Lost Little

[BabyBunnyNecromancer]

Hello Friends, i´m new here and look forward to making some new friends, i´m relatibly new to the comunity, i currently don't have a daddy or s.o and i was wondering what the littles in my position do to try and be their own c.g?

 

i realized i was little a long time ago, but i never knew how to explain it until i found out about the comunity, and it´s really hard for me to be on my own. about 7 months ago i got out of a relationship, which was sortoff a ddlg relationship but not really? (i always saw us as diffrent from other couples because they didnt act the way we did) my boyfriend at the time always took care of me, we called each other pet names, he made sure i ate, that i did my work from university, he would do things for me like help me get dressed, made me food, and gave me extra cuddles when i was feeling little, he also scolded me when i was bad, or bratty and over all i was very happy, we lasted three years, and these past sevn months. although i´m over the actual breakup, it´s really hard for me to take care of myself.i can´t establich bedtimes, organize school work, remember to eat on time, and it´s frusterating, especially since i don´t have any friends in the ddlg comunity to talk to about everything.

 

i´m sorry if this was a little long, any tips to learn to take care of myself would be highly apreciated, thankyou friends <3

[Guest ~ Ducky ~]

Back when I didn't have my daddy, I was my primary caretaker. It wasn't easy but I managed to do it. One thing I suggest checking out is the self-care master post. Here is the link: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/11765-self-care-master-post/

 

Other than that, yeah. The forum has a bunch of resources and stuff that you can take a look at, and if you're ever feeling lonely, myself and other bigs/littles are always available to chat. Good luck!

[LittleBabyKitty]

I'm sorry you went though a breakup, those are painful, period.  Glad you're maintaining for the most part.

 

I would say, write a list of goals everyday.  Go get yourself a cute little notepad and date each page, and write your goals for that day.  When I actually WRITE my goals with pen and paper, I have more success completing them.

 

Keep track of what you've completed.  Reward yourself with something each time you complete the whole list.  On Saturday or Sunday, look at your pages for the previous week and see what you need to focus on.

 

Ask friends and family to help you keep track of things as well.  They don't have to know it's a "little" thing, just explain that you're still adjusting from the breakup, and you can use some friendly reminders to get your priorities in order.

 

Best of luck, let us know how it goes!

[BabyBunnyNecromancer]

thankyou so much to the both of you <3 it helps a lot <3

[Guest SUeB]

Don't mean to sound mean, but you are an adult capable of functioning as one. You do what everyone does, and you take care of yourself. Yes it's hard being on your own, especially if you were in this type of relationship, but if you are unable to get through life without a partner, you shouldn't be looking for someone just for that reason. You survived before that relationship, so now you can again.

[BabyBunnyNecromancer]

Don't mean to sound mean, but you are an adult capable of functioning as one. You do what everyone does, and you take care of yourself. Yes it's hard being on your own, especially if you were in this type of relationship, but if you are unable to get through life without a partner, you shouldn't be looking for someone just for that reason. You survived before that relationship, so now you can again.

 

 

i totally understand what your talking about, but in my case it´s a little harder, since i also have anxiety and depression, so add that to emotional dependency and we have a slightly bigger problem than¨ normal¨, but ive been coping the best way i can. also i never said that i was looking for someone, i don´t really know how you got that from my post, i was looking for tips on how to help myself grow and take care of myself, so, i don´t mean to sound mean, but your reply had no real input at all .-. 

 

thankyou for trying though!

[Guest SUeB]

My input was to say that you just do what we all do, which is grow up and take care of ourselves. My comment about looking for a relationship wasn't because you said you were looking, but a general one. You said nothing about connection,intimacy, love etc. You just said he did things for you, told you what to do to make sure you got through the day as we all have to do. The feel of your post is that you want someone else to do that for you. You don't need to say specific words to send out a message. And the message i got was "how do i survive until someone else can be the adult here?"