be careful of fake daddies

[Guest DaddyMaster]

been in this lifestyle for quiet a long time so i figured i will give a few pointers, 

if he is willing to call you his little in less then a week of solid talking he is a fake daddy.

if he asks for naughty stuff immediately after you become his little he is likely a fake.

if he refuses to send photos from camera on things like kik but is happy to send them from gallery be cautious,

 

I will keep updating this as i think of new ones

 

fine these are red flags

Edited September 22, 2017 by DaddyMaster

[Guest ~Luna Rawrs~]

How does a daddy who doesn't want to send pictures of himself on camera, but from the gallery, qualify as a fake daddy?

Just because he doesn't want to does not mean he is fake. There may be reasons why he doesn't want to.

 

I may understand what you are saying about a daddy calling a little his after just a week of talking may be seen as fake, but that is considered a RED FLAG, not fake. The same could be said about a daddy asking a little, who he just started calling his own, for naughty stuff is a red flag NOT fake.

 

All daddy's do things very differently, but there are daddy's that are camera shy, sexual or too ignorant (sorry to all the daddies for calling yous ignorant!!! *whispers not sorry*) for their own good.

 

The word fake has many definitions, but the main one is decieve. A daddy could be decieving, but not fake. No daddy wants to be called fake. Just cause a daddy does one thing that no body else likes, does not mean he is fake.

 

Think before you type mister -3-

[Guest SUeB]

i called my Daddy that title from the day we met. which was three days after we first started talking. Does that make me a fake too? What is the allowed time frame? Day six....nope you're a fake. Day seven....yep, you're genuine. Some of what you are saying is fine, but to put it in basic terms, just because you have an opinion, that does not make it fact.

And you look very young, what do you consider as "being in the lifestyle a long time"?

A lot of guys ask for naughty stuff very quickly. That doesn't make them necessarily fake, just horny. If they put pressure on, then thats a different matter.

Not trying to be difficult, but you have stated these things as fact. They are not fact. They are what you think. Even genuine daddies or doms can act like dicks at first, or try too hard too fast.

Yep, some of those things absolutely can be signs of a fake, but certainly not in every case.

[Guest Prat]

My reply would be about the same as previous ones. The things you mentioned don't mean fake Daddy, just incompatible one. We are all different people and we feel differently about how we approach the role of Daddy, some do it solely for roleplaying and sexy stuff which doesn't make them fake, there's littles too that approach being little the same way which doesn't make them fake either.

 

In my opinion, for a Daddy to qualify as fake they would probably have to be a fake person as a whole. Someone not sincere about their identity or goals or interests or something else along these lines.

For example if a man called John, who's a married 40 yo with 3 kids and has never been a Daddy and has no intention to be a Daddy but only wants a younger plaything, approaches you and claims to be David, a

20 yo college student, who's looking for a lifetime partner, he's a fake Daddy. He's lying about his identity and interests and that's called catfishing and is bannable on this forum.

Another example would be someone pretending to be a Daddy or little and being a perfect partner and then stuffing you in their basement after meeting them and going to an out of public place as soon as you meet for the first time and they turn out to be a human trafficker. That's a predator and a criminal.

 

If you'd been in this lifestyle for long enough then you would have learned not to throw around the word "fake". Keep learning mister DaddyMaster.

Edited September 22, 2017 by Prat(Praetorian)

[Guest Pinescentaddict]

People are so different and everyone has different takes on stuff man, like i personally am not like that but i respect people who do that as that's their take on the lifestyle. someone who's a "fake" or "real" daddy isn't a thing, its just being different and having different take on a lifestyle that's opposed to yours.

[Guest SUeB]

i will say that if someone is calling themselves a Daddy or Dom merely to attract vulnerable or naive people, when they are neither of those things, then THEY are fakes.

A guy calling himself a daddy just cos he thinks it will get him laid is a fake daddy.

[FLdaddy]

OK, I have been in this lifestyle from the ripe ol age of 19. I started off in the normal (what's normal about this lol?) Side of the bdsm community. I was formally trained by a dominatrix. Yes! I was trained on how to be a Dom! Any way I progressed thought the different dynamics learning as much as I could. Now here I am in the ddlg community. I am now 41 years old. I have seen a lot of shit! Some good and some bad. I see everyone here kinda jumping on "daddy master" (OK) about his choice of words. I myself have used the term fake in a number of occasions. Like here.

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/25394-age-of-a-caregiver/

 

It is just an easy word to throw out and use. Wrong choice of words? Maybe? Who knows.

 

Now with what he is saying about flags to look out for. Yes some are true. Most of all of that are blanket statements made a very long time ago off someone's tumblr page. There are oversexed daddies, and littles out there that want to get off with each other. Does that make them fake? NO! Just makes them really lucky (see what I did there lol?) Like some of you posted, you called your partner daddy really quickly. Does that make you or him fake? NO!

 

Just remember this. It is your life, and your relationship. You are responsible for what happens. No one has the right, to tell you are doing it right or wrong! If you get yourself in a situation that is bad, get out. We are always here for each other but you need to tale the first step. Just my two cents, but what the hell do I know?

[Rainbow97]

Hi, 

 

So I've been communicating with someone, and he's quite a bit older than me, but we've been talking about a week, maybe a bit over, and while he seems really nice, I feel like he doesn't genuinely care... He seems to be really sexual, and he said he was/is interested in DDLG, just as I am, but now when we talk it's like he'll give me one word answers when I say something, or ask, or show him something I thought was cool, but then when he's ready he'll ask for things and just talk. 

 

The age difference is 20 years. Which yes, I know is a lot. 

My main question I guess is is this a red flag? Could he be considered fake?

[Guest Ignea]

What or who is fake or not is hard to see , there are some pretty good lists to see whats red flagged or set as fake, might read that instead of stating a few facts and consider them as a truth,  it might be your truth not everyone elses. Throwing around a few pointers and put them under the fake tab is easy.


Being in this lifestye quite a long time is relativ, your like what 22,  what do you consider long. as said before by SUeB.

I myself am 48 and took me a few years to discover develop and stil grow as a Dom and a Daddy its a process that evolves constant.

Like said before some try to hard or are just eager because its hard to find a little. (special for older Daddy/Mommy/CG).


Me i dont mind sending a Photo of myself as long as its apropriate.
If the feeling is ok and mutual why put a timeframe on when to call someone youre little. (is there a duedate or incubation time? i didnt think so.

The remark , asking for naughty stuff right away can be looked at as a red flag-ish situation  i agree on that.


So maybe a do /dont list might be handy for "new" littles and Daddy/Mommy/CG  as a guideline .. Like to set a pointer list for Daddy/Mommy/CG how to "act" proper and not be flagged or tagged as fake. But stil that doesnt guarantee anything , to bad predators and fakers know how to use this also.  That goes for Daddy/Mommy/CG and littles.

just my 2 cents

[Guest SUeB]

Hi,

 

So I've been communicating with someone, and he's quite a bit older than me, but we've been talking about a week, maybe a bit over, and while he seems really nice, I feel like he doesn't genuinely care... He seems to be really sexual, and he said he was/is interested in DDLG, just as I am, but now when we talk it's like he'll give me one word answers when I say something, or ask, or show him something I thought was cool, but then when he's ready he'll ask for things and just talk.

 

The age difference is 20 years. Which yes, I know is a lot.

My main question I guess is is this a red flag? Could he be considered fake?

My Daddy is 23 years older than me. Age difference is no indication of being fake.

And fake or not, this dude is clearly not the one for you. The red flags are how doubtful you are, all the questions in your head and the clear incompatibilities.

[sullenDaddybones]

You take a risk, a lot of people here are imagining themselves as they want you to see them. It happens all over the Internet... The Red Flags are if a person keeps backing off when you push, push more gently and eventually give up cause if you have to push and want to push and they don't push back with honesty and openness they're not for you. That's about all you gotta do