What should I do when trying to find my perfect Daddy

[Guest Kittykat2342]

I'm trying to find a Daddy, I've met lots of nice Daddy's but I want to know what should I look for. Like red flags, do's and don'ts. I want to hear what you guys thinks

[Guest DeOriginalMittens]

Personally, if you are looking for your PERFECT daddy, be as pedantic as possible. Be "shallow" be specific, because if you bend and accept one thing you hate or detest, it won't go away unless he is willing to change it for you. And unless he fully changes 100% and has no desire to act think behave or do it again, it will slip eventually especially under great stress and he will go back to it. To find someone able to 100% change for the rest of their life is difficult, and the majority of people are selfish so it's best to find someone who is most like you if you are going that route. I am not talking every like dislike ect. What I mean is things that are necessity or important. Like.. monogamy or polygamy. The two can't really mix, you pick one and find someone willing to stick through with it lol. That's just an example. Red flags were mentioned in previous posts on the forum today, they also link to past topics: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/25526-red-flags-for-pushy-doms/

 

do's and Don'ts. Well in my opinion, find someone who will treat you as his equal first and then little/middle/sub second. Treating you as an equal means he respects you and respects your boundaries, when no is no and doesn't force you into things. Who can be a good influence in important things and maybe if you have a dirty mind, a bad influence on making everything dirty like that to get you giggling. Someone who knows boundaries, always watching you, always making sure you are alright and looking after you. And it should be the same for you also, to treat your partner as an equal, have a fair relationship, demolish both of your one sided tendencies if any and to work together as partners. Create We and Us not a Me and I. That's my personal opinion and views, if it isn't clear enough add me and we can chat in PM about more things regarding this post if you like.

[Nymph]

First of all, remember nobody is perfect... but if you mean the perfect daddy for you, then try to figure out what you want!

 

Once you figure out what you want, don't use it as a shopping list, but more of a "it would be nice to have" thing, keep an open mind and always remember what you think you want might not be what you need... so don't close yourself to the possibilities.

 

As for red flags, if he lies often, even if they are small and "white" odds are he does it out of habit and will lie about important things too.

If he gets clingy and swears he loves you after a 5 minute chat RUN.

 

So much to type here, just use common sense!

[Guest DaddyMaster]

Biggest thing I can think of is one that won't want to call you his little after only a day or two of talking. And I have found that my gut instinct has never really let me down :/

[Untwisted]

Honesty is the hardest one, nobody is going to tell you if they're being dishonest.

 

Perfect for you isn't necessarily perfect for someone else, so as said above, know what you're looking for.

 

Don't expect someone to change even if they say they will and mean it.  It's not impossible, but if someone can change just like that, they probably haven't changed at all.  Similarly, don't try to change yourself just to fit someone else's ideal.

I'm not saying don't compromise on anything at all but if you're just not compatible, that's unlikely to change.

 

Don't be in a rush, and don't be rushed by anyone else.

[DavCentral]

This is no different to any other relationship, we cannot provide you with a list of things you should and should not accept, everyone's different.

 

Red flags are generally a hugely personal thing. What behaviour are you, or are you not, willing to accept? There's your red flags.

 

Think about what YOU want from a Daddy. How much involvement is required? Do you want the Dom side? Do you just want CG?

What do you need... Look for someone who's going to offer most of that, understand what you will and won't compromise on, set your limits and use them as your guidelines.

[PrincessPear]

First, I would contemplate the relationship goals you have for you and your future daddy. What do you see yourselves doing together? What kind of things do you fantasize about? What puts you in little space most effectively? Then I would think about all the features a daddy could have that would feel most fulfilling in a relationship. Personally, I like Daddies who are nurturing, intelligent, and compassionate.

 

Hope that helps. <3

[Guest SUeB]

You look for what you want in a man. Nobody else can tell you what to look for. One person's red flag is someone else's "yes pleaaaase"