Abuse

[Guest sunnybaby]

Hi, so I met my daddy on here. And I love him very much. But I'm getting nervous with his recent actions. We're in an LDR so it's not physical but it feels different now. He gets mad when I go out because he'd rather I stayed home and talked to him. And he gives me one word answers after I apologize for something. And he suggests I'm being controlling when I ask what he's doing even though I'm literally just curious and it doesn't matter what he's doing. And he he tells me I'm overreact all the time.

 

But

 

He's also really sweet. He listens to my rants. And he calls me beautiful. And he posts picture of me and compliments me and supports my gold. I love him so much and I want to know if this relationship is even possible to save. Or if I should even try to.

[Guest ~Luna Rawrs~]

I can see you really do like him, but what he is doing is a little bit controlling, or he just really possesive of you haha.

 

But saying that you are the one being controlling is wrong. He may have misinterpreted what you were asking, or he is trying to guilt trip you by saying you are controlling.

 

He is being mean to you emotionally, or mentally, if he continues to act the way he does, why not try talking to him? Ask him why he is acting this way, and how it makes you feel.

 

If he starts saying something like 'your just making excuses' or 'I'm not acting any differently, you are!!' Or if he getd really defensive and volatile, then you should end the relationship even if it hurts you to not be with him...

[maxben10]

agree with luna, you need to find the source of his change of behavior, if he has a problem or something on his mind, that might affect him mentally to become easily enraged and demanding, so talking about him about the real inner problem should get things cleared.

 

BUT, keep in mind that some guys have too mush pride and might not accept facing their feelings, so give him a chance, try to communicate, but if he isn't trying from his side, then pull yourself from the relationship.

[Guest Arc]

He gets mad when you go out because he'd rather you stay in and talk to him? To me that sounds like a red flag. He can't shut you off from your life and friends. You have your own life and he should encourage you to live it, not try suppress it and focus it entirely on him. 

 

He shouldn't be getting mad at you for anything. No problem or anything on his mind justifies getting mad at you. If something is going on and he needs space then he should communicate that properly like an adult.