Advice for a wanting Daddy.

[svalor]

Hello, my wife and I have been together for 14 years. A month ago I found out about ddlg. I've been reading and leaning everyday since. I'm instantly attracted to the idea of being a caregiver. I want to talk formaly to my wife about being my little. She has always shown behaviors common to being little. Her collection of Disney, and snow babies. She has stuffed animals (that gather dust, but still). I do the majority of cooking, cleaning, laundry, home repair, and managing the money. When she gets stressed she usually likes to be held and be given tons of attention. What would you recommend for a conversation opener? How would you suggest I discuss the topic? I appreciate your help. Thank you.

[Guest StonerBaby]

Hmmm...maybe sometime if your out shopping and she is instantly drawn to a stuffie just mention how cute it is and sort of step into caregiver mode in that mement and she how she reaponds then tell her you how you feel if she seems to enjoy it..or maybe surprise her with something like a coloring book or stuffie to break the ice about bringing up the topic...or maybe just subttly start behaving more caregier and see how she reaponds..but at some point need to be open about how your feeling

[svalor]

That is good advice. Are there other activities you could recommend? Are there other ways of talking about ddlg without using ddlg specific words? Edited August 24, 2017 by svalor

[Guest StonerBaby]

You could try telling her how it makes you feel to take care of her in certian ways that are more caregiver/daddy like than a regular husband and wife dynamic..that doesnt require saying anything about ddlg right off..just lets her know how you enjoy being needed by her..and just doing the little things you want to experience with her like snuggling up to watch a cute movie or encouraging her to smile and giggle more when you can see she wants to but isnt sure about letting it out...biggest thing i would say is just be patient and listen to her when you open up about this..try not to push it but show her its something you truely enjoy and want to share with her

[svalor]

This is a fantastic approach. I wouldn't have thought about coming at this from a "what I like about you needing me" way. Thank you again StonerBaby.