question for littles (or anyone really♡)

[milkeelu]

hihi all♡

 

so im new here [to the forum as well as the community, everything] and i had a question that i wanted to ask but wasn't sure where to ask - 

 

whats the difference between a little and a normal person anyway? 

 

ive read through some of the threads and with the exception of things like pacis or diapers, it seems to be that liking pink or dresses or head pats or cute things are universally adored by girls? [of course i could be wrong, idek]

 

but yeh just curious! 

 

idk if i'm a little or anything but this all seems interesting and i'd love to try it out someday mebbe ♡

 

 

[Guest SUeB]

I don't like any of those things you have mentioned. None of them. Those things don't make someone a little. We aren't all the same. With me its a naive, innocent attitude, an emotional state. In some ways i guess i regress a little, act and feel more childlike (but not childish - two very different things). I feel needy, and a little clingy, clamouring for cuddles, and have a wide eyed joyfulness. Not easy to explain in every detail. But thats a start.

[milkeelu]

I don't like any of those things you have mentioned. None of them. Those things don't make someone a little. We aren't all the same. With me its a naive, innocent attitude, an emotional state. In some ways i guess i regress a little, act and feel more childlike (but not childish - two very different things). I feel needy, and a little clingy, clamouring for cuddles, and have a wide eyed joyfulness. Not easy to explain in every detail. But thats a start.

 

hihi thanks for the response!

 

i think i should've asked in a more specific way - i know everyone feels differently on the inside because that is true for most things in life - i suppose i meant the tangible material things that seems to be commonly liked by littles also seems to be commonly liked by girls in general, and if that means most girls in general are also little? im not really good at phrasing sorryy 

[Guest SUeB]

Well maybe that's just because most littles are females.

[Guest Fros†beard]

While I'm not a little myself, I feel it's the same as with BDSM as a whole; all the gear in the world won't help you if the spark's not there.

[Guest Centree]

Eh, it's a touchy a long debated subject best lest alone. Some see it as a kink all the way to some see it as an okay coping mechanism for their mental disorders. At the end of the day just be you and do what makes you happy, no need to label to fit on or feel accepted. Little can be anything you like. It is a bit ignorant to think all girls like dresses and pink. Just like all littles or middles or people in general don't all like the same things. Don't look at life with such pre conceived notions and you will learn a lot! Every person different and every story their own.

I hate dresses, favorite colors green, Star Wars over Disney and I might bite you if you give me random head pats

Edited September 6, 2017 by Centree

[littleApril]

Eh, it's a touchy a long debated subject best lest alone. Some see it as a kink all the way to some see it as an okay coping mechanism for their mental disorders. At the end of the day just be you and do what makes you happy, no need to label to fit on or feel accepted. Little can be anything you like. It is a bit ignorant to think all girls like dresses and pink. Just like all littles or middles or people in general don't all like the same things. Don't look at life with such pre conceived notions and you will learn a lot! Every person different and every story their own.

I hate dresses, favorite colors green, Star Wars over Disney and I might bite you if you give me random head pats

this so much this!

 

be whatever you want to be and don't let anyone else tell you it's not okay or it's wrong.

if you want to be little be little make your little what you want it to be.

 

for me it's neither kink nor coping mechanism just i don't know i sometimes just feel little 

[Guest infinitecases]

I don't necessarily think being little is about the materialistic side of it.. ie the clothes and the colours etc. Of course, most girls do like those things but being in little space is more of a mindset? I guess everyone is different but not every girl is childish or wants to act like that! They might indeed love pretty and cute things but they might despise the idea of being seen as a child etc. Every little is different and they all have different personalities so I guess being a little can really be whatever you make it to be!

 

I personally (in my situation) see being little as being a mindset or a way to feel safe and loved and it helps me destress or cheer up. The ddlg dynamic in itself is quite different to a normal vanilla relationship so there's also the difference there where 'normal' girls might not want all the rules, punishment and treatment that a DD would provide. 

[milkeelu]

I don't necessarily think being little is about the materialistic side of it.. ie the clothes and the colours etc. Of course, most girls do like those things but being in little space is more of a mindset? I guess everyone is different but not every girl is childish or wants to act like that! They might indeed love pretty and cute things but they might despise the idea of being seen as a child etc. Every little is different and they all have different personalities so I guess being a little can really be whatever you make it to be!

 

I personally (in my situation) see being little as being a mindset or a way to feel safe and loved and it helps me destress or cheer up. The ddlg dynamic in itself is quite different to a normal vanilla relationship so there's also the difference there where 'normal' girls might not want all the rules, punishment and treatment that a DD would provide.

hihi thanks for the answer!

 

i'll also go read up on it some more but could you elaborate on how the dynamic is different? is it vastly so?

 

much thanks uwu

[LittlePupRune]

hihi thanks for the answer!

 

i'll also go read up on it some more but could you elaborate on how the dynamic is different? is it vastly so?

 

much thanks uwu

 

The dynamic is different because it's very much a power exchange, with one person giving up some (or all) power to the other. Vanilla relationships are built to be equal whereas cg/l relationships fall under the bdsm umbrella because of that unequal power dynamic. Cg/l most often comes with rules, punishments, decisions being made for the submissive party by the dominant party.

 

Now as to whether or not it is vastly different or not depends on the relationship. Some people have a very mild power exchange with only a few things, others do whats called a Total Power Exchange (TPE), and varying shades inbetween. It really depends on the wants and needs of the people involved.

[ISOSanity]

I don't like any of those things you have mentioned. None of them. Those things don't make someone a little. We aren't all the same. With me its a naive, innocent attitude, an emotional state. In some ways i guess i regress a little, act and feel more childlike (but not childish - two very different things). I feel needy, and a little clingy, clamouring for cuddles, and have a wide eyed joyfulness. Not easy to explain in every detail. But thats a start.

 

Perfect! That's exactly how I feel, and I've felt like a minority in this. Glad to know there are others out there that I can identify with!

 

Would you mind if I copy/paste the description on my profile? (with or without your username attached, whichever you prefer!)

Edited September 6, 2017 by ISOSanity

[LittlePupRune]

ive read through some of the threads and with the exception of things like pacis or diapers, it seems to be that liking pink or dresses or head pats or cute things are universally adored by girls? [of course i could be wrong, idek]

 

Interesting thing, may partner is a little, but in littlespace she much rather prefers gender neutral things, and while predominantly its "cute" its not cute in the commonly accepted way but what she herself considers cute. Being little is not reliant upon the gear, but the attitude and mindset. Before we had any gear she was still my little. Had she not had the mindset or the desire to be little but we still got the gear, that would not make her a little. Being "little" is an aspect of the person themselves rather than any gear they may or may not have.

[milkeelu]

Interesting thing, may partner is a little, but in littlespace she much rather prefers gender neutral things, and while predominantly its "cute" its not cute in the commonly accepted way but what she herself considers cute. Being little is not reliant upon the gear, but the attitude and mindset. Before we had any gear she was still my little. Had she not had the mindset or the desire to be little but we still got the gear, that would not make her a little. Being "little" is an aspect of the person themselves rather than any gear they may or may not have.

i thinks it's mebbe me being misinformed on the topic but from what i've browsed i've always thought that little meant to like cute things that generally children like?

 

i didn't know there was any attitude or mindset? :0

[LittlePupRune]

i thinks it's mebbe me being misinformed on the topic but from what i've browsed i've always thought that little meant to like cute things that generally children like?

 

i didn't know there was any attitude or mindset? :0

 

It's not always things children like, my little still likes things as a little that are more grown up (for example training her dog). It's more about the innocence and trust that you feel (for some people that goes hand-in-hand with age regression but that is not a must).

 

Just because [an adult] likes disney (which is very common) through adulthood and may like to wear cute clothes does not make them a little since they still act, think, and behave maturely. A little on the other hand will defer to a caregiver (if they have one) and take on a more innocent (wide-eyed wonder comes to mind) approach in their dealings.

 

Cg/l is not all about being like a child or having a caregiver. It's something that you can tailor to yourself depending on what works.

[milkeelu]

It's not always things children like, my little still likes things as a little that are more grown up (for example training her dog). It's more about the innocence and trust that you feel (for some people that goes hand-in-hand with age regression but that is not a must).

 

Just because [an adult] likes disney (which is very common) through adulthood and may like to wear cute clothes does not make them a little since they still act, think, and behave maturely. A little on the other hand will defer to a caregiver (if they have one) and take on a more innocent (wide-eyed wonder comes to mind) approach in their dealings.

 

Cg/l is not all about being like a child or having a caregiver. It's something that you can tailor to yourself depending on what works.

thank you for the explanation! ^~^

 

i still can't say i fully understand but i'll research some more into it. i can't seem to draw a line between little and not little, it seems like only a vague difference to me

[Guest SUeB]

Perfect! That's exactly how I feel, and I've felt like a minority in this. Glad to know there are others out there that I can identify with!

 

Would you mind if I copy/paste the description on my profile? (with or without your username attached, whichever you prefer!)

Of course, it's up to you if you credit me. I guess I'd be flattered if you did, though

[Guest infinitecases]

The dynamic is different because it's very much a power exchange, with one person giving up some (or all) power to the other. Vanilla relationships are built to be equal whereas cg/l relationships fall under the bdsm umbrella because of that unequal power dynamic. Cg/l most often comes with rules, punishments, decisions being made for the submissive party by the dominant party.

 

Now as to whether or not it is vastly different or not depends on the relationship. Some people have a very mild power exchange with only a few things, others do whats called a Total Power Exchange (TPE), and varying shades inbetween. It really depends on the wants and needs of the people involved.

 

 

hihi thanks for the answer!

 

i'll also go read up on it some more but could you elaborate on how the dynamic is different? is it vastly so?

 

much thanks uwu

 

This I personally feel that my ddlg relationship falls under BDSM - my daddy is my dom and I am his sub. Whilst this does not stand for every ddlg relationship, I'll just give my two cents on my personal experience! A relationship like this has rules, guidelines and practices that aren't followed in vanilla relationships. There are a few examples like soft and hard limits, aftercare or punishments etc. I guess you wouldn't expect a vanilla relationship where the (for this situation's sake) boyfriend punishes you for not obeying him or for ignoring his rules/wishes. A vanilla relationship is one which is much more 'independent' in many aspects. You wouldn't expect to start a relationship with someone for them to shortly after outline their rules for what you can or cannot do. I submit fully to my daddy, and in everything I do, his rules and wishes come first. I'm not entirely sure how to explain, but there are so many websites and articles online which explain the dynamic and it's differences!! My need for submission and to be dominated is extremely strong and whilst this isn't the case for many littles, it's just a feeling that's hard to describe. 

 

The dynamic is very intricate and every relationship is different and suited to the needs of the dd/lg but there are rules that underlie every single one that cannot be ignored if you want to follow through with a successful and well communicated bdsm relationship.  

[luci-la-carte]

This I personally feel that my ddlg relationship falls under BDSM - my daddy is my dom and I am his sub. Whilst this does not stand for every ddlg relationship, I'll just give my two cents on my personal experience! A relationship like this has rules, guidelines and practices that aren't followed in vanilla relationships. There are a few examples like soft and hard limits, aftercare or punishments etc. I guess you wouldn't expect a vanilla relationship where the (for this situation's sake) boyfriend punishes you for not obeying him or for ignoring his rules/wishes. A vanilla relationship is one which is much more 'independent' in many aspects. You wouldn't expect to start a relationship with someone for them to shortly after outline their rules for what you can or cannot do. I submit fully to my daddy, and in everything I do, his rules and wishes come first. I'm not entirely sure how to explain, but there are so many websites and articles online which explain the dynamic and it's differences!! My need for submission and to be dominated is extremely strong and whilst this isn't the case for many littles, it's just a feeling that's hard to describe.

 

The dynamic is very intricate and every relationship is different and suited to the needs of the dd/lg but there are rules that underlie every single one that cannot be ignored if you want to follow through with a successful and well communicated bdsm relationship.

hihi! thank you for explaining i think this actually clears up a lot of the questions i had!

 

if you have time tho - just one more; if a ddlg relationship is kind of like a dom and sub relationship, (or is one), what about the littles who don't have daddies? what makes them a little?

 

much thanks ^^

 

(edit: oops, i posted under the username i first created but lost the password to.. i guess my phone saved it .___. this is milkeelu btw)

Edited September 7, 2017 by luci-la-carte

[LittlePupRune]

if you have time tho - just one more; if a ddlg relationship is kind of like a dom and sub relationship, (or is one), what about the littles who don't have daddies? what makes them a little?

 

What makes a little a little is themselves. Same as you would never tell a submissive or dominant they are not one if they aren't in a relationship. It'd be like telling an athlete that they actually aren't an athlete since they aren't currently on a sports team. Being a little is an internal thing, my partner can be a little when I'm not there interacting with her. "Little" is not dependent on another person for its existence, it is an (often) integral part of the person themselves,

Edited September 7, 2017 by KittenLovesMe

[xBabydollx]

For most ppl a little is a type of sub in a D/s power exchange. This is the average meaning. There are so many things in between tho like an ageplayer (someones who regress into a child like state of mind during roleplay but there is no power exchange), then there's an adult baby which sounds like what it is. It's important to know these things can blend, u can be a little and ageplay...or u may be an adult baby and a little etc. Also, it is all a broad spectrum. Not everyone is on the same level so to speak, which is why there is no 'true' way to be a part of this lifestle or kink. It's whatever works best for u. Just know all these words and terms exist for a reason, because they 'generally' offer how most ppl view these things. Not all...but definitely most. Labels can be nice to clarify or portray to others who u are/what u are looking for. If i say i am a slave girl looking for a Master, most will have a great possibility of identifying what i possibly mean....because they know the term. Labels are not bad, but as others said, dont get stuck on them either they are not always relevant. As for being 'little' u can be girly, edgy, love pacis, hate them, watch cartoons, or love nothing but blood and gore shows. There is no 1 way to behave 'little' but what makes it diff than the average vanilla girl is the power exchange that often comes along with it.