I break all of daddies rules...

[Guest Babycakes27]

Currently being punished right now...

it seems like everything I do I get punished for it and I don't even mean to be a bad girl.

Daddy used to not be this strict but because of my recent challenging to Daddy he is much more strict. I asked him to be more strict and give me rules but now its like i'm always getting punished. Daddy says I have to learn a lesson but I just want to be loved.

We are long distance couple but had a vacation together last month and he punished me then but I always escaped... now I can't escape his punishments.

How do I tell daddy what I want without it seeming like I am challenging him or telling him what to do???

[Guest SUeB]

You tell him that you want more from the relationship than discipline and punishment. You talk to him in an adult conversation. And you also ask yourself why you insist on breaking so many rules, and why do you do it so often.

[Guest Babycakes27]

I am naturally a very independent person but with him I try to be more dependent to make him feel more Dominant. I really don't mean to break any rules like talking back or not saying please but it just happens. I asked daddy to be more strict with me so maybe I will learn to adjust to being a bit more submissive.

I also did try talking to him in an adult conversation to tell him I want more praises and attention for being good, but he always says maybe... and then being I whine I don't get anything.

I really don't know how else to get on his good side, because he always says I'm so bratty or I whine too much when I don't get my way.

 

You tell him that you want more from the relationship than discipline and punishment. You talk to him in an adult conversation. And you also ask yourself why you insist on breaking so many rules, and why do you do it so often.

[Guest SUeB]

I cannot imagine any genuine Dominant appreciating someone trying to do things to help him feel more dominant. If you agreed to obey his rules, then he expects you to do that, as most would. If you identify as a brat, and he likes that kind of babygirl (or whatever you identify as) then that's ok. But if he doesn't like bratty behaviour, maybe you just aren't compatible.

It's about being with someone you get on with, and that you share relationship ideals with. Just because he calls himself a daddy, and you call yourself a babygirl (for example), that doesn't mean you will work as a couple. Or put with a different dynamic...just because someone is a sub, and someone is a Dom, they won't necessarily have anything in common, or work well together.

[Guest Babycakes27]

I understand what you are saying and it makes sense. My boyfriend and I didn't start out as a ddlg couple, but he suggested it to me and I agreed.

[Guest Babycakes27]

We work great as a couple and have alot in common. Our communication is great but as ddlg couple I feel there is alot for us to learn because in that aspect our conversations and support is lacking.

[Guest SUeB]

Well just keep talking and learning, and see which direction it takes you, either closer together or otherwise. Good luck.

[Guest Babycakes27]

thanks for your help!

[DaddyPandaBear]

When a Daddy gets told he needs to be more strict, this can often be a bit of a blow to our ego. Try a day where you go along with his rules and punishments, and then at the end of the day ask him how you did. Then maybe talk with him to figure out how to compromise, and talk to him about it. He's probably just as insecure about it as you are. 

[Guest Babycakes27]

When a Daddy gets told he needs to be more strict, this can often be a bit of a blow to our ego. Try a day where you go along with his rules and punishments, and then at the end of the day ask him how you did. Then maybe talk with him to figure out how to compromise, and talk to him about it. He's probably just as insecure about it as you are. 

 

That's a subtle and great idea, thanks for the suggestion. I am going to try this once I am off of my punishment. I never thought that by me telling him to be more strict he would take it as an offense.