Tougher Love?

[DaddysLittleDani]

My Daddy and I have been together for 7 months now and I love our relationship. We are in a DDlg relationship and we are dating. In our relationship, there are not many rules. If I do anything that is considered "bad" I get a kiss on the forehead and Daddy tells me "Don't do it again Kitten". 

 

 

 I have noticed that in other DDlg relationships, there are more "rules involved" and their Daddy's seem a little stricter.  This is something I would like to have more of in my DDlg relationship.  I have talked to Daddy about this and he said that he would try it, but nothing has changed.

 

 

Is there any advice, from Daddies or Littles. that can help me talk to Daddy about my problem?

 

 

Thanks you!  

[littlegear]

I think you need to sit down with Daddy and have another talk. Explain to him how important it is to you to have this in your dynamic, tell him exactly what you would like and how.

It's not uncommon for (new) Daddys to be either shy or uncomfortable with being strict. There is often the worry they may not be doing it right, or feel they are being unkind or too strict.
Speak to him and see if it's something he doesn't feel he can do, if he's unsure of himself it could affect the relationship. Talking things through in detail always helps.

 

I hope it works out for you xx

[MrBonesWildRide]

Rules are guidelines for the dynamic.

 

If you want stricter rules to follow, then it's a matter of asking and having that conversation. If you're wanting something more "punishing" then you're not looking for rules, you're looking for funishment. The way you described it, the kiss on your forehead isn't enough. And yet, punishment isn't supposed to be a reward. It isn't supposed to be something you want. 

 

But it's all a matter of asking. "I want you to be more rigid with what I need to do with my life. Structure me in a way that makes me better." You want rules? Make them yourself and use your Daddy as the person who is pointing out the path.

[pouty princess]

Having rules and punishment for me makes me feel loved. He cares about me enough to set up boundaries to make me into a better person. It is also important to remember it could be hard for you Daddy to come around to the idea that He is allowed to punish you (if the methods and limits are previously discussed and set). Communication and honesty are key factors in making a BDSM/DDlg relationship work. Having a sit down with your Daddy and talking together about what you both are wanting out of this relationship is vital. my daddy tells me (ALL THE TIME UGGGHHHH) "How can I make good decisions with bad information?" If i do not discuss what is bothering me or making me feel uncared for, how will He ever get the chance to fix it?

 

i wrote a blog post you both might find helpful Daddy Dom Struggling with Punishments and my Daddy wrote one Even princess' Get Spanked. Hope this helps you and good luck on your talk with Daddy!!!

 

xoxo ~ princess