Telling someone about CG/l / DD/lg

[Guest calamitous-kitten]

Alright. So I thought I'd make a topic about this because I just had quite an odd experience.

 

What is the best way to tell someone about DD/lg?

 

Basically, I'd been talking to this guy I met on a dating website, we were getting along great and had a lot in common. He then pushed for us to talk about kinks / sexual preferences, and although DDlg isn't necessarily a kink to everyone, I myself see it as a lifestyle, but I thought it would be a good opportunity to introduce it as it is something important to me. I explained it to the best of my ability (even shared some useful links as he wasn't familiar with it) and even though he was somewhat polite, it was clear he thought it was wrong and kept referring to the word "childlike" as it had been used in one of the articles.

 

I totally understand that people have different preferences, but this is the first time I've ever disclosed this to someone I've been chatting with that I don't know personally, that I was unsure if they even knew about it/also liked it, and didn't meet off of a website tailored towards CG/l or DD/lg.

 

My first Daddy was the one who brought it up and we just went from there, so I've never had this issue before.

 

It's left me feeling dirty and upset, and thought I'd see if anyone has any tips for future reference. Though to be honest this has definitely put me off telling people.  

[Guest Medic516]

It's unfortunate someone made you feel that way, it's hard enough being comfortable enough to tell someone. However the right person for you will except who you are inside and out, including your kinks. Don't get discouraged, sometimes it takes a while to find the right person. But you are worth it and someone will see all your beauty and never want to let you go. Have faith, everything happens for a reason. Be proud of who you are, kinks and all!!

[Puppy]

You have to understand when mingling with people on majority vanilla dating sites you're going to come across a lot of people who are confused, ignorant, or just completely shut down to the lifestyle. You also have to understand that even in the vanilla world there are still very understanding, curious, and open minded people out there.

DDlg is becoming much more common, and that could be considered good and bad. Good because it gives us the opportunity to disclose the truth about this lifestyle, but bad because it gives the world the option to portray CG/l in a non so friendly manner. 

 

As for the best way to tell somebody, personally I've always been straight forward. I had a Tinder for sometime, and any time I would be talking to somebody if kinks/fetishes would get brought up I would always start out with just BDSM. If they are receptive towards BDSM, I would say ease them into it. A good thing to do is say, "Do you know about DDlg?" If they respond positively to that question, then you have nothing to worry about. If they are unsure if they approve of it or not, the best thing to do is point them to some of your favorite articles that explain what it is. I mean heck, you could even point them towards this forum.

 

Don't shy away from telling people you're interested in about something that makes you happy and is a fulfilling lifestyle for you. If they are not accepting or at least open minded, they are not worth your time. I promise you there's wonderful people out there, whether they are just very understanding vanilla individuals or people who are also into kink and DDlg. 

[Property of Daddy Carlos]

So i told my 2 bestfriends about how i am into the DDLG thing but when i told them what DDLG stands for they looked at me cockeyed and it made me feel a little upset, cuz if they told me that they were in to something like this i wouldn't be judging them because as long as they are doing something that makes them happy then im happy for them

[Guest McLeodLot65]

I've only ever told one friend irl, and although she didn't freak out on me, I could tell she was uncomfortable, so I didn't bring it up again. I think if the situation arises again, I'd wait ask them about the topic in general before revealing my interest in specific.