Punishment and Correction Tactics?

[Guest CherryMommy]

I am a believer that when my princess acts up, she is punished. However, I have learned that a spanking is not the only punishment, although she is spanked plenty. I have found out that taking away something she cherishes, or refraining her from doing something works well too. She is extremely fond of cake pops...loves them. One time, she told me she bought a package of six, and ate four of them before dinner. I was not happy, and was not in the area, so I had to direct a spanking over the internet. She is now conditioned to know she simply cannot gorge herself on those particular sweets unless she wants to be spanked. 

 

How do others discipline their littles? I am curious to know, because perhaps maybe I can get more information. It is difficult when she and I are several states away, so anything anyone can relate to, please...have a conversation with me. Thank you. :-)

[Bull]

It’s hard to punish sometimes. I’m terribly soft-hearted when it comes to my pet, and since I’m not much of a sadist, I don’t like to see her sad.

 

However, with some little rules pet has, I don’t feel like a minimal punishment every time she breaks one would be productive. She’s the type of person that if you give her some wiggle room, she will wiggle and wiggle until the original restriction is gone. So, punishment in the Bull Household has proven to be a pretty tricky thing, but one I’ve recently implemented has proven to be quite useful.

 

A few weeks ago, pet forgot to read an assignment I gave her the night before. Being the first time this had happened, I was a bit stuck - what do I do about that? It’s easy to say “punish her!”, but what could I do to assure it would never happen again?

I had her wear a rather large sign. It read “I forgot to do my reading assignment”, and she had to wear it the entire day - class and all. Simple, amusing, and VERY effective.

 

Now, when I give her an assignment or chore, I can threaten her failure with the ‘Sign of Shame’, which is just embarrassing enough to keep her motivation high. As an added bonus for me, it’s also hilarious.

[Guest taryn of arendelle]

I know a lot of Daddies and littles speak out against this, but we use the ignoring technique. For us it's the equivalent of time out because we're LDR, and the length of it depends on the severity of my action. He tells me when it will take place and end. It gives me time to think things over, such as coming up with an appropriate apology, but it also gives him time to cool down after being disappointed. It's tough on me because I'm so used to talking to him daily, but it works for us.

 

Ignoring, to me, does seem pretty abusive. But given that you are told when it will begin and end so you're not left in the dark with him ignoring you without you realizing, then I don't see a problem with it to be honest. You have parameters so it sounds like a fair punishment. But for me, I don't know if Papa and I could do that because I don't get to talk to him all day and he often likes to have alone time at night so our talking time is very limited.

[Guest CherryMommy]

I think other actions for little include: time out in the corner, wrtiting assignments that discuss what they did wrong, lose of privileges such as tv time or internet time, and extra chores, denial of sweets and snacks.

 

I know a lot of Daddies and littles speak out against this, but we use the ignoring technique. For us it's the equivalent of time out because we're LDR, and the length of it depends on the severity of my action. He tells me when it will take place and end. It gives me time to think things over, such as coming up with an appropriate apology, but it also gives him time to cool down after being disappointed. It's tough on me because I'm so used to talking to him daily, but it works for us.

 

I do enjoy using time out in the corner, and am working on getting her a time out mat for her when I come out to visit again. Her loosing her privileges is actually great too. Denial of her cake pops would be the absolute worst...and while I think it is a good idea, I might hold back on that for the meantime. Thank you for your suggestions.  

[Kitten]

I think the only punishments Daddy has for me are spankings or taking away apple juice from me, since it's one of my favorite things ever. But I can think of a few extra, like:

• Time outs ( I don't like this punishment personally because I have separation anxiety)
• Loss of game time (I play my 3DS at night before bed, so that would be taken away)
• Earlier bedtime

..Though I haven't been punished yet, because I love being a good girl and getting praised, hehe. (/ω＼)

[Guest Sae]

There's a thread about this in the Daddies hang out! I suggest you check out there.  :3 It's probably not good to have a bunch of repetitive topics! 

[Daddy&Angelpet]

I have been adjusting and adding to angelpet's rules and punishments for a while now. We can go ahead and share with you our current Punishment List if it helps anyone out. There are 5 levels of punishments that are issued according to the severity of her rule breaking. Here is the Tumblr link for it as well.

 

LEVEL 1 - “What a cute little brat you’ve been!”

• Lecture - Kitten will have a serious talk with Daddy about her behavior.
• Lines - Kitten will write sentences of what kitten has done wrong or how she should act better. (This punishment can become more severe depending on the content.)
• No Sweets - Kitten will not be able to have desert or any other sweets for the night. 
• Likes - Kitten should look through specific, embarrassing search terms on Tumblr until she finds 10 likes to show Daddy. (cunnilingus, fellatio, flogging, tail plug, rope play, pet play)

 

LEVEL 2 - “You should know better, little girl!”

• Public Apology - Kitten must explain to her followers on Tumblr why she has been a bad girl.
• No Furniture - Kitten cannot sit on any furniture with Daddy.
• Hard Spankies - Kitten will receive super hard spanking by hand or other tools she does not enjoy.
• Orgasm Denial - Kitten will be denied any type of orgasm release until permission is granted.
• Essay - Kitten must write an essay about her bad behavior and tell Daddy how she plans to be a good girl (length determined by Daddy.) 

 

LEVEL 3 - “How dare you, my pet!”

• Continuous Forced Orgasms - Kitten will be forced to cum over and over again for as long as Daddy pleases.
• Kneeling - Kitten will kneel with proper posture on a hard surface while nude for a specified time.
• No Speaking - Kitten is not permitted to speak until commanded. 
• Corner/Time Out - Kitten has to put her nose on a certain spot in the corner until time out is over.
• Continuous Forced Orgasms - Kitten will be forced to cum over and over again for as long as Daddy pleases.

 

LEVEL 4 - “You’ve really done it this time, little one!”

• No Eye Contact - Kitten is not allowed to make eye contact with Daddy until commanded.
• Grounded - Kitten will be grounded from Tumblr for a specified time.
• No Toys - Kitten will not be allowed to play with any of her toys.
• Teasing - Kitten will be tied up and must watch Daddy play with her treat without being able to touch or taste.
• Clamps - Kitten will wear nipple clamps while being teased. 

 

LEVEL 5 - “You’ve been a very bad girl and you’ll learn your lesson!”

• Kitten Shaming - Kitten must wear a sign that states her offense and have her picture taken and possibly displayed on Tumblr.
• Watching - Kitten must watch very naughty videos that she finds too lewd while Daddy watches her. 
• No Touching - Kitten is not allowed to touch Daddy for a specified time.

[princessandthesailor]

We do a lot of corner time for my small transgressions. When he's home he does spankings or a slap across the face for more moderate or severe issues. If he's gone, I have to administer it myself over the phone or Skype and will keep doing it until he's satisfied with either the color of my skin or the noise he hears if we're on the phone. The worst punishment I've ever had was a denial of a bedtime call.

[Trixie]

wow, I'm seeing some really good punishments here... If i had some i probably couldn't take silent treatment, perhaps orgasm denial or continual continuous orgasm, but this all makes me wonder what kind of punishments will my future daddy come up with.

[Guest CherryMommy]

Thank you to all responded on this topic. I hadn't been online in a little while because I moved from NY to WA, so it took a little adjusting. Anyway, I hope to be on the forums every now and then.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

My punishments vary on the severity of my bad behavior. My Daddy will spank me, give me corner time, write lines, or loss of privileges. I think those could easily work over a ldr as well.

[LB Chris]

Loss of unnecessary internet privileges can work (work or emergencies allowed but checked on) but no social media, gaming, etc.

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

The very knowledge that I have done something wrong is punishment to me. A proper punishment spanking is absolutely different to a maintenance one. I take punishment very seriously. I certainly don't act bad to get one! I have only ever had two punishment spankings in the five months I have belonged to my daddy.

I certainly do not enjoy them. Being his good girl is paramount to me.

Many little girls and submissives love punishment, which to me makes them worthless as a correction technique.

Punishment is serious. It's not for fun or for sexual kicks, it's to show they have behaved wrongly, and to put them off doing it again.

Just sadly not everyone sees it the same.

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

Bumping!

[Bart]

I get what you mean MyDaddyMyWorld, and they are in fact different things. There's real punishment, and there's playful punishment. The specific nature of those punishments differs per sub or little, depending on what is playful to them and what is real punishment for them.

[MadameButterfly]

I totally agree with MyDaddyMyWorld. Just knowing I did something bad enough that deserves a spanking can make me start crying and feel really bad. I love being daddy's good girl and I don't like ever needing to be punished. But I do know there is a difference from punishments, and playful punishments that aren't really punishments at all.

[Princess Joe Joe]

I agree with MyDaddyMyWorld (as per usual ha). About two weeks ago I got a spanking, I kept rolling my eyes, and I was crying and my tummy dropped from absolute anger and sadness at my lack of submission and at angering him. I am harder on myself then he is most of the time. I feel like the mood and general setting of a punishment is very distinct. I don't like it >~<

[Guest Onceuponatime123]

I can also share my finalised system of punishment and reward.

My little has 13 rules at the moment, like: wake up time, bedtime, screen time, good morning and night message, nap time, walking time, daily studying, etc.

From some of those rules she gets rewards in term of what we call "bonus hours", for instance as rule she has a minimum of 2 main meal a day plus a snack, but if she eats 3 meals she gets 30 minutes bonus.
If she studies more than what it is expected from her she will get bonus hours etc.

Once a week we will check how many hours she got and she can spend them as she please from a list of reward: extra bedtime, extra screen time, taking away a punishment and so on.

Breaking one of the rules has consequences in terms of bonus hours taken away from her, some spanks, or both hours taken away plus spank if repeated a certain number of times. She also has some exercising punishments depending on which rules she breaks.

So far earning bonus time is more difficult compare to the punishments she gets because I don't want her to take away punishments so easily and beside that she should really earn the rewards and have her motivation high.

OFC this is all done together with her.

Tomorrow we start with this system to try out if it works properly.
 

What I can share also is that she had a period where she couldn't or wouldn't respect almost any rule anymore and so after 2-3 punishments I decided to put the rules on hold till she would start again. What I mean is that if your little is a sweetheart and not so bratty it doesn't make any sense to punish her constantly as it creates only a bad vibe for both.

I hope this add some idea and if you have any suggestion please feel free to reply to that


 

[ChibiUsagi]

I completely agree with MyDaddyMyWorld. For me, most of the time, knowing that I messed up or knowing that I broke a rule gives me so much guilt. Knowing that my Daddy is disappointed in me as well really makes me feel really bad. So most of the time I don't feel better until I have been punished somehow for disappointing my Daddy.