it's definitely what you WANT to do! I'm very excited for you and hope he is as lovely as my daddy and will look after you and welcome you into his home. Please just make sure of the following:

- You have some savings in your own bank account. A few thousand dollars should do. + a little extra if you plan on studying or receiving some form of education once you move. I moved with $5000 and it's doing me well. You won't believe how quickly you can go through it when buying food or just the basic necessities of life! 

- Make sure your daddy is the ONE! Make sure he will definitely look after you and care for you. It would be a good idea to do a visit first to make sure you definitely want to live with him, because making the move is very official and not so easy to turn around from.

- Make sure you have a plan... about everything! Consider everything. How are you going to get your belongings to his house? Where are you going to store your clothes in his house? Where are you going to store all of your books/games etc? Does he have a big enough bed for the two of you? Is his family okay with you staying (if he still lives with his parents)? Who will you need to contact to update your postal address? Etc, etc.

 

Good luck! I wish you all the best with your move!      Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or need any help with anything. I've learnt a lot from this experience and would be happy to help if you needed any guidance. 

 

Peace and love,

Jessie 

[Guest SUeB]

You have never met face to face but you are moving in with him? Sorry but that's a terrible and incredibly dangerous idea.

[Guest Arc]

Maybe try visit him for a weekend or a week? See how things go. Actually meet him and do not rush into things. I understand wanting to leave home. I had a bad life at home, but I would never have risked my safety or life to get out. 

 

Mr Danes - it's not fear levels. It's common sense. Don't put yourself in potentially dangerous situations if you can help it. Moving in with someone is  massive even if you do know them. So moving in with someone you never met is even bigger. We're just saying she should get to know him in person to minimise her chances of things going wrong and her getting hurt. We are giving her things to keep her safe - like suggesting actually meeting him first! We're not judging her. We just want her to be safe. If things work out then that's great, but I still think it's in her best interest to stay where she is until she has the opportunity to meet this guy in person and maybe stay with him a few days first to see if it works out. 

[Untwisted]

go move in with him and get safe and happier, however do take serious precautions. Such as going to the police

 

 

Involve the police?  Is that normal?  Does that imply there's nothing to worry about?

What are the police going to do? Check every day that she's happy and take her home if not?

The best precaution is to know who you're moving in with beyond the controlled environment of online/phone conversations.  

 

She has voiced concerns herself here and elsewhere about what she's getting involved in, and asked for advice.  Anyone with concerns has a moral duty to raise those concerns so that she can at least maybe take a moment and think about the reality.

 

If I met a young woman online who was willing to uproot her life and move in with me without ever having met, I would be somewhat wary about that.  

 

@lilLibra, this is the older guy you were possibly concerned about in another post? Is moving in his idea or yours?  Is he not interested in meeting you beforehand?  I wish you the very best, but do think hard and don't be in a rush.

 

[Guest SUeB]

Mr Danes, i am assuming you are an adult with hopefully some sense. Your post does not give either of those two things any credit. Are you actually telling a young woman that she is perfectly safe and sensible to flee to live with some dude she has never met? Are you honestly berating the sensible and sane amongst us here that are warning of how potentially dangerous and downright crazy that idea is? No offence to the op, but come on, seriously? It is comments such as yours that she is maybe looking for to ease her obviously doubtful mind. You are giving someone that shows signs of real naivity and vulnerability the nod to run off and do something that has massive potential to do her REAL HARM. Please get real, for goodness sake. Edited October 11, 2017 by SUeB

[Mr. Danes]

No SUeB, it was not my intention to berate and I apologize if any felt that way. 

My point was simply this, To help a person is to give them different ways to do what they desire in a safe way. Not focus on the bad or bring your own life beliefs into it and say NO. It should be for that person. Most think the guy is most probably a danger, yet what if he thinks he's the luckiest guy in the world and cherishes her? So many possibilities and yes one is that he is a creep, so take precautions. Her home life is much more of a concern, do you know what it's like not to feel safe in your own home? The not knowing when shit is coming, but it always does.

I've travelled Canada 4 times from coast to coast, down the States to Florida 3 times and through Mexico once, hitch-hiking, car, bus, car.. and all I heard was "NO" fear, fear of people, of crazies, of creeps, of bad people, dangerous people and the final result was I had met only two out of the hundreds that were bad.

 

Untwisted, people were just an example.

 

Arc, I've read many of your advice giving. I respect you, your knowledge most. I agree with you and I was not talking about judging her, but judging him. I'm just saying not to focus on the bad and help her. 

I've moved in with a number of females after one night and vice versa, nothing gives you a clearer/better understanding of the other person.

 

Princess Jessie, thank you for your imput, I love a love story. If more people took chances, more relationships would flourish.

[Mr. Danes]

* correction

 

Untwisted, police was just an example

[Mr. Danes]

This community is suppose to be for daddies and little girls, shouldn't we support and help instead of knock down?

We have enough of that from society. 

Daddies accused of being pedophiles, even with the female being over 2-19? Accused of manipulating/coercing? etc.

My gf and I split after 7 years 6 months ago and I was accused of many terrible things and she was constantly defending what she wanted most? Not a way to live, but society does not get us yet. She was 26 when she left and I helped her get settled.

 

Let's support each other/help each other for the life we desire.

[bbybrit]

This community is suppose to be for daddies and little girls, shouldn't we support and help instead of knock down?

We have enough of that from society. 

Daddies accused of being pedophiles, even with the female being over 2-19? Accused of manipulating/coercing? etc.

My gf and I split after 7 years 6 months ago and I was accused of many terrible things and she was constantly defending what she wanted most? Not a way to live, but society does not get us yet. She was 26 when she left and I helped her get settled.

 

Let's support each other/help each other for the life we desire.

If trying to keep someone who is very obviously not using her head safe and sound and telling her to wait until she actually meets the dude is knocking her down then I don't want to be in the community anymore. The only thing we are trying to do is keep her safe and make sure she doesn't hop from the frying pan into the fire.

[Untwisted]

We should indeed support and help.  That is exactly what is this site is about.

 

The thing with a site like this is that it has more than it's fair share of young women who are maybe somewhat submissive, insecure, inexperienced and lacking in self confidence.  Yes, I know that's not everybody and that everybody's different, but if someone's looking for vulnerable young women, it's probably a good place to start.  

Spoiler alert. There will be predators and manipulators on this site.

Girls are taken advantage of all the time, it's a sad fact of life.  It's not often that anyone is given an opportunity to intervene but given the situation here, people here whether they're daddies, littles, whatevers are going to go into protective mode and offer all the support and help that they can.

Specifically here, 2 days ago, op posted that she'd recently found a daddy.  She was nervous about the age difference and being taken advantage of.
1 day ago posted that she's in the process of moving in with him, again the word nervous.
It turns out they have never met.

Now he might be the nicest most genuine guy in the world, or he might be a seasoned manipulator, we don't know.

People will do what they want in the end and nobody here can stop them.  All we can do is voice our concerns and reason against it.  

The next girl in this situation who comes here and reads this, did she find the nice guy or the mad guy with the cellar?  And the next?

There's plenty of good in the world, but there's plenty of bad too. I've been around long enough to know what goes on.

 

This is supposed to be a safe place, people want to keep everyone here safe.

[Daddy's_Daisy]

I feel like the most simple answer would be that this is a bad idea. Have you considered meeting in person before you move in with him? Leaving your home to live with someone is a really big step, and not something that you should rush into regardless of your home situation. I also noticed on your post about his age that you had replied to someone and told them that you were easily taken advantage of....please be careful and really think through your decision before jumping into living with him.

[LittleBabyBunny<3]

Hi 

 

Yes, I have a similar experience.    In February this year I met online this guy who lived in another state. We were absolutely drawn together!! We were so attached that we were messaging and calling each other whenever we got the chance. 3 months later we met up and it was AMAZING! We realised that we truly loved and adored each other. Around 1 to 2 times every month we would visit each other. I would get on a plane to stay with him at his house and he would get on a plane to stay with me in my house. One time he proposed to me so we are now engaged! The last time that he had to leave to go home, I couldn't stop crying when I had to say goodbye to him at the airport. It would break me so much having to see him leave. So that day I changed my mind and realised that we NEED to live together and as soon as possible! An absolute roller coaster of emotions along with heartbreaking decisions were being made over the next month. But after a lot of contemplation and discussions with my family, his family, and my boss, I decided to move in with my favourite boy in the world. I gave up EVERYTHING! I quit my job, I packed up as much as I could from my bedroom and packed it all into my car, I said goodbye to family, and said goodbye to my dog (that was the hardest thing!). My fiance caught a plane ride to my state and stayed overnight in our house. Everything was already packed and in the car. And the next morning we drove together to his house in another state. It was an 8 hour drive and we did it over 2 days. We had so much fun! We stayed overnight in a motel, and got back to the road the next morning. I had to move EVERYTHING out of my car and into the house. It took ages to unpack all of my clothes and my books and my games. I have been living here with my fiance/daddy exactly one month now and I love him more and more everyday! He is such a beautiful person who looks after me so well!  It hasn't been easy... As I already mentioned, I gave up everything to move here. I gave up my job and my family and my dog and everything I knew about my home state. I am living with my daddy and his family in their house. I am unemployed so I am home all day which is hard. I am still looking for a job and have two interviews tomorrow so hopefully I get at least one of them! It's hard having no income and a relief that I had some savings previously and my mum has helped me out a bit financially. Also, it's hard being in a place where you don't know anyone and don't know the area. One time me and daddy had a little fight (it wasn't anything too big) but I needed some space for a bit. I had nowhere to go. I didn't know where to go. So I sat at the nearby park in the freezing cold at 8pm in the darkness. It felt really unsafe so I went back to him. It's also hard as I miss my family at home. But I keep in contact with them every day. On the bright side, I am absolutely loving being with my daddy. Once I have a job and save up a bit, me and him are going to move to our own home together which is very exciting! It's so amazing being able to kiss and cuddle daddy whenever I want. It's much better than hearing a kiss over the phone!! It was definitely the right decision for me to move here to be with him!

 

So yeah, it's a very big decision moving to a different area to move in with your daddy! It's very important to know that it's definitely what you WANT to do! I'm very excited for you and hope he is as lovely as my daddy and will look after you and welcome you into his home. Please just make sure of the following:

- You have some savings in your own bank account. A few thousand dollars should do. + a little extra if you plan on studying or receiving some form of education once you move. I moved with $5000 and it's doing me well. You won't believe how quickly you can go through it when buying food or just the basic necessities of life! 

- Make sure your daddy is the ONE! Make sure he will definitely look after you and care for you. It would be a good idea to do a visit first to make sure you definitely want to live with him, because making the move is very official and not so easy to turn around from.

- Make sure you have a plan... about everything! Consider everything. How are you going to get your belongings to his house? Where are you going to store your clothes in his house? Where are you going to store all of your books/games etc? Does he have a big enough bed for the two of you? Is his family okay with you staying (if he still lives with his parents)? Who will you need to contact to update your postal address? Etc, etc.

 

Good luck! I wish you all the best with your move!      Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or need any help with anything. I've learnt a lot from this experience and would be happy to help if you needed any guidance. 

 

Peace and love,

Jessie 

 

Omg this is such a cute story 

[neko]

I am so confused. You posted on the 9th that you JUST recently found a Daddy that was over 20 years older now (assuming its the same guy) want to move in with him? Unless you're trying to two-time daddies or something.

[PrincessKittenCupcake]

Is it possible for you to visit him, first?

 

People have already expressed concerns about your safety, but what about the community? How do you know that you would be comfortable living in that area? What are the job prospects like in his town? Is it a safe neighborhood? How feasible would it be to continue your education there? If it's a more rural area, you might not have access to the same resources you do in your current city.

[Leo_Ascendent]

It kinda seems like you're hellbent on moving in with him and just want to hear why you should move in with vs why you shouldn't move in with him.

 

Yeah this. First you say you've known him for "months" (quoting you), then it's a year, then you've been talking for a year and only started a relationship with him, what, last week? You know what you want to do and are making excuses whenever someone says don't, so why bother asking if you only want to hear one thing, which is approval? How well do you HONESTLY know this person? Have you ever talked face to face? Just texts? Like someone else said, he has absolute control, if you make him mad, guess what, you could be homeless, without food, without anything.

 

But you clearly want this, so don't let anyone here persuade you.

 

 

Yea you may we have been talking on and off for over a year... 

When we first started talking i was 17 so i was skeptical and all..

 

And THIS is just creepy AF. He knew you were underage and at almost 40 years old, he still pursued you. Dude is a "P-file", no buts about it.

 

 

Wow, the fear level here is thick. None of you know the man, nor do you know her home life and definitely not the conversations they had. Hypocrite society judges us without knowing, I did not expect to find it here.

 

lilLibra, if you are not mentally handicapped, then go move in with him and get safe and happier, however do take serious precautions. Such as going to the police and telling them where your moving to or a family member you trust or a friend  or someone. A call a week for the first 6 months or every day. There are many ways to protect yourself, so that you get to do what you want and be safe.

 

Fellow members, you have given her your reasons why not, please be fair and help her to do what she desires in a safe way. Give her things she can do to better protect herself. In my experience, shutting down what a person really wants/needs to do, does not help them.

News and movies instill fear, truth is lost.

 

Truth is lost? Are you f---- insane? Do you know how many people are abducted? Truth, and logic, are lost on you. 

 

400,000 people were raped in 2015, a damn good reason to be worried.

Over 500,000 people are reported missing a year, 5% are UNDER 18.

 

Are these simple, Google-able, numbers not enough? If not, I wish I lived in the fantasy world you live in. Look it up, it's a s---- world out there.

a s---- world out there.

Edited October 14, 2017 by Leo_Ascendent

[Guest SUeB]

Yeah this. First you say you've known him for "months" (quoting you), then it's a year, then you've been talking for a year and only started a relationship with him, what, last week? You know what you want to do and are making excuses whenever someone says don't, so why bother asking if you only want to hear one thing, which is approval? How well do you HONESTLY know this person? Have you ever talked face to face? Just texts? Like someone else said, he has absolute control, if you make him mad, guess what, you could be homeless, without food, without anything.

 

But you clearly want this, so don't let anyone here persuade you.

 

 

 

And THIS is just creepy AF. He knew you were underage and at almost 40 years old, he still pursued you. Dude is a "P-file", no buts about it.

 

 

 

Truth is lost? Are you f---- insane? Do you know how many people are abducted? Truth, and logic, are lost on you.

 

400,000 people were raped in 2015, a damn good reason to be worried.

Over 500,000 people are reported missing a year, 5% are UNDER 18.

 

Are these simple, Google-able, numbers not enough? If not, I wish I lived in the fantasy world you live in. Look it up, it's a s---- world out there.

a s---- world out there.

Yep. This. Pretty much all of it.