Middletown Posted September 9, 2017 Report Posted September 9, 2017 How do I function with my husband who no longer wants the role of daddy? We have been together 5 years married for 3. We started on this journey together and he couldn't handle consistency and unfortunately honesty. How do I manage my little self without allowing him to erase her altogether? To those who want to give opinions instead of advice unlike society today I made a promise to someone and my current family until death so please be helpful.
Guest ~ Ducky ~ Posted September 9, 2017 Report Posted September 9, 2017 My advice would be to sit down and have a one-on-one adult conversation about it. Explain your feelings to him, and see where it goes from there. I know talking it out can be scary, but who knows, it might actually help with it. Good luck! 1
DollDirector Posted September 9, 2017 Report Posted September 9, 2017 There should be someone somewhere in your community. Think hard,can't you think of someone you can trust ? My two cents are,it's what you need. Just taking an example: If someone was in an arranged marriage (let me be clear: it is just an example and besides I sincerely think marriages arranged by families are not worse than others) I would not be very good at giving advice because in my society we have almost completely stopped doing it this way; Nor would a forum be very good if the majority of people on it did not believe in this way of building families.
Middletown Posted September 9, 2017 Author Report Posted September 9, 2017 Thank you but it's not like that at all I don't believe in divorce I'm trying to make my marriage work and not cause conflicts I really just need to know what things I can do so that I don't become completely introverted
Middletown Posted September 9, 2017 Author Report Posted September 9, 2017 DucklingMike... we have and its best that I will prevent him from pretending he wants this only to fail miserably and then we have way more issues
Guest Princessaj Posted September 9, 2017 Report Posted September 9, 2017 Middle here toooooo!!! Hmmmm, trying stay away from the marriage part and focus on you.... Be yourself. Be middle. Celebrate you being a middle. Sometimes, when someone (hint, hint) sees how happy you are being your middle self, they want to come to the party, in a matter of speaking. I would full on go middle. -Ramp up your dressing style, seeing yourself in your middle space cute outfits, braids, pig tails, glossy lip gloss, how ever you do it....is soooo intoxicating for me, you might find it that way too. -Play music that makes you feel middle, in the house, in the car, on your phone... -Make a "middle place." I have mine in a 4 shelf book case where I display my toys, stuffies, flower crowns that I have made, Barbies, ballerina everything.....it even has a string of fairy lights that I have draped over and bring a halo to the room. -Make your own discipline charts and put them on the frig with fun stickers in clear view...... -Make lots of little/middle/pet/DD/MD/CG friends and depending on where you are get together with them a lot..."Oh yeah, I will be going to a play date with my little/middle friends next Friday at 7 pm, just wanted to let you know." even if its on Skype be certain to let him know you are active and are part of a thriving community that supports your middle. I want to make a point. Don't HIDE! Be DDlg in your life which is a part of your marriage. Lastly, never give your power away to anyone that doesn't respect and celebrate what makes you happy. He can't "erase" anything unless you give him the eraser. Poof! no more eraser. Hugs 1
DollDirector Posted September 10, 2017 Report Posted September 10, 2017 (edited) I have liked what Princessaj says,not just because it's irresistible but yes,you have to have a life. You have a bit of yourself on this site,for a start. It will be obvious that this life even involving going out,is not threatening anyone,so it should not attract any threat in return. (Any threat would be line-crossing but hopefully there's no sign of this). Edited September 10, 2017 by DollDirector
Middletown Posted September 10, 2017 Author Report Posted September 10, 2017 (edited) Thank you Princessaj I would love to but for some reason I try to go into my middle space and it feels so very sad like something in my happy place is breaking and I'm trying to keep that from happening. Kind of like the dark spot in Mr. Magorium's wonder emporium Edited September 10, 2017 by Middletown 1
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