Daddy's age?

[Guest lilLibra]

Hey everyone...

I need a little bit of advice..

I just recently found a daddy but he is significantly older than me..

I was wondering if any other littles or daddies have big age differences with their daddies?

The age difference is over 20 years it makes me a little nervous ):

I just dont want to be taken advantage of!!

[Tommybaww]

I'm 48 and my princess is 18. It all depends on the people involved. Works great for us and we're doing fine

[Guest SUeB]

I am 46 years old and my Daddy is 69. That's a gap of 23 years. And we work perfectly well together. To be honest though, He is nothing like your average man of that age. He is "younger" than most in their fifties or even forties. His attitude and physical level (in more than one way, hehe) are pretty fantastic for His age.

[Guest SUeB]

The age difference is over 20 years it makes me a little nervous ):

I just dont want to be taken advantage of!!

Just noticed the last comment. Don't understand how an older man is more likely to take advantage of you? If you are someone easily taken advantage of, it wouldn't matter how young or old the man was.

[KittyKat3]

Hi! Well, that's a personal preference and it depends on what kind of man he is, not the age. But personally, I never liked having such a significance age difference. My fiancee (Daddy) and I are the same age and I love that because we experience life together and are able to have a lot of things in common. I wouldn't rule it out, just be careful....regardless of age.

[Guest lilLibra]

Just noticed the last comment. Don't understand how an older man is more likely to take advantage of you? If you are someone easily taken advantage of, it wouldn't matter how young or old the man was.

I guess not and i am easily taken advantage of but my daddy seems really sincere!

[Creepy_Pirates]

Regardless of the age be careful. If you are feeling even remotely uncomfortable then take it slow. If he rushes you, forces you or doesn't respect that than maybe you should reconsider it. I would feel a little uneasy about it myself so i understand the concern.

[osito]

Regardless of the age be careful. If you are feeling even remotely uncomfortable then take it slow. If he rushes you, forces you or doesn't respect that than maybe you should reconsider it. I would feel a little uneasy about it myself so i understand the concern.

This. Regardless of age.

[Guest Arc]

My Daddy is literally twice my age, which means he's 20 years older than me. I don't have any problems with it, personally. For me things are all about the connection you share with a person, and we have a great connection. Age doesn't bother me at all. 

 

You can be taken advantage of by someone of any age. If you have a good connection with this guy then age shouldn't stop you. Just keep yourself safe, and always put your own happiness and safety first  

[Guest NewYorkDaddy]

Hey everyone...

I need a little bit of advice..

I just recently found a daddy but he is significantly older than me..

I was wondering if any other littles or daddies have big age differences with their daddies?

The age difference is over 20 years it makes me a little nervous ):

I just dont want to be taken advantage of!!

You're most likely being taken advantage of. I'm all for age gaps but think about it. What could you possibly have in common with this guy?

Does the relationship have long term potential? Would he be able to hang out with your friends? Meet your parents? Move in to your social circle? This guy is definitely has a strong fetish for your age.

 

Let's assume he's 50 now, in ten years you may want to start a family. At 60 he will be close to retiring. He'll be dead when you're on the cusp of entering middle age.

 

Are you sure he isn't married? You might be old as some of kids which means that your relationship will most likely be secret.

 

Is that something you'd be ok with? Seems a bit undignified but good luck if you choose to date him.

 

I need to be the voice of reason because everyone here is not thinking critically and frankly I believe you don't want a ton of people that agree with you. You want honest and well thought out opinions.

Edited October 9, 2017 by NewYorkDaddy

[Guest Arc]

You say you're all for age gaps but everything you said after shows that you're not really... 

 

What did she say that gives you the idea that he's likely taking advantage of her? You don't know their situation. For all you know they could have a really good connection and relationship. 

 

You can have relationships without the goal of a life long relationship. If he is what makes her happy now then that is all that matters. They could have plenty in common. Her friends should only care about if he makes her happy, so if they were real friends he would be able to hang out with them. 

 

Are you saying all older guys with younger girls have a fetish for their age? Perhaps they just have a real connection. When I met my Daddy he had no way of telling my age because I was at a latex event wearing a full catsuit and hood. We hit it off straight away. No way he could tell my age by my eyes - they were the only part of me that was visible. 

 

You seem extremely judgemental. If she's happy with the relationship then that's all that matters. 

[Guest NewYorkDaddy]

You say you're all for age gaps but everything you said after shows that you're not really... 

 

What did she say that gives you the idea that he's likely taking advantage of her? You don't know their situation. For all you know they could have a really good connection and relationship. 

 

You can have relationships without the goal of a life long relationship. If he is what makes her happy now then that is all that matters. They could have plenty in common. Her friends should only care about if he makes her happy, so if they were real friends he would be able to hang out with them. 

 

Are you saying all older guys with younger girls have a fetish for their age? Perhaps they just have a real connection. When I met my Daddy he had no way of telling my age because I was at a latex event wearing a full catsuit and hood. We hit it off straight away. No way he could tell my age by my eyes - they were the only part of me that was visible. 

 

You seem extremely judgemental. If she's happy with the relationship then that's all that matters. 

10 years is a good number, 8-10 gap.

 

Look I made some good points. You can say what if all you want. She'll make her decision and godspeed.

 

Stop projecting and look at this objectively. This has nothing to do with your catsuit experience. 

[neko]

10 years is a good number, 8-10 gap.

 

Look I made some good points. You can say what if all you want. She'll make her decision and godspeed.

 

Stop projecting and look at this objectively. This has nothing to do with your catsuit experience.

 

Just because you made a couple of good points, doesnt mean your bad points mean nothing.

 

You say you're all for age gap relationships but continue to say bad thinfs about her situation.

 

We know nothing about what she wants from a relationship. We dont even know if it's online or not which would kind of omit your whole "having kids" tirade

 

Also most of your points have to do with the future in 10 years which is irrelevant to the situation right now.

 

Being the voice of reason doesn't mean you need to be rude to OP.

Edited October 10, 2017 by neko

[Guest Arc]

10 years is a good number, 8-10 gap.

 

Look I made some good points. You can say what if all you want. She'll make her decision and godspeed.

 

Stop projecting and look at this objectively. This has nothing to do with your catsuit experience. 

 

 

Actually if you had read what I said correctly... you were saying guys go for girls that much younger because it's a fetish. I was saying not all guys are like that, and giving my experience as an example. 

 

If you're for up to 10 year gap, then say that. Don't say your for age gaps and then be rude about hers. She might not be looking for a life long thing - she might be looking for exactly what she has. 

[Untwisted]

There are plenty of relationships that have age gaps of varying sizes, some because that's what people have sought out and some because that's just what happened. 

 

Some people do have a preference for an age gap, be that older or younger.  Is it something of a fetish, in many cases, yes, and why not?  This is a ddlg forum after all and anyone's fetish or strange desire is their own business and, as long as it's not harming anyone or illegal, shouldn't be regarded as better or worse than anyone else's.

I'm unashamedly one of those who has a thing for an age gap.  That doesn't mean I'm out to take what I can get and offer nothing in return.  I'm 49 and as far as I'm concerned, I don't see anything wrong with me finding women half my age appealing.  So yes, I have an age gap fetish; that's my business.

There is the argument that you could have nothing in common with someone a lot older or younger.  That my be true in some cases, but there are plenty of things that people of all ages can be interested in, and having the perspective of someone of another generation can be interesting in itself.  It's not only the young that can learn from the old.

There are those who will assert that an age gap in a ddlg relationship is the way that it should be, that someone can only be a daddy if they have sufficient age and life experience.  I don't agree with that either.  If someone the same age or younger can fulfil that role for someone, why not?  If that person's only 18 or 20, why not?

People who will take advantage will do that regardless of age, doesn't matter if they're 18 or 88.  However, an older more experienced manipulator will have an easier job with someone younger and less experienced and may tend to target those people, so there's nothing at all wrong with being wary of that.

To the OP, just be cautious, keep things at a pace you're comfortable with and try not to get swept away too quickly.  I wish you the best of luck.

[Guest SUeB]

Oh dear, i had better end my relationship with the best Man i have ever met, because in His late sixties, He's obviously going to drop dead at any minute. And He's clearly taking advantage of me too, cos that's what ALL older men do. Oh wait, what about the younger girls that would take advantage of the older man? Oh no, that would never happen!

And his two daughters that are basically the same age as me? Oh no....this must mean he will never tell them about me. Oh wait, He already has, and they're perfectly ok with it, and we are currently arranging for me to meet them and their respective families. Darn, it must be a trick of some kind!!

Oh if only i had such wisdom to end the most perfect relationship i have ever experienced, before it started, with the wise comments of the great and wise poster from earlier.

Jeeper's, and that's the most polite way i can bring myself to answer that utter pile of nonsense. Sarcasm. It can be useful.

Edited October 10, 2017 by SUeB

[Guest dadBADDY]

I'm not gonna pile on, I'll only say I disagree with NewYorkDaddy. You can make an argument for whatever you want and be correct, because you'll always find examples in the real world to back up your opinion. I'm of the opinion that being with someone much younger than myself is not an issue, and so I'll find someone and it won't be an issue. If you think it would be an issue for you, then it will be.

 

To lilLibra, be weary of advice on both sides of the argument. Listen to yourself and do what feels right for you.

[Persephone_Persephone]

Having read this and your recent other post about moving in with your daddy who you recently met and is significantly older then you. Alarm bells are ringing.

If all you were looking for was online or none commitment then sure go for it. However planning to move far away from your family (even if you have issues with them) moving schools and joining a much older man you have recently met is ludicrous.

There is so much potential here to find your self in an awful situation and if he was the one who suggested you move away from your home after only recently meeting I suggest you stay away. Thats not safe or normal dating.

Thats a longterm commitment that will affect your life.

And if people are suggesting to follow your heart they are forgetting one thing you must take your brain along with you. This isnt a well thought out idea.

[DaddySweetDaddy]

Its really quite simple.

 

It takes emotional intelligence to have a successful relationship of any kind, and a large age gap relationship is certainly no exception.  

 

1) Don't move in with anyone you don't know really really well.

2) If there is a huge age difference you must be utterly at peace with the differences that will  blatantly and palpably show up in social situations of all kinds.  Not only be at peace but have the strength of character to gracefully and with humor deflect all the judgement that will come your way.

3) No relationship is always easy, there are no guarantees, always be prepared for tragedy but don't expect it.

4) Self interest motivates everyone, so just take the time to be sure that the willingness and capacity to be truly cared and genuinely supported for your goals and needs for is both within you and and is being given to you. 

5) Older daddies need to be prepared to let a younger little go who may very well blossom into a young woman who doesn't need you anymore and has outgrown her need and desire to be with you. So it is upon you to nurture her true life path as it unfurls and reveals to her and not expect that she will be your nursemaid when you are really old.  

 

 

Its simple really, but so few of us can actually live by these principals. 

[LittleGirlEmilia]

Daddy and I are one year apart, but I've had experiences with older men at your age, so I'd like to weigh in here and point out some... red flags. 

 

I just recently found a daddy but he is significantly older than me..

You just recently found a daddy, how recent is recently? Has he been around long enough to earn the title of daddy? Even vanilla relationships, age gaps occur, is it just because of the dynamic of the relationship it makes you feel uncomfortable? Or is it his age?

 

 

I just dont want to be taken advantage of!!

If you have a gut feeling you're going to be taken advantage of, I'd suggest follow your instinct. Or it could be, you're just not ready for a relationship right now?

 

And here's some things you've said that make me concerned. 

 

I am currently in the process of moving in with mine and I am a little nervous that being someplace that I do not know anyone else except daddy...

has anyone had a similar experience? 

As someone pointed out, you had only known him a few days.

 

I have known him for months and he has been nothing but kind to me...

Oops, sorry, months.

But what about the personal you put up only two days before wanting to move in with him?

 

As of then no he was not my daddy......

As of yesterday yes he was..

Fair enough, well, you've known him a few months, but he's only been your daddy for a few days......

 

Yah.............. Its more like a year...

Ok, so it's a year now....

 

When we first started talking i was 17 so i was skeptical and all..

Yes, as you should be.

 

we have dated on and off for a while due to me trying to supress my feelings for him..

What? While you were 17? Suppressing feelings isn't exactly.. Healthy.

 

yes i would have to start all over but i know i will be attending school and getting a job

i can not drive yet but he goes all over so id go with him..

So you'd be 100% dependant on him in an unfamiliar place?

 

 

And as you mentioned in your other post, he's on here too. Where exactly did you two meet? 

 

I don't know what the truth is here, but it sounds like you're not 18 (hence how the longevity of you knowing him has fluctuated), you're focused on becoming an adult quickly to move out asap and you see this older man as the perfect escape plan, but on his side, he has somehow found an underage girl in the lifestyle and as a much older man, he should know that moving in so quickly, isn't the greatest move, like for real, days, so what's his logic in it all?

 

So, to put it bluntly, this all sounds super dodgy. 

 

Just because you're in the lifestyle, it doesn't mean all common sense goes out the window. Do more research and keep yourself safe. Age gaps aren't a problem if you're over 18, but like any relationship, there are red flags to look out for.

 

I don't mean to come across as mean, I'm just extremely concerned AND nothing is adding up. 

[Guest NewYorkDaddy]

Daddy and I are one year apart, but I've had experiences with older men at your age, so I'd like to weigh in here and point out some... red flags. 

 

I just recently found a daddy but he is significantly older than me..

You just recently found a daddy, how recent is recently? Has he been around long enough to earn the title of daddy? Even vanilla relationships, age gaps occur, is it just because of the dynamic of the relationship it makes you feel uncomfortable? Or is it his age?

 

 

I just dont want to be taken advantage of!!

If you have a gut feeling you're going to be taken advantage of, I'd suggest follow your instinct. Or it could be, you're just not ready for a relationship right now?

 

And here's some things you've said that make me concerned. 

 

I am currently in the process of moving in with mine and I am a little nervous that being someplace that I do not know anyone else except daddy...

has anyone had a similar experience? 

As someone pointed out, you had only known him a few days.

 

I have known him for months and he has been nothing but kind to me...

Oops, sorry, months.

But what about the personal you put up only two days before wanting to move in with him?

 

As of then no he was not my daddy......

As of yesterday yes he was..

Fair enough, well, you've known him a few months, but he's only been your daddy for a few days......

 

Yah.............. Its more like a year...

Ok, so it's a year now....

 

When we first started talking i was 17 so i was skeptical and all..

Yes, as you should be.

 

we have dated on and off for a while due to me trying to supress my feelings for him..

What? While you were 17? Suppressing feelings isn't exactly.. Healthy.

 

yes i would have to start all over but i know i will be attending school and getting a job

i can not drive yet but he goes all over so id go with him..

So you'd be 100% dependant on him in an unfamiliar place?

 

 

And as you mentioned in your other post, he's on here too. Where exactly did you two meet? 

 

I don't know what the truth is here, but it sounds like you're not 18 (hence how the longevity of you knowing him has fluctuated), you're focused on becoming an adult quickly to move out asap and you see this older man as the perfect escape plan, but on his side, he has somehow found an underage girl in the lifestyle and as a much older man, he should know that moving in so quickly, isn't the greatest move, like for real, days, so what's his logic in it all?

 

So, to put it bluntly, this all sounds super dodgy. 

 

Just because you're in the lifestyle, it doesn't mean all common sense goes out the window. Do more research and keep yourself safe. Age gaps aren't a problem if you're over 18, but like any relationship, there are red flags to look out for.

 

I don't mean to come across as mean, I'm just extremely concerned AND nothing is adding up. 

Good Job.

I think hearing this from a girl will help a lot.

[Daddy's Little Angel]

Edited October 21, 2017 by Daddy's Little Angel

[meows kohai]

I prefer age gaps tbh. 

I'm more weirded out that my Daddy is 2 years younger than meeee 

[Guest SUeB]

[Guest Urthurs]

I don't care about age gap, if I was his age I would envy him. Nice catch. However. At that age you will probably be his toy/pet. Some people are fine with that. Some people crave it. For example people willing live as slaves and want all control taken away from them. Maybe you wouldn't even notice. So I would never say don't do it.
BUT  This is a pretty big deal right? And If you have enough doubts and uncertainties to ask for advice on a forum, then you should probably take a step back. Honestly, spend some time to know yourself first.

Edited October 20, 2017 by Urthurs