Introduction & and your thoughts

[babysdaddy1961]

Hi all!

 

I am a daddy who lives in CT who is new here but not new to the scene. I just came across this site from a search and so far it seems very cool! 

 

 

I do have a question for you guys as I am in the beginning stages with a new little and facing something that I never have before. We are still in the information gathering stages and she is very new to the scene and has absolutely no experience so I will be her very first daddy. I currently have her in some light training to ease her in.

 

Here's my issue......She is 27 and I am 55 and she wants things to be very realistic. Basically what she is telling me is she wants to be in 100% little mode in front of friends and family including hers and that includes being punished with her panties around her knees for all to see her privates. Right now I am letting her run with her thoughts but I know realistically this just is not gonna happen. We have not met in person yet so I do not want to have this conversation with her through messaging because she may be too disappointed. We need to meet first and then I can tame her a bit even though what we are talking about is awesome because who here doesn't want to be as realistic as possible everywhere we go? I have been feeling her out to determine if she is a whacko and there are positive signs that she is not otherwise I'd be running the other way at this point. This is why we need to meet first and we are doing that next weekend. Apart from her family/friends exposure desires she is a perfect little girl for this daddy from what I gather so far. 

 

I would really like to hear anyone's thoughts and ideas on creative ways that I can fullfill her exposure needs and still be perfectly respectful to those around us. I do not want my friends and family included in the scene as that is crazy but I do not mind her being immature. You know what I mean, there are ways to stay in the mode without people knowing what is really going on. 

 

I appreciate your insight!

 

 

 

[MrWrongUk]

i dont think any person would take it so far irl infront of there own or others family..it sounds more like fantasy so i would not worry. If she is for real i think you should both try keep it on the low sexual wise..maybe skype each other before you meet? Edited September 4, 2017 by UKDaddy4Little

[babysdaddy1961]

I appreciate you taking the time to reply 

Edited September 4, 2017 by babysdaddy1961

[MrWrongUk]

Sorry if that sounded condescending. You are older and wiser than me im sure.

Hope it works out for you both

[LittleBabyKitty]

I appreciate you taking the time to reply but without trying to sound like a jerk if you read the rest of my post past the "not meeting yet" part you would see that I got this and wasn't seeking advice.

Your title says "Introduction & YOUR THOUGHTS" ...so I too assumed that you wanted advice, and was about to give you some as well, but I see you're not looking for that, so best of luck.

[babysdaddy1961]

I agree, I changed my response because I realized how it sounded. I would love advice

[babysdaddy1961]

I also apologize to UKDaddyforlittle if that sounded wierd

[MrWrongUk]

Its all good.i did not know you can edit..i will do the same as i did not word my opinion in the best way.

[babysdaddy1961]

Nope your response was perfect

[LittleBabyKitty]

It sounds like she has some exhibitionist tendencies.  Like a need for people to see her inappropriately.  As you get to know her, try to figure out where this stems from and ask her if there are other ways to satisfy her needs in a way that won't get her arrested or sent off to a mental hospital.  She can be arrested for indecent exposure if one person freaks out enough to report her.  That wouldn't be good at all.

 

Write a list of possible consequences for her that might happen if she exposes herself publicly.

 

Straight up ask her if this specific thing is purely fantasy or if she really wants that to happen.  Maybe if you two get close enough, you can make some videos together from just neck down, or you can just be behind the camera punishing her how she wants because it seems like she wants to be seen.  Maybe uploading these to a porn site keeping your identities anonymous will quench her thirst or what have you.

 

Sounds extreme, just a thought.  Again, best of luck, and just communicate with her as much as possible.  Try to talk to "big girl" her when she is NOT in little space to get more clarity.

[babysdaddy1961]

Thank you, and thank you for letting me redeem myself from a terrible first impression because I am far from being an ***hole. 

 

I love your ideas!

[Guest SUeB]

You say no right from the word go. Simple as that. She is an adult and should hopefully have the sense to see how utterly unrealistic and inappropriate that is. Maybe she's just playing up the role as it's online right now. But if she's serious, that's a bit of an issue that needs dealing with.

[Guest SUeB]

Reading further, i have to say I have no idea how you could help her express that fantasy in a safer way.

[babysdaddy1961]

SUeB, I think you are correct in saying that she is playing up the role right now so that's why I am doing the same. As I said, within our conversations there are positive signs that she is a sane person. She has a decent job, lives alone and there are people in her life that she would not do these things in front of. We are planning on meeting this weekend and I plan on bring all of this up. I think if she really wants to experience being exposed like that and having never done it, I could most likely "stage" a small party of kink friendly friends but that would take a bit of time because I'd need to find a few locally that I can trust. I do have some contacts through fetlife and I'm sure I can have a small get together. It would actually be kinda fun if they are game. 

 

She is very shy so I will guarantee that this will only happen after she gets more comfortable. 

 

Thank you for your reply!

[Guest SUeB]

If you're on fet, look for local events. She can express her kinks there, with people that won't judge. Obviously I'm not talking about the social munches set in local bars, etc, lol.

[Guest kirababygirl]

I wish you good luck...I would never want to be punished in front of others...even if i deserve it and here is why. I would be embarrassed not of them seeing my parts although i do believe those are for my Daddy and his alone when i find him...I would be embarrassed by how naughty i was and being corrected for it just humiliating. I do want to live the lifestyle 24/7 but not everyone is into it and if Daddy corrected me in front of my real Dad...ummm no not good. I think it would be enough to get a very stern Daddy voice with an understanding i would pay later would be enough to tame me, I think.

[Guest SUeB]

I wish you good luck...I would never want to be punished in front of others...even if i deserve it and here is why. I would be embarrassed not of them seeing my parts although i do believe those are for my Daddy and his alone when i find him...I would be embarrassed by how naughty i was and being corrected for it just humiliating. I do want to live the lifestyle 24/7 but not everyone is into it and if Daddy corrected me in front of my real Dad...ummm no not good. I think it would be enough to get a very stern Daddy voice with an understanding i would pay later would be enough to tame me, I think.

I get you. Punishment to me is not a kink, or a turn on. If i have earned one, i feel terrible. The thought that i have in any way disappointed my Daddy hurts really deeply. Plus humiliation (public or private) is actually a hard limit. Had enough of that in real life to want it for kicks, lol.

But yep, we are all different. We all have different turn ons and turn offs.