My boyfriend doesn’t want to do DDLG....

[PrincessChlox]

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months and i told him that I’m into ddlg and told him what’s it’s about etc, so he said send me some links and I’ll learn more about it, so obviously I got excited... but then last night he said that it’s not really in his personality to do ddlg and he also started crying cos he was cutting my off from ddlg... I don’t know what to do. Ddlg is a big part of my life... and he said he doesn’t think he can do it...

[Michael]

Sounds like it's just not who he is. You can either stay with him and try to convince him if you can have a platonic daddy (if you can live without the sexual aspect), or you can find someone new.

[Guest SUeB]

So you aren't going to work. Simple as that. Sorry, but that's all you need to know. He isn't the one for you, and you aren't the one for him.

[LittleKitten13]

Well...if he's not okay with being a daddy, ask if it would be okay if you were still little around him some, just not as his little girl.

[Guest greenhoney]

Sadly, there's nothing you can do, really. It's just not who he is. So, you can either live with the fact that you might never be involved with DDlg ever again, talk to your boyfriend about what you can do (having a platonic daddy, being little around him etc etc) or break up. 

[Guest SUeB]

Do people honestly believe the way you fix a failing relationship is to add someone extra to fill the void?

"sorry honey, you don't give me what i want, so i will find someone who gives me what you can't, and just keep you around cos it's easier than breaking up"

[Guest Arc]

Actually, SUeB, I know a lot of people who have relationships like that and it works perfectly for them. If the partner can give them everything they need except one or two things, it can work out to have a secondary partner to do those things with. One of my good friends is a dominant, but his girlfriend is not a sub. She allows, and encourages him, to play with someone submissive because she doesn't want him to miss on something he needs. They've been together for years and the arrangement works perfectly for them. A lot of poly relationships are like that. As long as all people in the relationship are okay and it works for them, there is nothing wrong with it at all. 

 

 

 

You can't change how your boyfriend is, but if you don't want to lose your relationship then you can try work something out. Perhaps having some sort of babysitter would work. Or maybe talk to your boyfriend about what he is willing to do. Reading links to ddlg can be intimidating, and I can see why someone new would be unsure of trying that. But maybe if you asked him to do a few small things with you, say colouring in or watching cartoons together, then that won't be so hard for him. You may be able to work it out so you can still be little with him, but not have the full ddlg dynamic. 

 

But in the end it comes down to what you want and need. Good luck. I hope everything works out for you x

[Guest SUeB]

Actually, SUeB, I know a lot of people who have relationships like that and it works perfectly for them. If the partner can give them everything they need except one or two things, it can work out to have a secondary partner to do those things with. One of my good friends is a dominant, but his girlfriend is not a sub. She allows, and encourages him, to play with someone submissive because she doesn't want him to miss on something he needs. They've been together for years and the arrangement works perfectly for them. A lot of poly relationships are like that. As long as all people in the relationship are okay and it works for them, there is nothing wrong with it at all.

 

 

 

 

Has there been any mention of her being poly? If there had have been, i wouldn't have commented. But there hasn't. It's worded to appear that this is her only partner, and the only one she wants. If i am wrong, fair enough.

[Hot loving dom]

Due b. I totally understand the comment about it being there to fix andailing relationship. If he's not into it and the relationship is kn trouble then it's not a bandaid/plaster. It's like some people's ridiculous idea that a baby will fix a relationship.

 

Yes people had ddlg relationships but that's because they work. No point in something that doesn't work.