What to do... how to cope?

[GothicPrincess]

Hi, so I'm new to this community and have done my research on what it's all about. I talked about it to my fiance and he doesn't feel awkward at all with me being a little, but says he doesn't want to act like a daddy which i said i was okay with. It's confusing me now though cause he is now doing some things that a daddy would do and a fiance in a vanilla relationship would not do but still says the same thing. It's confusing my mind and sort of making my emotions go everywhere because of the mixed signals. I would really appreciate any advice on how i could deal with this.

[Guest O_rapscallions]

Wait he still says that he doesn't want to act like a daddy? When you say he's doing daddy things what do you mean?

[GothicPrincess]

He'll help wash me in the shower for instance and talk to me like I'm little when I'm playing. He also takes my binky away when i tickle him a lot and then aftercare... but still says he's not interested in doing anything involving ddlg

[Guest O_rapscallions]

I'm not sure how y'all work but maybe he wants you to have a "daddy" outside of him? Have you talked to him about that?

[LittlePupRune]

Maybe he feels uncomfortable being called a daddy, and possibly doesn't want to take on all that the role entails but he might be willing to do some of the things without being called a "daddy"

[Little Illy]

Then dont label it - it seems he is warming up to the dynamic. Most people are put off because of the titles due to obvious reasons. I suggest you let things unfold naturally as they are. He may surprise you and be a closet CG without even knowing it. And when you get him involved into it, once he sees it isnt anything untoward, he could accept the title.

 

Just roll with it and see what happens. Take it as a good sign he is involving himself while you are being little.

[Guest SUeB]

Do people really think adding someone else to the relationship is a valid idea? Has the op said anything about being poly?

Being a Daddy is nothing to do with being called that, or even recognising certain traits within themselves. My Daddy had never even considered that kind of dynamic or "label" before He met me, but He's the most natural Daddy I have ever known.

[Guest kirababygirl]

He'll help wash me in the shower for instance and talk to me like I'm little when I'm playing. He also takes my binky away when i tickle him a lot and then aftercare... but still says he's not interested in doing anything involving ddlg

Like it took you a while to see you were a little it may take him a while to figure out he is a Daddy. I would gentle point out to him the things he does that are Daddy like or softly call him Daddy when he does it...You have to remember for some it is hard to be called that without think it is bad.

[GothicPrincess]

Thank you everyone, i think I'm going to do what kirababygirl suggested