Confused Little

[Borgia_55]

My daddy and I have been together about 6 months now. It's been long distance, but we plan to live together as soon as practically possible. 

 

He always gives me tasks during the week and has slowly increased the intensity and how much attention I need to give him during the day. Even with an extremely busy work schedule, I always manage to get everything done. I know how much it means to him and want nothing more than to make him happy. 

 

But lately it's been draining me a bit. I think a lot of it is because he's been communicating with me less and less. He has a complicated situation at home, teenage kids to take care of. Sometimes I go almost the whole week without hearing from him, but spend every waking moment of my 'free time' doing things for him. I really do try my best to be understanding. And to look at it positively, that he's trying to stay 'with me' by giving me tasks and whatnot.... But when it comes down to it, I feel like my world literally revolves around him and he sees me as merely something to communicate with when it's convenient for him. A fleeting moment. 

 

No matter how hard I try though, I've been feeling more and more down. Even less 'little'... Unable to get into that frame of mind. There are some days where I am utterly exhausted after work, on top of everything he wants me to do, and even though I feel good doing it for him, knowing that it makes him happy... I just feel sad and empty. I tried talking to him but he keeps asking me to give him time to sort some matters out. I really just don't know what to do. I would love any suggestions or advice. 

[Guest Prat]

You need to go find yourself someone worthy of your submission. He doesn't seem to appreciate your level of commitment or maybe you aren't compatible when it comes down to time distribution. Either way, you can do better.

 

P.S. Does his family even know about you?

[Guest]

I sent you a friend request to this.

[Guest Arc]

Honestly, I understand complicated situations and not having much time... but he needs to make more of an effort. If you go a week without hearing a single thing from him, that's just him being lazy. I'm sure he'd have a few minutes spare a couple of times a day to send a quick message. Before he gets up in the morning, at lunch, when he's laying in bed at night, or even when he's in the bathroom. -.- 

 

When things get complicated with life it's understandable to not talk for hours on end like usual, but cutting out full days really isn't on. 

 

If you think he's worth it, maybe try giving him some time to work it out. But to me it doesn't sound good enough. It sounds like he's just lazy. If you're able to make time for him, then I'm sure he could make time for you. You deserve more than to be a fleeting moment. I hope things get sorted soon. 

[professor daddy]

What are these tasks? Are they productive, and do they make you feel fulfilled?

 

Look up the story of Sisyphus.. It isn't the foundation for a loving relationship.

 

I understand that many littles crave feeling occupied -- but the occupation should be emotionally rewarding throughout and when you present your work to him. If it's not, then all what you're doing isn't littlespace - it's a kind of addictive behavior to distract you from your life.

[Guest SUeB]

Only got one point to really comment on, which kind of should say a lot about the situation you are in. He has a complicated life with teenagers at home, so sometimes doesn't message you for a week? Is he joking? Seriously?

i am a single mother of a three. Ages 12, 18 and 20. All living at home with me, and all with different particular needs etc. Plus i am also working my butt off trying to develop a business. Plus i have all the other grown up stuff to deal with. My Daddy gets tons of daily attention. Because He matters.

This dude is clearly making excuses. Without any doubt in my mind. Sorry but he just doesn't think enough of you to put even the slightest effort in. i know that sounds harsh, but you have the choice here. Do you limp along like this for goodness knows how much longer, holding on to someone who doesn't care, or do you value yourself enough to walk away.

Edited October 9, 2017 by SUeB

[Mr. Danes]

Drop him immediately.

I'll explain why, first I hate good people being taken advantage of. Had that much of my earlier life. Truth lays in the actions, not the words. A daddy should be truthful and fair and hold those principles high, especially with his little girl because our lives made us who we are.

I may be new to this community/the daddy/little girl scene, yet my knowledge of human behaviour/male, female, etc. is extent.

You seem like you do very well pleasing your daddy, above and beyond really and he should see that no matter his life circumstance. He knew his life before getting involved with you and if he was a true daddy, he'd know the seriousness and depth when a little girl chooses him. But he apparently does not. He sounds more like a master/Dom.

I'm sure that you have seen the results of.. "I love you" and the person hits/cheats/lies/snoops through.. words that do not match the person's actions.

Also.. "My kids come first." and they end up alone or with their kid.

You sound like most daddy's dream little girl, find another and do a lot of truthful talking before doing for them. I promise that that will give you much better results if you trust your heart.

 

D.

[Daddy'sBrity]

I honestly feel like if he wanted to he could make the time. Me and my Daddy are long distance with big time differences. We both work and our stuff going on in our personal lives but we make time. Ee have set times for our calls and sometimes extra when there's time. Even when daddy has a crazy busy day and tons going on cause life happens he finds that 5 minutes here and there through out the day to make sure I'm oks. As far as task goes if he really cares he would understand work and not always having time while working and task being placed according to your work schedule seems like it would be more fair

[Guest McLeodLot65]

Daddy'sBrity maks a really good point. Even if he can't spend a lot of time online in one go, a message or email check-in takes literally five minutes, and everyone has five minutes. Heck, I have a full-time job and two disabled dependants, but I still find time to post here and on a couple of (non-ddlg) forums that I participate in. Edited October 12, 2017 by McLeodLot65

[Guest pacibrat]

A good Daddy doesn't just give you tasks to complete, he gives you encouragement and love and snuggles (even if it isn't in person).  Littles are needy (not in a bad way) and if your Daddy isn't giving you what YOU need then you probably need to move on.  Remember, this is a give and take relationship for BOTH people (not just one).