Remove Asperger's from my Ad?

[Guest Volkmane1985]

Evening all,

 

While talking to a Little on PMs, it was noted by them that they had to look up what Autism and Asperger's were and it got me thinking.

 

Should I remove all mention of my Asperger's from my Ad just in case it is putting potential Littles off?

 

I have had Littles contact me because I mentioned it but I'm just wondering if it is hindering my Ad?

 

Thanks for any replies

[Guest SUeB]

No point hiding anything. Hopefully you want someone you will be honest with. Why not start with being open and honest right away. Less likely to waste time talking to someone who might later have an issue with it when they later find out. Those people won't be any good for you anyway. Start as you ought to carry on. Edited September 17, 2017 by SUeB

[Guest Volkmane1985]

I guess, well it's an open question so

[Untwisted]

It might put some people off, but assuming you'd tell them further down the line, whether they'd be ok with it or feel uncomfortable that you'd withheld it.  I don't know how big a deal it would be to some people.  Maybe if there's a really good reference somewhere, you could include that in your ad so if they do need to look it up, they're getting decent information rather than someone else’s random opinion that they stumble across.

It could work both ways, someone with Aspergers might be more inclined to contact you because they'd not need to worry about you not understanding.

 
For me, I don't think it would put me off if someone mentioned it on her profile or ad.

[LSubJamie]

I don't think you should hide anything but I would leave it out of your ad, I would wait until I got to know someone well before sharing things that might dissuade someone from getting to know you better.  I have personal problems but I wait until I'e known the person for a while before I divulge anything that might be viewed as negative about myself and I do it in small doses over time.

[Guest PrincessKittyx]

I have. A few mental illnesses and I mention them after I get comfortable. They have never been an issue in that situation. I like to mention them as soon as possible, before I gain feelings for people

[Guest headpats]

Don't remove things because you think they'll put people off. Should you take it off because it's too much unnecessary detail? I have no idea, I haven't actually read your personal, but being up front is usually the best policy. I'd say leave it on.

 

And like some have mentioned, it might actually be a bonus for somebody. You never know.

[LittleBbPrincess]

I'm a little who has Asperger's I don't fink you should hide it dey should wub you for you!!!

[tinkerpale]

I think you should leave it!   I have several chronic illnesses, but there is so much more to me than just being a sick girl! I suggest you share some of your interests as well, so people can get to know you better & understand what you have to go through. Some people have stopped talking to me when they found out I'm sick & some people have wanted to talk to me more because they want to take care of me. I definitely only want the type of people in my life who are empathetic & want to care for me!  So I think it can be very helpful if we're honest from the beginning.

[LittleKitten13]

I think if you want to leave it, that would be fine.  Maybe if people aren't sure what Aspergers is, you could put a quick explanation as to what Aspergers itself is, and how it manifests itself in your life.

[BabyBubbly]

Hide nothing, if someone judges you because you have autism (high functioning autism, thanks dsm) they have bigger issues of their own. It shouldn't matter, and if it does matter to some one, they don't deserve your time. I had an autistic friend at college who took months to tell me they were autistic, I literally told them, "I don't care," and preceded to talk to them just as I had before. Because I don't care. Why should something that makes you unique make you ashamed? I was called a faggot (I hope that's okay to use here.) at college, and I smiled and said thanks. Somebody once tried to intimidate me by saying, (essentially) "are you really going to take their sides, do you want to fight me, B*****boy."

I told them yes and they backed off. I think a person can be a little and stand up for who they are. You don't have to hide just because somebody judges you. You just have to say, "well then your opinion doesn't matter to me."