when to give choker

[nu2lyfe]

Hello so I am really new to being a daddy and I was wondering when would it be good and acceptable to give my little her own choker?

 

Thanks in advance

[MrBonesWildRide]

Well I assume by "Choker" you mean "Collar". In which case you decide when the time is right on your own time.

 

For some people, a collar is a symbol of ownership. It can range from a training collar to a leash or more. To others, a collar is a symbol of completion, much like a marriage ring. It's all in the interpretation of the collar by both parties. I would actually talk to your little about when they would feel comfortable having it, what it means to them, etc. Once you've talked it out you'll be able to work on when the time is right.

[pouty princess]

It's also important to remember it can be in any form, not just a collar. It could be a ring, bracelet, anklet, tattoo, collar, necklace, earrings, ect. It is the meaning behind it that matters. It should be taken very seriously by both of you though and should come with ground rules. Rules such as, what it means, how often it should be worn, ect. It is a symbol of ownership and You should only give Your little one if You plan to care for her. Being a Daddy is a big responsibly, especially when You have a "collared" little.

[Michaelcycles]

Ok, this reply is for @ddlgdoodles

My girlfriend and I haven't been together for very long but the connection is there. She won't go to sleep at night without calling me first, has taken to sleeping in one of my t-shirts so she has my smell close to her, (I keep her in fresh smelling shirts), and enjoys being the submissive.

Now, I say "not long" because we've only been dating a couple months but we've known each other over a year. Very recently, to judge how amenable she was to the idea, I asked her to be my little in a short story. Short story shorter, she is VERY amenable.

On to my question.... is it really necessary to 'train' someone to the collar? While I am the dominant one, im not expecting her to 'obey'. Ours is more a nurturing relationship with some spanking, mild asphyxiation and willpower testing.

She works in an office, and I want her to wear it all the time, so I was thinking of a heart lock with a simple braided chain to go with it. She knows what the collar means to me and what I expect from her once she accepts it. Isn't that enough?

[Guest Rainbow]

For sure, collaring is whatever it means to you in your personal dynamic. There are some common threads with this, but really everybody is different. I didn't need to go through 'training' to earn my collar. I earned it by showing commitment and making my relationship with daddy permanent. There are elements of BDSM in our relationship, but my collar isn't about that. So yes, if that is enough for you (and your little), then it is enough!

[Guest buddhagirl]

My daddy gave me my collar when we reached a point in our relationship where I offered myself and submission to him and he decided he wanted to own me permanently. I wear my collar all of the time (it's the one in my picture). Daddy wears the key around his neck always.