Question to littles!

[Guest Lucio]

hey there! if youre a little/mid i've got a little question for you..

 

if you send a friend request to someone, do you expect them to break the ice or would you rather do this yourself? and if the conversation isn't going as fluent/well as you were hoping, would you rather let them know you would prefer not to talk or just stop messaging?

 

 

thanks for reading

 

 

-Rando

[wanderer]

I have not sent many friends request but the are almost all to people I have already chatted with in the chat room. Or with whom I have had some go between with in the forums. I do not see adding friends as primarily about private messaging but as a reminder that i have connected with the individual on some level at a prior point and would like to continue the process. 

 

I would actually prefer if you could send a message with a friend request. I occasionally get some I'll ignore because I don't know the reasons for them. Latter I may accept the request but feel bad because they may have had something specific they wished to ask in private. 

[Chubbyprincess84]

I find it poor etiquette to send a friend request without initiating conversation on the forum first. I have already had 3 friend requests from people who identify as a daddy dom but have had no conversations on the forum with anyone yet. Two were before I even posted my introduction, and one was after I did. My intro clearly states that I am not looking for a dd and that if you are one, to please not send me a friend request. In the Facebook groups I am in, this is is against the rules, but unfortunately, that is not a rule here.

[Guest babygirlally]

I tend to be on the shy side, so if I do send a friend request I might wait and see if they will respond first, and maybe a day or two later send one myself if they haven't sent anything yet. It will all depend on the person, but I prefer for the other to send first.

[Guest ~*~Sachita~*~]

Generally, I only send friend requests to people who I want to start a conversation with or say something privately. 

 

However, it took me a while to arrive at that understanding.  A person who has recently joined the site may not be able to infer what everyone else on the site is doing.  It's not like that is one of the listed rules, so how would a new person know?

 

As far as ghosting, closure is more important to me than injured pride. 

Edited September 4, 2017 by Sachita

[VintageFox]

If you send the friend request, it's more polite to start the conversation.

 

I think most people prefer to be told no rather than ignored. For me personally, I find it easiest to just say I want to end the conversation (because of X/Y/Z). "I don't think this is going to work out, because [i'm not into the thing you're into/we have different interests or desires/etc]". Sometimes ghosting leads to the person messaging you later asking why you haven't messaged them back. 

[Guest SUeB]

I would never send a random friend request without previous interaction, nor would I accept a random one under the same circumstances