Wondering how to proceed?

[SIS'sDaddy]

Hello everyone. I'll try to keep this brief. Just two days ago I had a very lengthy, no holds barred conversation via text with a much younger colleague from work. She is incredibly beautiful ( no exaggeration ), outgoing and as sharp as they come. She has been going through an emotional roller coaster these last few weeks as she has recently ended an 18 month abusive relationship with her former partner. She had been confiding in me and I have been extremely supportive and a bit of an emotional crutch these last months. Sometimes our conversations drifted into flirty, but didn't stay there long. In any case, two nights ago we had a 10 hour very explicit conversation that started off innocently enough with me suggesting she hit a few sites and arrange a Sugar Daddy for herself. She laughed and said she had already, and what did I think? Long story short, she she offered to model lingerie and whatever else I wanted her to, as long as she is able to call me Daddy. She also intimated a fondness for spanking and other submissive behavior.

That caught me a bit off guard, but I think I rolled with it pretty well. The conversation summed up as her shift ended, and she seemed in great spirits, with us agreeing to get together soon. The difficult part is this, she doesn't reply to texts yesterday or today. She might be getting cold feet. I am totally new to this dynamic and I think she might be embarrassed by her previous boldness, but I am keen to explore this concept with her in particular.

Is sit and wait the best way forward? I think she needs time to process what she proposed. But hey, if she is waiting to see how I respond, I could shoot myself in the foot.

Any pointers?

[Guest chilldude]

Firstly, think about who she is. If she's below you at work, it can lead to plenty of awkwardness in future if it doesn't work. If she's above you, that's...not smart. 

If you've sent a few texts, then just wait. Sending more will be pointless. The good thing for you is you're able to see her face to face anyway, and work out where she's at. 

[Persephone_Persephone]

Hmm this is tricky for several reasons.

1, you work together I'm not sure the policies in place at your work but it may be worth checking out. Neither of you want to be in hot water around that issue.

2, She just ended a relationship, an abusive one at that. Its simply too soon and sounds like a rebound. Ive done it, we all have I'm sure. Having been in a long term abusive relationship I would cling to the first man and then men who showed me the bit of care I desperately needed. She needs to be on her own, of course still be around for support if you can give it (and who knows it may grow into something more).

3, I'm a little unsure of the details but sugar daddy and daddy are two very different things. And it sounds from her offer of modeling herself in return for a daddy is the former. And that is a path I would be very careful with. Of course its your choice what you do but sugar daddies and daddy doms are worlds apart. Most littles would cringe at the thought of being compared to a sugar baby.

 

To me it sounds like she may have possibly said too much and is now thinking on it. I would proceed with caution due to the fact you work togther, shes fresh out of an abusive relationship and she's mentioning sugar daddies.

How ever you clearly have a bond. Maybe just give her a few days and ask for clarification. It seems quite classic rebound behaviour sorry to say.

Hope that helps and let us know what happens.

[SIS'sDaddy]

Good points. Poppins, the Sugar Daddy suggestion for her was to get her looking at different types of men of different backgrounds, usually older and established who who treat her like gold. She has always become involved with the "wrong guy". who in the end treat her poorly then abusively. I had no intention of ever crossing the line with her, although we all harbor our own thoughts. She brought up the idea of being my Secret dirty little girl. Then the Daddy conversation came up and she became very explicit, so I am presuming it was true, it did excite her quite a bit. She sounded so sincere. Now I think she is embarrassed, the light of day sometimes makes us regret our actions. No alcohol was involved. No coercing or heads games.

In any case we were good friends before, and I am truly concerned we're not going to get that back now that she let the cat out of the bag.

[SIS'sDaddy]

Well, just thought I'd share an update. I read everything I could find on this topic up until going to work last Saturday. However, last Friday she had texted me and apologized for ghosting on me. Says she does that when she is anxious. We had hours of good conversation and I brought up the material I had found and directed the conversation somewhat. It was "enlightening" to say the least. She is interested in exploring more, but is non-committal at best. But it's new, and I'm in no way pressuring her.

I'll continue to research more and explore the dynamic in order to know better how to proceed.