My boyfriend doesn’t fully want to be my daddy

[Littlebunnyprincess55]

Ok so, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, he understands what DDLG is and everything but he refuses to act like a daddy or give my rules or let me go into little space and even schedules for when I can go into little space. He only calls me little one, baby girl, princess during sex or when saying goodnight. He demands i call him daddy but I feel like it’s just a nickname to him and nothing more. It’s been really upsetting me and I feel like I can’t be my self around him and he makes me ashamed to be a little..what do I do?

[Guest BigDaddyP]

Being a 'real' daddy (I use the term 'real' for clarity) isn't something that everyone can do. There is a turn on and kink factors that can get most guys' motors running wilder from the mental imagery that is created from 'Age Play' that doesn't lend itself to being a daddy.

Communication is a huge part of any relationship and even more so in the DDlg dynamic. Play time is important, but failing to understand the true nature of "littleness" can become problematic, especially if your daddy refuses to accept all the responsibilities that the role requires. Determining if his interest is solely in Age Play or DDlg will help you to understand what his perspectives are.

Talk about what you need and what you want from the relationship. Help him to understand that this is a part of who you are and that it's not only a playtime thing.

 

No one should make you ashamed of who you are.

*Big Squishy Hugs* - I hope this helps

 

BDP

[Guest chilldude]

It's perfectly acceptable for him to not want to be a daddy. It is not acceptable to demand you call him daddy

If he really understands what DDLG is and doesn't want to be your daddy, then unfortunately you will have to accept it. However you need to explain to him that being a little is something you love, and when he makes you just use the term daddy during sex, it upsets you. Probably because you can't have him as your daddy completely, but it hasn't completely disappeared either

 

Tell him it's all or nothing, not just sex talk or when he feels like it

[Littlebunnyprincess55]

I asked him if it was ok to do age play and that it upsets me that he doesn’t want to do his part, he replied that he refuses to do that and that I’m an adult so I need to do adult things. He’s too busy to be with me in little space

[Guest BigDaddyP]

I asked him if it was ok to do age play and that it upsets me that he doesn’t want to do his part, he replied that he refuses to do that and that I’m an adult so I need to do adult things. He’s too busy to be with me in little space

I'm sorry that was his response... Unfortunately you are going to need to make some tough decisions on this... Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it more in private, or I am happy to give as much advice and assistance here if you prefer.

[Littlebunnyprincess55]

Thank you I really appreciate that

[raptorkitty]

This made my heart hurt... its okay if he doesn't want to be in ddlg relationship but to invalidate you and make you ashamed of being little, refusing your own little space.... thats cruel...

you deserve better. 

[Littlebunnyprincess55]

Yeah..He’s a wonderful boyfriend but not a great daddy I know that now