I feel like I'm doing this all wrong? :c (beginner little)

[Guest bunnybear11]

Hm hii, so me and my bf (now daddy) have always had this sort of relationship, I've always been super cheery and hyper and he's always been super super caring and protective of me, but I'd never brought it up to him that all of this had a name, ddlg, because I was a little scared of his reaction, until recently, and it all worked out, he loved the idea and super on board (he even told me once he thinks he was born to be a daddy heheh).

I guess the big problem is, I've been having a little hard time getting into little space recently, I only ever feel truly in little space when I'm with him, and that bothers me a little :c I think mostly bc I don't have the proper ddlg essentials, like pacis and sippy cups n things (because I still live with my parents), and even tho my room is super pink and filled with stuffies I still can't help it but feel like a big girl here :c.

This is a little hard because somehow it feels like I'm doing this all wrong, especially w ddlg, in the beginning we never really know what we're doing T-T I think maybe having little friends would help me a lot? people who have been doing this for longer ●ᴥ● so if anyone is interested in becoming friends xx we could maybe start a group chat or something

Edited October 6, 2017 by carobear

[Nymph]

Hi, welcome!

 

Paci's and sippy cups are not necessary unless you want them! I don't use them but I am more of a middle/nymphette.

 

There really is no wrong way of doing this. I mean the only think I can think would be you were doing stuff you don't want to then of course it's wrong. It's all about being true to yourself and doing what makes you happy. As long as it's not hurting others or yourself it's fine. You can make this sexual or not, you can do it on your own or with a caregiver or with other littles.

 

If you are having trouble getting in little space and you didn't before even though you didn't have any little "gear" then either, then it just means the problem is something else like stress for example. 

 

If you just really want some gear, being a young girl you can probably pull off getting some stuff without your parents thinking it's strange. For example you can say you are starting a hello kitty collection (or any character) and start getting coloring books, stickers, figures and mix in a sippy cup there... if they ask, it was too cute to ignore and it's "decoration" and have all that stuff in a corner of your room. You would end up with gear hidden in plain sight.

[Guest Arc]

If you need those things to feel little then try find a way to have them. Pacis are really small and you could easily hide then in a drawer or closet or something.

 

And maybe instead of a soppy cup you could try one of those bottles with a straw? You can get adult versions of those, and that way you wouldnt have to hide or explain it if it was found  

[Guest bunnybear11]

I've already talked to daddy about getting pacis n things n he's super on board w it ☺️ I think I even have a hiding spot for it already heheh I have one of those build a bear bears and it has a little pouch on the back (where they open to put the foam inside of the stuffies) and it's the perfect size for a paci. And I'll try to find a way to get sippy cups, I don't think my parents will think it's that weird bc I've always liked kiddie things, especially if its my little pony related hehe they know I love that

[boomslang]

I think it's fairly common for some people to have trouble going into little space when they're not in their "safe zone." And your safe zone sounds like it's anywhere your Daddy is The worries of getting caught and the feeling of having to hide little you is probably preventing you from relaxing into that headspace.

 

You don't *need* accessories to be little, so don't feel like you're obligated to have this, this, and this in order to "do it right." BUT your plan to hide the pacie in the stuffie sounds like a good plan if you do want one! You could even get a larger pacifier from a regular baby department just to try out. And Disney/cartoon tumblers are super common, even for adults.

 

Don't feel bad about not being able to click in and out of Littlespace. Like anything else, it takes time to fully understand new parts of yourself.

[Daddylovesme]

Hm hii, so me and my bf (now daddy) have always had this sort of relationship, I've always been super cheery and hyper and he's always been super super caring and protective of me, but I'd never brought it up to him that all of this had a name, ddlg, because I was a little scared of his reaction, until recently, and it all worked out, he loved the idea and super on board (he even told me once he thinks he was born to be a daddy heheh).

I guess the big problem is, I've been having a little hard time getting into little space recently, I only ever feel truly in little space when I'm with him, and that bothers me a little :c I think mostly bc I don't have the proper ddlg essentials, like pacis and sippy cups n things (because I still live with my parents), and even tho my room is super pink and filled with stuffies I still can't help it but feel like a big girl here :c.

This is a little hard because somehow it feels like I'm doing this all wrong, especially w ddlg, in the beginning we never really know what we're doing T-T I think maybe having little friends would help me a lot? people who have been doing this for longer ●ᴥ● so if anyone is interested in becoming friends xx we could maybe start a group chat or something

Hey there! You don't need to have all the stuffs to be a little. But it can definetely help! Feel free to talk to me or PM me on here, I would love to to talk and aybe help out and be your fwend! Im a little, and would love to have you as a fwend! If it helps, it looks like from your pic we are similar in age so that might help you be more confortable? Idk 

[Guest Urthurs]

Don't try to force it, it will just feel awkward. Some people are little all the time, even when they are alone. Other only when they are with their caregiver. It's okay. You don't have to be a little all the time just because you are in a dd/lg relationship. It's DaddyDom AND LittleGirl together, right? Some girls don't even have an age regression little space, but still want the daddy girl dynamic They are usually called babygirls. (if I'm not wrong..)

Don't feel like you are not good enough for it. You both seem happy together. Most importantly, if you feel bad about it, TALK TO HIM. Explain it. Don't hide these feelings, he will pick up on it and maybe think he is doing something wrong and all of a sudden there are a bunch of issues...

Let things take their time to grow. Try out different things. Have fun, don't make it a chore. Good luck.

[Guest SUeB]

There is no such thing as a ddlg essential. You do it your own way. i am mid forties, no interest in any of that stuff, like literally none of it. But yes i am still very much what i am!

My little space is only around my Daddy. Sort of feel a bit that way on occasion, but it's only a very subtle version of it. Don't feel that you have to follow a list of do's and don'ts, or a list of ddlg rules or guidelines you see on tumblr or anywhere else on the Internet, lol. Be your own kind of lg.

Edited October 15, 2017 by SUeB