My guy friend likes me but I don’t like him back, what do I do?

[NastasiyaSEM]

So me and this guy, we’ve known each other for a few years now. We’re

pretty close and I love him dearly as a friend but honestly, I just

don’t see him in a romantic way. In fact, I just don’t want to date

anyone right now. I’m pretty sure he knows this too, that’s why he

hasn’t asked me out or made a move, but it’s still kind of

awkward/uncomfortable knowing that he likes me. And I value him as a

friend so I don’t want to ruin/make things awkward by telling him

upfront.

 

He hasn't told me that he liked me yet. He's close to one of my

friends and he tells her everything and through her, I know what's

going on in his mind. He basically has the same mindset as me -- He's

afraid that confessing to me will scare me away.

[Guest PrincessKittyx]

It's best to be upfront. I'd wait until he attempts to confess his feelings and be super gentle when you let him down. If he values your friendship he'll understand and if he complains about being in the "friendzone" then he'll have shown his true colors.

[Guest Lepus]

I had similar happen to me, few years ago. One of my friends when he became single, when we met up for coffee, he confessed he had feelings for me. I told him I didn't see him that way. I loved him as a friend, but didn't see him as anything else. I agree, best to be honest with them.  He took it well, he just smiled and said no harm in asking.  He was really sweet about it all, no damage done to friendship. If they're a true friend, they will take it well. 

Hope that helps?

[DavCentral]

If this isn't something you have been confronted with by him, I'd just make a point of saying in front of him that you're not interested in anyone and are glad to have friends like him. Not outright blurt it, but if this is a friend I presume you talk about stuff, I'm sure you can work into a conversation that you're happy being single somehow.

 

Basically you have the chance to let him know without him having to say anything to you, so you can nicely.

Edited September 23, 2017 by DavCentral

[Untwisted]

(I think this is the wrong thread for this question, but anyway)

 

He confides in your friend, can your friend not help?  Either telling him outright or at least bringing him round to the idea that you might not feel the same way.

 

That could make an awkward conversation easier or avoid it altogether.

[Foxcatcher]

Please tell him. Do not string him along. He probably will not remain your friend. But it is better to hurt him now. I had a very similar situation in my youth. Twice.

[LilWittle]

You have to be honest and upfront with him or he will just keep getting more and more attached to you and that is something you do not want from what I see from your post. Good Luck.

[Guest SUeB]

If he approaches you, tell him you value him as a friend but don't see him in any other way. But he hasn't said anything to you. Stop stressing over something that hasn't even happened.

[Guest Prat]

I would wait for him to ask you if you want to have a relationship or something and then decide what you want to do.

[meiji]

perhaps you don't necessarily have to do anything about it at the moment. you two are tight, yeah? there may be awkward moments for you, but i'm sure you'll work your way around it! what is better than companionship? and even if he didn't have romantic feelings for you, he's still your friend, that won't change. it's already been said, but it seems like the most optimal decision is to be honest with him in case he confesses. best of luck to you two!

[Guest Pinescentaddict]

Say youd rather be friends?

[Guest Rye_Curiousity]

#1 dis guy ^ is fwom akemi ga kill so yay i also like   #2 heartbreak ish heartbreak, love is a powerful emotion and da people saying he "wont be ur fwend anymore but better to tell him now" or "if hes a good fwend he'll understand" hab obv never been in a one sided love dat was serious enough to be real not a crush on a celeb or someone u talked to twice.... ish unpredictable honestly, u wont kno if he'll stay fwends wit u or not until u tell him how u feel, and honestly either way he'll still be hurt inside bc love is a double edged sword...  did ish a tough situation but der is no one way to handle and der ish no one right answer from him, hes not a bad fwend if he dislikes being rejected, dats called being human, der isn't a human on earth dat could be in love with someone and get rejected and act casualy normal da next day... I'm not trying to give u answers here bc der are none, u just hab to do wat ufeel ish right, bc in de end its ur relationship, he may need some time alone to get ober it he may not, he may stay ur fwend he may not, in fact he may take offense to my entire post, but no one knos rn bc people aren't predictable to dat extent..... I'm talking to much tho so i kno did didn't help but yea

 

 

 

and to future peoples, don't criticize my grammar I'm 7 Xb