No Daddy Club (Littles w/o Daddies but Want Friends!)

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

I repeat again, I still do not understand why it is a big problem that single littles have a space. That does not mean that we are not going to talk to littles who have a CG. Because if we go to the case, we are also dividing the rest of the people as community DD/LG. So I do not see the bad, want to contact people who are going through a situation similar to you without a CG and share experiences.

 

Because being honest, I do not comfort me at all, when I feel alone and bad, that a little with a Daddy comes to say "do not worry, you'll find a Daddy for you someday" and then return to they happy place with their daddy.

 

I do not think it's too much to ask, to want to contact us. Because the forum is full of post problems of the Littles with their Daddys and Daddys with their littles. So I think you should rethink who are really being excluded. Because sometimes the forum seems like a place for people with partners, and maybe that's why many leave, because they feel excluded because they are single.

 

Edited September 11, 2017 by ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾

[Little Illy]

Im going to exit this thread now - but with one caveat. I never say "youll find the perfect Daddy one day" I think that line is bullshit. I always try to listen and sympathize. Then I proceed to tell that person their feelings are validated and ya know what? You still kick ass regardless.

 

We are opposite sides of the fence. Maybe if/when you get a CG and have littles yell at you for even bringing him up because you're facing genuine problems and need advice, yet are just met with scathing "at least you have one"... maybe then you'll get it. Not all of us just return to a happy place with their CG - some of us hurt so damn much because of the situation - but we can never say anything, because we have one. When I have known literally dozens of couples who have left because the attack they receive from single littles and CGs alike. It cuts both ways, probably equally, if I were to admit.

 

Like I have stated

 

 

 

I know you want a place of your own, and I definitely respect that. 

 

I was originally just asking a genuine question - why not post for lonely littles or littles without mentioning of CGs? Same need but includes a larger demographic who desperately need understanding little friends just as much.

 

Anyways - enjoy your space. I honestly and sincerely hope yall find comfort in it. Everyone deserves that. And I truly mean that.

 

My intentions were not to start a heated dispute, but to try to understand this shift. That is all. I'll go back to my own little corner. 

Edited September 11, 2017 by LittleBree

[littleApril]

 

I repeat again, I still do not understand why it is a big problem that single littles have a space. That does not mean that we are not going to talk to littles who have a CG. Because if we go to the case, we are also dividing the rest of the people as community DD/LG. So I do not see the bad, want to contact people who are going through a situation similar to you without a CG and share experiences.

 

Because being honest, I do not comfort me at all, when I feel alone and bad, that a little with a Daddy comes to say "do not worry, you'll find a Daddy for you someday" and then return to they happy place with their daddy.

 

I do not think it's too much to ask, to want to contact us. Because the forum is full of post problems of the Littles with their Daddys and Daddys with their littles. So I think you should rethink who are really being excluded. Because sometimes the forum seems like a place for people with partners, and maybe that's why many leave, because they feel excluded because they are single.

 

 

people just don't want to feel excluded.... and it's probably hard for some people... they see it as a club they can't be a part of even though it wouldn't be like that...

[quinnie]

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We are opposite sides of the fence. Maybe if/when you get a CG and have littles yell at you for even bringing him up because you're facing genuine problems and need advice, yet are just met with scathing "at least you have one"... maybe then you'll get it. Not all of us just return to a happy place with their CG - some of us hurt so damn much because of the situation - but we can never say anything, because we have one. When I have known literally dozens of couples who have left because the attack they receive from single littles and CGs alike. It cuts both ways, probably equally, if I were to admit.

 

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I was originally just asking a genuine question - why not post for lonely littles or littles without mentioning of CGs? Same need but includes a larger demographic who desperately need understanding little friends just as much.

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I definitely don't want littles who are in relationships to not feel like they can talk about their problems, because those problems are real and valid just like any other relationship. It's terrible that both sides feel excluded and victimized, that both sides feel excluded. As I've said, it was never my intention.

 

Heck, I want lonely littles to come in. I just didn't want it to be a place where cgless littles felt excluded because a lot of places on this forum feel that way. I want it to be a place where people feel safe coming to talk about their lives and their struggles of having to be little and big and feeling like they don't have someone's support. A solidarity topic, of sorts? 

 

I'm gonna edit my initial topic post to clarify these things, but I just really don't want those who have come in here looking for solace to feel attacked by the posts of people who don't think this place made just for them is necessary... 

 

And once again, I am truly sorry for any hurt this may have caused.

[potato]

I...I wanna join the club? I think it's really hard to explain why some of us just want friends who don't have a CG.. Even if you don't brag, just knowing you have someone like that is saddening at times.... Especially if you're really sensible and fragile

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

I really, really understand that littles with CG also have their own problems, and having a CG does not make them any less valid. But try to understand. Every week open post with tag "looking little friends" without ever mentioning whether or not CG. Then comes quinnie asking for single littles and is a big problem of exclusion. The forum is full of post for couples. There is no such space for us. And it makes me really bad the fact that they speak as if we were the worst people in the world because want a place for us.

Is not a bad thing, we still have the rest of the forum to participate with littles with CG. We just want a place where we feel comfortable.

Edited September 11, 2017 by ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾

[quinnie]

I had cereal for dinner because I'm a BIG PRINCESS WHO MAKES HER OWN RULES ✨✨✨

[Guest Babygirl.xx]

Omg. I feel the same.though i am new to all this but i would love to have a little friend who has no daddy too

[quinnie]

Yayyyy new friendssssss!!!!

[Zacky]

Hiya! I gots no mommy, myself, though I'm always hopeful for the future!

You guys ever have the problem where you regress too far and you gets all needy and clingy but with nobody there you come out of it all depressed?

[Guest Fal~]

I wanna make some little friends!! Hallo all!! Bonjour bonjour <3

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

Hiya! I gots no mommy, myself, though I'm always hopeful for the future!

You guys ever have the problem where you regress too far and you gets all needy and clingy but with nobody there you come out of it all depressed?

 

It happens to me a lot, I live with my parents, then sometimes when I get very clingy with my mother, but she pulls me away and says I'm acting strange and that she is busy. So sometimes I start talking nonsense to my friends by faceboook. But it's never the same, at the end of the day I end up feeling lonely and crying in my room.

[quinnie]

Hiya! I gots no mommy, myself, though I'm always hopeful for the future!

You guys ever have the problem where you regress too far and you gets all needy and clingy but with nobody there you come out of it all depressed?

 

It happens to me a lot, I live with my parents, then sometimes when I get very clingy with my mother, but she pulls me away and says I'm acting strange and that she is busy. So sometimes I start talking nonsense to my friends by faceboook. But it's never the same, at the end of the day I end up feeling lonely and crying in my room.

 

I live w my primary (who isn't into the CGl stuff), but usually when i hit really strong regression its when I'm alone or in places I really shouldn't regress like at work. It's so stressful.

 

It's like.. there needs to be more safe spaces to regress and not worry about people rejecting you, y'know?

[Kittensubemma]

Bonjouur. Hi everyone. I's also little, but no daddy . It's Okie. I can wait. Though it's so hard being in little space, with no one to be there with.

but I would love to make some new friends, so HI HI

[BabyBunnyNecromancer]

hello >< little here, new to all this stuffs and i do´nt have a daddy, i hope to make many new friends <3

[happy daddy]

I highly doubt I'll be getting a daddy soon anyhow

 

why do you feel that way? Just curious.

[Zacky]

why do you feel that way? Just curious.

Understand that being little often comes along with a lot of personal baggage, esp. low self esteem and poor monetary prospects. (looking at ABU's market research)

I get the same feeling sometimes about ever finding a nice mommy, but I do tend to stay positive.

[Guest periwinkles]

I dont think it's a bad idea :3 I'm new to ddlg so I dont have a daddy, but i reeeeally wanna make some little friends 

[Strawberry Sprinkles]

Sliding on in here. Daddyless, but attached.    Sometimes it's rough because I'll be having a strong day in Littlespace and end up "simplifying" my speech with the occasional third person - "Reirei plays League now?" I always have to pause and regroup. Thankfully I have a very understanding significant other who accepts me as I am even if DDlg isn't his thing.

 

Because I don't have a Daddy and I refuse to emotionally become attached/respond to another male/female while with my partner, I've often considered trying to find a "little sister" to hang out to feel that unique closeness with as large groups usually scare me off.

Edited September 18, 2017 by Strawberry Sprinkles

[LittleLeo]

Sliding on in here. Daddyless, but attached.    Sometimes it's rough because I'll be having a strong day in Littlespace and end up "simplifying" my speech with the occasional third person - "Reirei plays League now?" I always have to pause and regroup. Thankfully I have a very understanding significant other who accepts me as I am even if DDlg isn't his thing.

 

Because I don't have a Daddy and I refuse to emotionally become attached/respond to another male/female while with my partner, I've often considered trying to find a "little sister" to hang out to feel that unique closeness with as large groups usually scare me off.

I have a significant other who knows I am a little but DDlg isnt his thing either. It does become a bit difficult for me because I have never been deep in littlespace around him but I want to be because he makes me feel so safe and protected. 

I would love to make friends with other littles. I am pretty shy but if you want to add and speak to me I am okay with it.

[Gayby]

Hi...

[quinnie]

Hi...

Hello!

[Guest GalaxyGirl26]

Hai!! I don't have a Daddy and don't have very many friends, either.

I would definitely like to make some friends! ^-^

[Guest brazilianlittlenerd]

Hey, I loved this! All the littles should have little friends 

[quinnie]

I'm so excited to see everyone who has posted looking for friends!!! Please feel free to post here in general, too! Life updates, little stuffs, etc~

 

I bought a cute pusheen pencil/pen /highlighter/eraser/ pencil sharpener/notebook set at Barnes and Noble (US bookstore) for $10!!! It's so cute!!!