He has no time for me anymore..

[BabyPinecone]

So.. my Daddy just recently got a new job. We've now went from talking every moment of every day, to talking 2 hours a day if I'm lucky. Am I overreacting or something? Like will I get used to this, or what?

 

I'm constantly in littlespace, therefore, I need all the attention I can get from him. But since he's not available.. what do I do??

[Guest Mr.Stuffykins]

Personally? If i only talked to my little for two hours a day I would find it very difficult, key word difficult not impossible, to remain as attached (Especially if its a LDR). You're so attached that being away from each other for so long really takes its toll on you. You start to feel alone and if you're unable to cope with the situation then you'll find yourself losing interest in the relationship. If both of you are invested and devoted to each other then you need to be willing to commit now more than ever. See each other as much as possible via skype, in person, phone calls, video recordings, etc. Whatever the case may be he has to be motivated to make things work! because if hes just going to be focused on work and talk to you for an hour a day, with half assed messages, then im afraid things are going to get rocky.

 

On a final note: If you're really in love with him (and can not even picture the thought of losing him) then you should consider talking to him about getting a platonic caregiver - a babysitter if you will. Someone to look after you while your daddy is busy. Nothing sexual or even romantic. That way enduring the pain of solitude wont be as severe.

 

Its just a thought though!

 

In any case i do hope things go well for you two! Only you know how much you can endure and how strong your feelings are for him.

 

I wish you both the very best ^^ Take care

Edited September 8, 2017 by Stuffykins

[Guest Arc]

I don't really know the situation, but I would suggest giving it some time and see what happens. 

 

My Daddy and I talked all the time when he had his old job and I visited him really often, but then when he started a new job last year things quietened down a lot for the first month and I hardly got to see him at all. I was really struggling the whole time. Daddy was so busy learning his new job that by the time the day had finished he was too mentally and physically exhausted to do much other than have dinner and go to bed. He didn't have the energy to visit me, and some days didn't have the energy to even call me. But over time things improved and now we talk as often as we used to and visit each other all the time. He was just really busy learning a new job and adapting that it took a lot of his time and energy. I had thought about giving in when I was struggling but I am so glad that I waited things out because now they're amazing.  

 

I think you should give it some time and see if things settle down. They may improve sooner than you think. Finding little friends or someone else to give you company and attention while you figure things out would help a lot.  

[Steve.dd4lg]

Maybe make other little friends to fill the void?

[Guest]

Hi there,

 

I understand how hard it is when your daddy is really busy and may not have a lot of time to talk to each day (especially if you are in littlespace). In terms of whether you are over reacting or not, I don't think that you are....finding it hard without being in constant contact with him just shows how much you miss him and how much he means to you. However, I think that you will be able to adjust and get used to it and may even find that he has more time to talk once he has settled in to his new job

 

Even though everyone is different, I don't think you should worry too much about losing a connection or anything like that. Sometimes my daddy gets super busy for long periods of time and although it's hard and I really miss him, I do my best to try to understand and I've found that it doesn't change our feelings. We are really close and have a great connection and both really care about each other.

 

In terms of what you should do, have you tried telling him about this and maybe trying to find a compromise? Like maybe you two could work out a certain time each day where you can chat/check-in with each other so it gives you something to look forward to and you're not just wondering when you will next get to chat? Just a suggestion.

 

Ultimately, I know that even though I miss him so much sometimes, I couldn't be happier with my daddy. So I hope that things are good enough between the two of you that you can adjust to this new situation together

 

Hope this helped at least a little bit! Feel free to message me if you have any questions or just want a friend to talk to

[Guest infinitecases]

When my daddy's on break, we talk all day but when he starts school we also only talk for 2 hours or so or sometimes we can't! I personally find it not too bad of a transition, he's trying his best to make time for me even though he is so busy and even a few hours.. or half an hour of talking to him is better than not at all. When he's busy I tend to busy myself too, that way the time goes faster! I don't know how old you are, but I generally think cleaning the house, studying, reading, working, or catching up with all your hobbies that you might not get time for when you're talking all day is a good way to start. 

 

I used to get really het up about missing my daddy if he left for the day and was busy, but you'll find that as time goes on, even though you miss him so much, you can't stop that fact that he has other responsibilities or maybe outings he wants to go on. You also can't ignore the fact that we all have responsibilities too, I have things to do just as much as daddy and whilst I may not enjoy missing him, it gives me time to finish those things and cherish the time I do have with him even more  

 

Of course, if you feel you are not getting enough attention, you could try talking to your daddy about it and see if you can come up with a solution that would mean you talk more and it's not such a big change for you to deal with. I always tell my daddy if something is bothering me and it always helps to talk it through. 

[Daddy_Bear7]

This kind of situation is really hard for either person in the relationship. I have personal ongoing experience as a Daddy whose long distance little has just become too busy with her life to really be involved at all in our relationship at all. It hurts because you invest so much time and effort and it just feels empty without that constant interaction. For us it's been like this now for 4 or 5 months and there is no sign of it getting any better and I'm really struggling to know what to do.

 

I think like others have suggested you have to talk to your Daddy and let him know how you're feeling and if he says that it's just because of his new job and that it will get better then I think you have to trust him... but time will tell, now I just need to find a way to listen to my own advice 

 

Hopefully it's just a short term glitch which you'll be able to ride out though

 

DB

[BabyPinecone]

Personally? If i only talked to my little for two hours a day I would find it very difficult, key word difficult not impossible, to remain as attached (Especially if its a LDR). You're so attached that being away from each other for so long really takes its toll on you. You start to feel alone and if you're unable to cope with the situation then you'll find yourself losing interest in the relationship. If both of you are invested and devoted to each other then you need to be willing to commit now more than ever. See each other as much as possible via skype, in person, phone calls, video recordings, etc. Whatever the case may be he has to be motivated to make things work! because if hes just going to be focused on work and talk to you for an hour a day, with half assed messages, then im afraid things are going to get rocky.

 

On a final note: If you're really in love with him (and can not even picture the thought of losing him) then you should consider talking to him about getting a platonic caregiver - a babysitter if you will. Someone to look after you while your daddy is busy. Nothing sexual or even romantic. That way enduring the pain of solitude wont be as severe.

 

Its just a thought though!

 

In any case i do hope things go well for you two! Only you know how much you can endure and how strong your feelings are for him.

 

I wish you both the very best ^^ Take care

Thank youuuu I will definitely look into the babysitter thing and try it out ^-^

[BabyPinecone]

Hi there,

 

I understand how hard it is when your daddy is really busy and may not have a lot of time to talk to each day (especially if you are in littlespace). In terms of whether you are over reacting or not, I don't think that you are....finding it hard without being in constant contact with him just shows how much you miss him and how much he means to you. However, I think that you will be able to adjust and get used to it and may even find that he has more time to talk once he has settled in to his new job

 

Even though everyone is different, I don't think you should worry too much about losing a connection or anything like that. Sometimes my daddy gets super busy for long periods of time and although it's hard and I really miss him, I do my best to try to understand and I've found that it doesn't change our feelings. We are really close and have a great connection and both really care about each other.

 

In terms of what you should do, have you tried telling him about this and maybe trying to find a compromise? Like maybe you two could work out a certain time each day where you can chat/check-in with each other so it gives you something to look forward to and you're not just wondering when you will next get to chat? Just a suggestion.

 

Ultimately, I know that even though I miss him so much sometimes, I couldn't be happier with my daddy. So I hope that things are good enough between the two of you that you can adjust to this new situation together

 

Hope this helped at least a little bit! Feel free to message me if you have any questions or just want a friend to talk to

Thank you so much!!!

[BabyPinecone]

This kind of situation is really hard for either person in the relationship. I have personal ongoing experience as a Daddy whose long distance little has just become too busy with her life to really be involved at all in our relationship at all. It hurts because you invest so much time and effort and it just feels empty without that constant interaction. For us it's been like this now for 4 or 5 months and there is no sign of it getting any better and I'm really struggling to know what to do.

 

I think like others have suggested you have to talk to your Daddy and let him know how you're feeling and if he says that it's just because of his new job and that it will get better then I think you have to trust him... but time will tell, now I just need to find a way to listen to my own advice 

 

Hopefully it's just a short term glitch which you'll be able to ride out though

 

DB

Thank youu and yea, the long distance thing is really hard to work out. I've tried dating people I know who live a lot closer but they never seem to be happy with the whole DDlg thing. So I decided to try an online relationship, which isn't that bad really