Little-Identity-Crisis

[Sunshine]

Hi everyone!

 

So, I'm new to this community and am trying my hardest to discover who I am as a little! I've been a little for as long as I can remember but didn't put a name to it until just recently when I had an epiphany in the Children's Museum. My struggle with coming to terms with the fact that I'm a little is feeling like I don't fit the norms of what I've been told make you a little. I (rationally) know that dd/lg is a spectrum, every person and every relationship is different with different needs/kinks. However, sometimes I feel like I'm not little enough and that makes me feel even more vulnerable about where I fit into everything...

 

For example, I don't dabble in age play, regression, bottles, diapers, etc. I love and respect people who do, but I've never personally felt the need for it. I also feel like I don't ever really enter or leave "little space". Little space, from what I've read people describe it as, seems like a noticeable shift from Adult (little) to Little (little) if that makes sense. Or at least, that's how it's been explained to me by people in the past. Whereas I feel like I never really have a definite change from adult me to little me. I'm just a little (if that makes sense). It's with me all the time while I'm being an active adult. I love and snuggle with my stuffies while I watch Netflix, I crave a Daddy who will set boundaries, enforce rules, nurture me, and harness the control I never seem to be able to grasp, I use a little voice when I'm grumpy, and I can be a shameless brat. But all of those qualities filter into my everyday life instead of being heavily concentrated into a specific time of little space. 

 

I'm not sure if I'm making any sense with this late night ramble! I hope none of what I said offended anyone! I'm trying to figure out who I am as a little by comparing it to what I've learned/been told about the dd/lg dynamic in the past and if that is inaccurate, I sincerely apologize.

 

If anyone else has had this kind of little-identity-crisis where you know you're a little but aren't sure if you're little enough, please let me know cause I'm confused and lonely over here in "who am I?" land. 

 

[Guest MisterE]

It makes perfect sense to me. Every little is different, and you’re not doing anything wrong. You’re a little, plain and simple. It’s who you are, what you are in everyday life.

Do you think Daddies go back and forth in how they feel? I know I don’t. In my everyday life, I feel the need to teach, to help others, and tell corny jokes. I can’t stop being like that anymore than you can stop feeling the way you do.

[Hot loving dom]

Great post. Really annoying that people feel they have to fit a certain profile of stuffoes, age regression, paci etc. I've written lots of times in messages that this is rubbish. I've met many people who just like to be cared for. They seem the happiest too

 

Don't feel you have to do something. Message me if you want to talk mlr about it

[fatyknowsnothing]

We so much like alike. Me too act little in my everyday live. I talk and act childlike everywhere and to everyone, even on my job i did that sometimes cz its always slip just like that hehe..

Norms called me childish and someone said im clueless when i said i just feel i am a little, i dont felt like i have a role.

I dont do diapiers and regression, i do pacies sometimes cz it help my oral fixation, i dont really collect little stuffs like toys and accessories, and i really dont know what kind of little i am since i still act adult while little-ing, dont really know how to express that.

The point is, just be you. We dont have to fit in into some profile that not really us. As long you are happy and comfy with that, just stay the same.

 

I hope my opinion helps you abit. Happy be little

[bt207]

there is nothing wrong with being you.  ever.  

[DollDirector]

In line with what Hot loving dom says,I would add that some people may be high profile. So you see them and you begin to wonder if you are enough this or that. But the fact that you are asking the question shows that you are almost one step beyond this already; Keep going !

[Sunshine]

It makes perfect sense to me. Every little is different, and you’re not doing anything wrong. You’re a little, plain and simple. It’s who you are, what you are in everyday life.

Do you think Daddies go back and forth in how they feel? I know I don’t. In my everyday life, I feel the need to teach, to help others, and tell corny jokes. I can’t stop being like that anymore than you can stop feeling the way you do.

Thank you MisterE, that makes me feel a lot better  

[Sunshine]

Great post. Really annoying that people feel they have to fit a certain profile of stuffoes, age regression, paci etc. I've written lots of times in messages that this is rubbish. I've met many people who just like to be cared for. They seem the happiest too

 

Don't feel you have to do something. Message me if you want to talk mlr about it

Thanks Hot-Loving-Dom, yeah I've had people try to tell me what I am/am not based how how I do or don't fit into their little boxes. Especially when I'm just coming to terms with being a little, being told all that doesn't feel too great. So thank you for your understanding  

[Sunshine]

We so much like alike. Me too act little in my everyday live. I talk and act childlike everywhere and to everyone, even on my job i did that sometimes cz its always slip just like that hehe..

Norms called me childish and someone said im clueless when i said i just feel i am a little, i dont felt like i have a role.

I dont do diapiers and regression, i do pacies sometimes cz it help my oral fixation, i dont really collect little stuffs like toys and accessories, and i really dont know what kind of little i am since i still act adult while little-ing, dont really know how to express that.

The point is, just be you. We dont have to fit in into some profile that not really us. As long you are happy and comfy with that, just stay the same.

 

I hope my opinion helps you abit. Happy be little

Hey fatyknowsnothing, thank you for replying! I don't feel crazy anymore knowing that another little feels the same way! Your opinion really did help me thank you 

[Sunshine]

there is nothing wrong with being you.  ever.  

bt207, thank you 

[Sunshine]

In line with what Hot loving dom says,I would add that some people may be high profile. So you see them and you begin to wonder if you are enough this or that. But the fact that you are asking the question shows that you are almost one step beyond this already; Keep going !

DollDirector, thank you for the feedback and words of encouragement!  

[LittleKitten13]

I'm like that too...being little is just who I am.  I once had an ex ask me if I could be less immature when I came to his house, because his parents didn't like it....  I didn't even know what being little was at that point, I just knew that I was apparently immature, and childish.  I DO like binkies on occasion, and I have ALWAYS adored stuffed animals, but I don't do diapers.

I think you're perfectly fine.

[Guest LittleQueenNikki13]

[Guest bad_apple]

If you read around here, everyone experiences a little differently and it's all prefect fine.

I'd describe it for myself more like a shift in personality traits. My childish site gets stronger for example when I feel more little. Or my inner teenager comes out. ..

I'm also still fairly new and sometimes it's hard to put all that in words lol

[Guest pacibrat]

[Katerina31410]

Hi everyone!

 

So, I'm new to this community and am trying my hardest to discover who I am as a little! I've been a little for as long as I can remember but didn't put a name to it until just recently when I had an epiphany in the Children's Museum. My struggle with coming to terms with the fact that I'm a little is feeling like I don't fit the norms of what I've been told make you a little. I (rationally) know that dd/lg is a spectrum, every person and every relationship is different with different needs/kinks. However, sometimes I feel like I'm not little enough and that makes me feel even more vulnerable about where I fit into everything...

 

For example, I don't dabble in age play, regression, bottles, diapers, etc. I love and respect people who do, but I've never personally felt the need for it. I also feel like I don't ever really enter or leave "little space". Little space, from what I've read people describe it as, seems like a noticeable shift from Adult (little) to Little (little) if that makes sense. Or at least, that's how it's been explained to me by people in the past. Whereas I feel like I never really have a definite change from adult me to little me. I'm just a little (if that makes sense). It's with me all the time while I'm being an active adult. I love and snuggle with my stuffies while I watch Netflix, I crave a Daddy who will set boundaries, enforce rules, nurture me, and harness the control I never seem to be able to grasp, I use a little voice when I'm grumpy, and I can be a shameless brat. But all of those qualities filter into my everyday life instead of being heavily concentrated into a specific time of little space.

 

I'm not sure if I'm making any sense with this late night ramble! I hope none of what I said offended anyone! I'm trying to figure out who I am as a little by comparing it to what I've learned/been told about the dd/lg dynamic in the past and if that is inaccurate, I sincerely apologize.

 

If anyone else has had this kind of little-identity-crisis where you know you're a little but aren't sure if you're little enough, please let me know cause I'm confused and lonely over here in "who am I?" land.

 

 

I am the same way.

Edited October 18, 2017 by Katerina31410

[minahbird]

I know exactly what you mean. This is me all over. I'm 'little' pretty much all the time, but not in the sense of having bottles or diapers or whatever. I just love to snuggle my stuffies and watch cartoons and eat applesauce, stuff that people might classify as little, but regression doesn't come with it. It's just who I am. It makes me wonder if I'm not little enough or if I'm 'not really little' and just weird. I kind of envy the people who can just let go and be 'truly little'. Instead, I just feel like I'm permanently kind of stuck between little and big.

[Leo_Ascendent]

There's no such thing as being "Little enough", plain and simple. You are you.

[moxxi3.moxxi3.me]

my, my so relatable i have to say. 

But how inspiring is it now to know you can consciously revel in it now?!

 

This has been THE most special thing of me. no more shame. you are what you are and 'growing up' never seemed to fit well anyway. haha

time to have 'a little' fun ;D

 

xo happy travels!

[Guest Ignea]

I can relate to what you describe..

Just very recent i got a slap on the wrist from a person that told me i "belittled" a person. Whats the point i can hear people think, well,...  it can be even turned around.

 

U donnt need to "hang" a age like thing on your little feelings or for that matter you're Daddy/Mommy/Uncle/CG feelings.   To me its like a sexualty/gender/calling whatever you name it.  You are what you are.  there isnt a "wrong".  The whole thing is...   Embrace what u are and forget labels at first.  makes life easier