My Papa is a Little

[LittleKitten13]

So...my papa is a little, and he's definitely submissive in all areas except when he's papa...but...the problem is...he kind of wants me to be little less...and I don't know how.  I can't just control little space.  I go into little space when I'm really sleepy, or anxious or scared...it's like...an automatic coping mechanism for me, I guess.  I can't just decide to go to little space or decide not to.  Sometimes I'm more independent, and I'm okay with just coloring, or watching a kid movie and cuddling, but other times...I just really need my papa....

Does anyone else have anything like that?  Like...where both they and their caregiver are littles?  I'm also his mommy, and his dom, but...I'm definitely little too.

Edited September 30, 2017 by LittleKitten13

[Baby Bear_xo]

Are you guys able to enjoy being little together maybe? X

[Guest Prat]

There are switch couples, it's nothing unusual.

[Guest SUeB]

If i was with someone who wanted me to not be fully myself, i would seriously question the relationship. Sounds like you accept him, if he can't do the same, that's a big problem.

[LittleKitten13]

If i was with someone who wanted me to not be fully myself, i would seriously question the relationship. Sounds like you accept him, if he can't do the same, that's a big problem.

It isn't that he doesn't want me to be little, he just wants me to be little less.  I get frustrated with myself a lot because I can't control my little space and I go into it when I'd be fine with being big, and I've told him before that sometimes I wish Little Kitten would just die, and there would only be big me, and he was very adamant that he would not like that, and that he loves every aspect of me.  It's just more complicated to me, because if Little Kitten needs Papa and Little Bear needs Mommy at the same time, that would be a struggle where we'd both be needing our caregiver and neither one being capable of being a caregiver.

[LittleKitten13]

Are you guys able to enjoy being little together maybe? X

We've never actually tried it.  Well, okay, I say that, but once, we went to Walmart with another little/mommy friend, and I swear we both little.  My poor friend basically had to be a babysitter for a 5 and 6 year old, as we tore through Walmart, pushing buttons on all the toys and wanting to touch EVERYTHING.  It was a lot of fun.  My concern was more with how I replied to SUeB, and if I'm in little space and NEED Papa, like...crying if I don't have him, etc, and he's in little space and needs Mommy, how we would work with that.

[LittleKitten13]

Thanks guys, for your input.  We did have a kind of long talk last night about our little spaces, and things like that.  He said that he's not quite like me, and he can control his little space, and that he doesn't need to go into little space.  I go into little space primarily (I think) because of past trauma and it's a coping mechanism.  Sometimes I'm more independent and just color my own pictures, and watch movies, but don't necessarily need my papa to take care of me right then, but other times I NEED Papa and if I don't have him I'm a wreck.

We talked a lot about it last night, and he understands that it's not something I can just stop.  We're still trying to figure out this side of our relationship.  I think for the most part, we have things figured out.

Thank you all for your input.

[TinyBoysInLove]

me and my partner are littles together usually. sometimes one of us takes a more caregiver role but that's not often. not sure if itd work for everyone though

[LittleKitten13]

me and my partner are littles together usually. sometimes one of us takes a more caregiver role but that's not often. not sure if itd work for everyone though

I think for the most part we have things figured out, I was just really scared and freaking out when I made this post.  It helps me sometimes to get things out there.  I would actually really love for us to be littles together, although there are times when I need papa, and not my boyfriend as a little with me.