Mommy thinking of being a Switch

[ddskrt]

I've been in a mdlg relationship for almost a year now.

When we first started exploring, it was mainly sexual and I took on the submissive role. After a while it switched and I devided to move our mdlg relationship to the other aspects of our vanilla relationship (So we're now mdlg in a "general" way. If that makes sense.). It was all olay for about three months but i started feeling a bit of a switch. Some days i'd feel very dominant but others i'd want to play woth stuffies and i'd want someone to take on the role of being my mommy. I eventually had enough of struggling with this and i told my little that i was a switch. She then told me that she used being little as a coping strategy and that she would "never be able to call me her princess". Ever since, i've felt like i've been forcing myself to take on the dominant role. I want to try bringing it up again but i'm scared :/

[Guest SUeB]

Hard to face and accept, but sadly you are just incompatible. If you cannot cone up with compromise, and it sounds like you can't, maybe it's time to realise it's never going to work. You will never be happy if this is something you really need. If its simply a fantasy thing that you can put aside, fair enough. People have fantasies that are never realised, and they are happy with that. But if you really need to explore it, then this relationship won't work.

[SammyPup]

Hi! If you need someone to talk to, I'm here. I'm really sorry, I understand the fear. Don't be scared to talk to me, k. I understand. Im a switch too! I'd love to talk.

[LittlePupRune]

I'm a daddy switch. I've discussed this a bit with my partner who has said that they are uncomfortable being dominant. This however doesn't mean that I cannot join in as a more "middle" than "dom" for certain things when she doesn't explicitly need me to be her daddy. Also, there is nothing wrong with asking for cuddles and just feeling the connection and reassurance of being held/holding. There are ways you can get around your little not being dominant either with her directly or maybe (with her consent) with someone else.

[xpaciprincesss]

My best advice is to talk it again with her, but instead of telling her to take on a Caregiver role, try to see if it’s possible for you to be little together.

If little you needs a Caregiver, is opening the relationship a possibility? You can find a Mommy for your little space and still be hers while you’re with her.