Daddies and tanturms

[betawolf]

One of the things that I haven't been able to figure out, it the misbehaving. For instance, specifically punishments or they would do things on purpose to get in trouble. this is one of the biggest confusions for me. Is it being bratty as something that helps them get into their little space, are they little masochist (sp), or is something they talk about with other like badges of pride.   

Edited October 12, 2019 by betawolf

[Guest Sae]

Hello BetaWolf;

 

I personally don't believe punishments should be in public, ever. Because you are causing a scene and non-kinksters and children are going to see it.  It's much better to just take your little/sub/slave home and punish them there. That includings ended day trips and stuff. I think it's just also more responsible plus it gives you some time to cool off, and the little to realize what they did, and why it was wrong. 

 

As for brattiness, I made a thread more aimed at littles and feeling like I'm the only one who doesn't behave like a brat. Being bratty is something some littles like, topping from the bottom (which isn't a BAD thing. It's just not EVERYONE'S thing) is one of the reasons, some people also find there little space in being a brat. Some littles aren't sure how to be a little any other way. Some people also think that's the only way they can get spanked. I know there is a difference between playful bratty, and just being a brat. 

 

I think bratty is more of an issue of communication or lack of communication in some ways. If you can find something that'll give you a reaction you like, or are seeking, you'll keep doing it. 

 

I also think being bratty and punishments are two things in the community as a whole (in the D/s dynamic) sense don't understand what punishments are.  A lot of people seem to have fantasy ideas of what a punishment is. Something you like, Something you like to earn, something you like to give.

[Guest DominantBlogger]

To me the issues of brattiness is really individual to the dynamic.  For example, I know some couples in which the caregiver actively encourages brattiness with their little.  Others, however, find it to be topping from the bottom and it results in the 'bad' kind of punishment.  



At the end of the day, it is often a cry for attention by the little.  I personally do not mind some playful brattiness in a little but I think there is a big difference between that and willful disobedience.  I have seen instances where some littles have engaged in that and called it brattiness and it didn’t appeal to me at all.  It also can get to the point where you are encouraging a behavior that will cause problems down the road as PrincessSae stated, but your milage may vary…  It just depends on your dynamic.



I don’t think you are being pig headed.  If you don’t like it, you don’t like it…  I don’t think you should look at it as “limited your chances of finding someone.”  I think it is better to look at it as identifying the things you want in a relationship to make it successful.  Make sense?

[Kitten Cupcake]

As above people have said-

I'm a bit bratty but playfully (ex:back talking jokingly), there is a difference from a full blown brat and just being playful. As for being punished in public-some people do enjoy an audience as where others like Sae and myself feel that it is better at home and in private away from the public.

 

Some enjoy public play however and I can see how they in their own ways like that, it just isn't my cup of tea. Then again I'm not sure whether it was a real punishment or roleplay in their regard or perhaps humiliation which in itself can also be public. But I can see how it can blow you off as it would blow many of us off as well.

 

 I don't think it would make your chances at finding someone hard that is why we have hard limits and limitations in itself. Theirs no need to worry about that- you are by no means being pig headed.

[MrRider]

My little has some latitude when it comes to brattyness, she has a few things that we've both agreed will get her into some trouble that she can do in a fun way. These range from childish things and teasing to saying certain things that have agreed consquences. 

 

She does get bratty if I don't give her enough attention (we're long distance) often giving her attention and at times making threats that she's been looking for settle her down. 

For example if she wants attention she'll point out a minor infraction of her rules and I'll say something in my Dom voice to remedy the situation or hand out a mild punishment to bring her back into line. 

 

Re:Public punishments, we have an agreed limit for public punishments as what I think we can get away with in the moment. If we're out and about and she does something I disapprove of I will stop and tell her off in the middle of the street. She's a little, little children get told off when and wherever they do wrong. Also minor spanks on the wrist that no one will notice are allowed.

 

In all circumstances my little is covered by me knowing when I'm going too far and her safewords,

 

Bottom line, talk to your submissive. Lots. Early days of a relationship is the best time to do so, have agreed limits and ranges for everything. Then build on them till you're happy. Talk more when you're happy, maybe you want to take things up a level maybe you don't. Find what's right for both of you and enjoy it all you can.

[Daddys babygirl]

Hi hi Mr betawolf

I'm new here so I'm reading all the posts to understand the Furman, My little is very young 2-3 and I'm disabled in the real world so my Daddy he has some real life rules that I need to follow. Sometimes I do get fussy or have a tantrum because I'm overtired or not feeling good those times I'm not being playful I'm being a bad girl and Daddy can tell the difference from when I am just behaving very little and I use my tongue and stick it out at him and make a 1uiet spitting noise (raspberries to him) something I can be playfully sort of naughty about even in the car or while walking with him, daddy does not care were we are if I act out being a bad girl he warns me he counts to five slowly just like he would for a small child if I haven't stopped by the time he says five he will scold me and swat me when we get to the car and I will be in trouble when we get home. I have not had anyone ever say nothing mean to me and daddy maybe it's cause they see my blind cane but then again I'm not very bratty cause I don't like to be pushy onto other people so I don't think you will have problem finding your girl at all