A Burning Topic: Semi-Straight Bonds

[Guest DucklingMike]

Alright, so this has been a question in my mind for a long time and I decided to finally ask..

 

Can straight daddies take care of little boys? And at the same time, can straight mommies take care of little girls?

 

 

I am just curious as I only see 'Straight daddy looking for little girl' and so on, and it kinda discourages myself and a couple other people that are on the LGBT side of things but not sexual at all in little space. We've been having a hard time finding caregivers that are actually real about everything just because we're the opposite gender of what their orientation is.. It sucks. It really does.

 

What are your opinions on this?

[Antoinette]

My opinion is DDlg for many people is a romantic or sexual dynamic and often cannot be seen as anything else, generally straight daddies won't engage in the dynamic with little boys because to them they see DDlg as something that is either romantic or sexual, and due to their sexuality they are just not open to looking after little boys - I would say the same goes for little girls and mommies. 

 

But, I will say that there is a large number of LGBT folk in our community and it shouldn't be too hard to find somebody who fits your needs as well as you fitting there's, you just have to be patient and look around a little.

 

Good luck.

[DavCentral]

that to me is the difference between ddlg and cg/l.

 

if theres no romantic relationship bond, its the latter you want.

[Guest Prat]

I don't see why it would be an issue in a platonic relationship.

[LittlePupRune]

that to me is the difference between ddlg and cg/l.

 

if theres no romantic relationship bond, its the latter you want.

 

I'm a little confused on how you would differentiate one as romantic/sexual and the other as not. By technicalities dd/lg is under the umbrella of cg/l. I have a sexual and romantic relationship with my little but we would not be considered dd/lg since both of us are queer, so we use cg/l. In addition, a dd/lg relationship does not need to be sexual or romantic, but that does not then remove it from being called a dd/lg dynamic.

[Guest Mittens]

Well Mike... In my opinion, yeah.... You can be straight and take care of a same sex little. But it would be difficult. The person would have to see you in a caregiving only matter, and if he was straight he would need a little girl for sexual interest meaning you would need  little sister. He can give you direction and instruction. And it would have to be platonic only because he is straight. Is it impossible? No. It would be difficult for me because of how I am. However under certain circumstances I am willing to take care of more than one little, but I would only be sexual with one of them. I would also be possessive and needy and clingy to one of them. It would be platonic, even if they are both girls, both guys, or mixed. I can only be in love with one at a time. That's provided the LG of mine in question isn't possessive and wants me and only me and not to give attention or caregiving to someone else or not. So.. variables..

[Mikaitaku]

I could see myself looking out for a male little friend. It might be the wolf part of me what is driven to take care of who I see as pack, which for me is family or friends, people who I can trust. I would not be comfortable being called daddy by a guy but I would still be able to look after one.