[Sneakylittle]

[Guest Arc]

Daddy and I have the same age gap, and I totally understand how you feel. Daddy isn't bothered when people judge us but I feel really nervous and self conscious. I know there's nothing wrong with us but getting such awful stares when he kisses me in public isn't a nice feeling. 

 

I'm not close to my family so he'd never meet them. My friends are pretty good about it, though. They see how happy he makes me and that's all that matters to them. That's all that should matter to your friends and family - your happiness. 

 

I'm slowly getting used to ignoring the stares and judgement of others. I know there's nothing to feel bad or guilty about but sometimes the looks we get bother me. It's also frustrating because I know it's my age that is the problem to people. If I was 30 and he was 50 then I bet nobody would care about a 20 year gap. It's only because I'm 20 and they think he's a predator -.-

[Guest D͛r͛a͛g͛o͛n͛sP♡ptคгt®]

My Daddy and I have a similar age gap. We're in an LDR atm, but he's planning on visitting for Christmas!! I've introduced him to my parents and friends and they're all pretty okay with it. I'm just nervous about what my extended family is gonna think.. They tend to reprimand me and yell at me for things that they don't understand. So this age gap might be something that *they* find fault with. But I really don't care. My Daddy makes me happy and they should respect that. If they don't or if they feel uncomfortable then that's their issue and theirs alone. ^.^

[Guest Pinescentaddict]

as long as youre not underage, then there is no issue in my eyes

[Guest Belladonna12]

What's up guys?! I'm looking for responses from anyone who has experience with this!!

 

My Daddy is 41, I'm 19. That's almost a 23 year age gap. We see each other usually twice a week, as we live two hours apart, and we go out together allllll over the place. We both definitely look our real ages, I'm more of a middle than a little but "big me" acts much more mature than 19 so the age gap does not bother either of us and I find my Daddy much easier to get along with than anyone my own age. But everywhere we go we get AWFUL stares and glares and my Daddy doesn't mind at all but sometimes they make me nervous.

 

So I guess I want to know how you guys handle and process it and I'd love to hear stories about good or bad encounters!! Has anyone with a huge age gap here introduced their SO to family or friends and how did it go? If I have time I might share a story or two

I mean of course you'll get the nasty looks from people because it's a human nature to gawd at something that is.. abnormal. It's totally fine to feel uncomfortable and wired, but the most important is how you choose to react to it. Me, I'd just ignore it because something like this pretty personal and most people wouldn't understand it. Even if we tried to explain to them they probably think we're crazy and possibly have some mental issues, so might as well leave them alone. But my point is that, don't pay any mind to them. Have fun and enjoy your time with your Daddy. If you're both happy then that's all it matters.

[Meggles]

as long as youre not underage, then there is no issue in my eyes

This is my view as well. Two legal adults, no matter the age gap, are entitled to date if that's what they wanna do. <3

[Hot loving dom]

This forum is about people with similar age gaps. It is ddlg after all, not ymwltsattiswiaalg which stands for young man who likes to spank and thinks this is all it's about little girl.

[Guest SUeB]

Ddlg has no relevance to an age gap, this forum is about the dynamic itself, not age. While i struggle wildly with the concept, some daddies are younger than their littles. But to answer the op, it seems to make a difference how old the younger of the two are. My Dady and i are the same age difference as you....23 years. But He does look a lot younger than that.

Anyway, people will always find something to look down on or judge. Forget about it. That's their problem not yours. You are of legal age, so keep on keeping on.

 

Grr, something went wrong, tried posting, didn't happen, then wanted to edit, and it posted both versions! Now it won't let me delete. So i am not crazy, it's the forum. My second post is the "real" one, haha.

Edited September 23, 2017 by SUeB

[Guest SUeB]

Ddlg has no relevance to an age gap, this forum is about the dynamic itself, not age. While i struggle wildly with the concept, some daddies are younger than their littles. But to answer the op, it seems to make a difference how old the younger of the two are. My Daddy and i are the same age difference as you....23 years. But He does look a lot younger than that. He is 69 and i am 46, but He looks maybe late fifties, as He is much healthier, fitter and with a more energetic and youthful manner and attitude than most His age.

Anyway, people will always find something to look down on or judge. Forget about it. That's their problem not yours. You are of legal age, so keep on keeping on.

[Guest Prat]

@HotLovingDom: Don't see how your post has anything to do with the topic.

 

@SneakyLittle: Everyone always has an opinion on something and if you care about what every single stranger thinks and let it affect you, you're gonna burn yourself out. There is just no way to please everyone at the same time. Focus on the people you care about the most and try your best to ignore the rest if they don't have anything smart to say.

[Untwisted]

Some people, including here, are uncomfortable with the thought of relationships with a large age gap.  Some don't care what anyone else does, but for others, seeing someone their age in a relationship with someone the same age as their children or parents is uncomfortable.  

If I see two people a generation apart together in public, regardless of gender or who is older/younger, I don't assume they're in a relationship.  If I walk down the street with my niece (adult and significantly younger than me), I don't think it would occur to either of us that anyone might think anything of it.  We might well be getting dirty looks but not noticing because we're not feeling self-conscious for any reason.

Is it obvious that you're in a relationship and not just two people who happen to be out together?  Some people simply disapprove of public displays of affection; I haven't researched this but wouldn't be surprised if they tended to also disapprove of age gaps in relationships.

And some might just be jealous that you've got something they wish they had.

Do you maybe feel a bit self conscious about being seen together and you're looking out for the disapprovers, but not keeping count of how many people don't give you a second glance?

My best advice would be don't worry about it.

[TampaDaddy]

Gap schmap!  The largest age gap I've had is just under 26 years, until recently.  I'm currently chatting with and "mentoring" a little who is over 40 years younger than me, long distance.  Will something more ever come of it?  Who knows.  In the meantime, I do what I can to teach her, help her, and keep her safe when she needs it.  Enjoy being with your daddy.  Anyone who doesn't like it can just go away.  If people give you looks, point at them and say "Daddy, stranger danger!  That person is looking at me funny."  That will embarass them enough they will never do that to anyone again. 

[Sneakylittle]

[Guest Volkmane1985]

The reason this occurs is due to the fact that an older man dating a younger woman is taboo.

 

A similar thing occurs when a younger man dates an older woman.

 

Oddly enough in both situations a lot of men will think (lucky guy).

[Guest Volkmane1985]

(double post)

 

EDIT:

 

Also as others have said, as long as both persons involved are of legal age then who cares?

Edited September 23, 2017 by Volkmane1985

[Sneakylittle]

[LilWittle]

The thing that anyone should ask themselves that is in a Little/Daddy or whatever sort of relationship with a huge age gap is are you enjoying the relationship you are having? If you are than so what with what the stereotype is or what others might be thinking. If you are having a good time with that said person than enjoy it and be happy and let the worries go away. 

[Guest Lepus]

IMHO it doesn't matter if someone is in a DD/lg relationship or not, regarding this topic. If they are two consenting adults and both are in a loving relationship, then what is the issue? A lot of people have hang-ups with age gap relationships. And they don't even have to be a big age gap! Can be as little as 5 or 10 years. 

Pretty much what has already been said, I know. Just my thoughts.

[LilWittle]

IMHO it doesn't matter if someone is in a DD/lg relationship or not, regarding this topic. If they are two consenting adults and both are in a loving relationship, then what is the issue? A lot of people have hang-ups with age gap relationships. And they don't even have to be a big age gap! Can be as little as 5 or 10 years. 

 

Pretty much what has already been said, I know. Just my thoughts.

You hit it right on the head. The main thing is if both are consenting adults.

[DollDirector]

In the shared story,it seems you are proud and would not mind the whole world to know,that's love.

 

But " they think he is my father,I kiss him and they look away ". There is nothing wrong with the behavior of these people ! Maybe you should also keep in mind there is such a thing as society.

 

I have been in such a situation,it can be funny,someone speaking to me referring to "your wife" (her looking amazed,me doing absolutely as if nothing bizarre given the obvious age difference,had been said) or someone else "your daughter" (her trying not to look pleased). I have always considered it's in the interest of everyone not to expect society to move at one's pace. 

Edited September 23, 2017 by DollDirector

[Guest Volkmane1985]

(​I think this relates to the age difference conversation going on in this topic)

 

I sometimes wonder if the reason why I've always liked women younger than me is due to working in a Supermarket from the age of 18-32, constantly around an average age range of 16-21.

 

Or is it related to my interest in DD/lg? (which technically I only knew about since January of this year)

Edited September 23, 2017 by Volkmane1985

[Sneakylittle]

[Guest SUeB]

Have to say, on your comment about older guys staring cos they're a bit jealous (wouldn't use that word. i would be more inclined to say they're thinking wow, you lucky dog!!, hehe), Daddy and i have had those looks from men around His age. My Daddy loves it, giggles. Think it gives Him a bit of an ego boost. And so it should. He is absolutely incredible.

[DaddyCue109]

I agree with Doll Collector

 

You are choosing this dynamic for your own reasons.  Part of which may be that it is "naughty".

 

When I am out with my lg no one would know we are dating.  They may guess.  I will hold a door for her.  Order her food.  Package her left overs.  But many of those things a old fashioned father would do with his daughter.

 

I have had older couples compliment me on my pretty daughter.  I just smile and say "just like her mom" and wink at her.

 

We choose not to partake in a lot of PDA.

 

You do.  And the reactions you get are predictable.

 

So you must enjoy the reactions.

 

Just my observation.

[Guest Volkmane1985]

I can imagine PDA can get a bit awkward with some age gaps.