Need help/advice. I feel lost.

[KittenFear]

Hello, my name is Ali. Honestly call me anything. I'm 19, almost 20 and am... So lost. Let me explain

 

A long time ago, through my own curiosity and lack of awareness, I stumbled upon the DD/lg lifestyle. I was 14 and had no idea what I was getting myself into, though it was all online. In my head it was fine but I was young and dumb. I never dropped it though and ended up developing a need to be a little. Mind you I haven't had a Caregiver in real life, my mother knows nothing about it, and I... I desperately need little space. I need my sippy and my stuffies and my freaking coloring book and my bows but... I can't. I've needed to drop into little space for the past Two years and I can't. My mother won't understand and now I have to find another job just so we can move out of the apartment we're currently sharing with someone who is emotionally abusive. And I cannot just leave her and find a Daddy because she's on disability and I just need a solution before I lose my MIND..

 

I'm sorry if this doesn't fit the general discussion or you think I'm not a little simply because I have not history with a Caregiver. I just... Needed somewhere to say it.

[SoulEater]

Hi fear,

 

Welcome to the forum.. this is a great olace fornyou to find little space and speak to other little friends etc... as for your situation, finding a DD/CG in my opinion should be last thing to think about.. id concentrate on getting you and your mother somehwere safe.

 

This forum is a great outlet to many littles who cannot for their own personal reasons be little outside of here.

 

As for the end of your post.. noone will think your not little just coz you havent had a DD/CG.. you are you.. thats all that matters

[Dominari]

I would bet that there are a lot of littles that are still in the 'closet'. Many adults won't understand the concept of 'little space'. I think you can incorporate aspects of being a little into your life without it being blatantly obvious. Most girls will have stuffies so you might be able to have them without throwing off any alarms. Coloring is now seen as being very therapeutic. Tell your mom that you are using coloring to express your artistic side and relax. The sippy and bows maybe be a little bit more difficult. My little has a pacifier that she has bought and hides from the adults and uses when she needs little space. That could be an option. 

 

I would recommend being careful with finding a Caregiver. Some may take advantage of your vulnerabilities. However, finding someone that can provide guidance, support, love, and care may be beneficial. A CG that is a good listener might be able to help you get through your struggles in life and offer motivation.

 

I hope you are able to find a job soon and get out of this current situation. It sounds very stressful. I wish you the best moving forward. 

[KittenFear]

I would bet that there are a lot of littles that are still in the 'closet'. Many adults won't understand the concept of 'little space'. I think you can incorporate aspects of being a little into your life without it being blatantly obvious. Most girls will have stuffies so you might be able to have them without throwing off any alarms. Coloring is now seen as being very therapeutic. Tell your mom that you are using coloring to express your artistic side and relax. The sippy and bows maybe be a little bit more difficult. My little has a pacifier that she has bought and hides from the adults and uses when she needs little space. That could be an option. 

 

I would recommend being careful with finding a Caregiver. Some may take advantage of your vulnerabilities. However, finding someone that can provide guidance, support, love, and care may be beneficial. A CG that is a good listener might be able to help you get through your struggles in life and offer motivation.

 

I hope you are able to find a job soon and get out of this current situation. It sounds very stressful. I wish you the best moving forward. 

 

 

Hi fear,

 

Welcome to the forum.. this is a great olace fornyou to find little space and speak to other little friends etc... as for your situation, finding a DD/CG in my opinion should be last thing to think about.. id concentrate on getting you and your mother somehwere safe.

 

This forum is a great outlet to many littles who cannot for their own personal reasons be little outside of here.

 

As for the end of your post.. noone will think your not little just coz you havent had a DD/CG.. you are you.. thats all that matters

Thank you both so much i'll hold onto the advice Dominari and Icarus. I'll hopefully be having my own room wherever we move and be able to have more things but hidden. Also, i'm applying for a second job, so there's a major pluss

 

I also thought about putting up string lights! They calm me very much and may even help me. I think i can avoid using a sippy if i have some cute mint colored string lights and my mermaid coloring book. It's a coloring book for adults that i bought and my mom just smiled and said "well you always did love mermaids" so i'm glad about that! I wear bows to work and my wardrobe is mostly black clothing so hopefully this new appartment and two jobs can help me really re-do and re-think ways to go about being little!

[Guest Aquarius]

I can imagine it would be hard to go into little space when you have so much real-world 'adult' responsibility and stress. To go into little space means leaving all of that behind, which would be very difficult if you were constantly worried about people around you (or yourself).

My advice is to not worry, little space will be there for you when you are ready. Sometimes life can be tough and we need to work hard to improve our situation, but all bad things pass, and better times will come.

[KittenFear]

I can imagine it would be hard to go into little space when you have so much real-world 'adult' responsibility and stress. To go into little space means leaving all of that behind, which would be very difficult if you were constantly worried about people around you (or yourself).

 

My advice is to not worry, little space will be there for you when you are ready. Sometimes life can be tough and we need to work hard to improve our situation, but all bad things pass, and better times will come.

Thank you for the advise, Honestly. It's hard to remember that little space is there, and will always be there when i can never drop into it. It's so easy to forget when you simply can't.

[Guest secretlylittle]

I am pretty much in the same boat! Except replace mom with a husband who is disabled and not into being a DD/CG. I can definitely relate in regards to never actually having a CG but craving that attention and love. I am finally coming to accepting the fact that this is a part of me. I'm sorry I really do not have any good valid advice, but would love to chat some time!